Ok i really don't wanna hear crap about my being to young. I want your help not your bullsh*t.
Ok i'm 13 1/2 years old i've been dating my boyfriend for over 1 year and 4 months. I love him to death and i am really getting an urge to have sex with him. But i'm scared about what to do about birth-control. If i ask my mom she will kill me and never let me see him. I am so confused and i know i can't fight the urge anymore...please help me
2007-05-27 17:44:53 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, I dont wanna judge 'cause im not the right person to do it. I know that you dont want to hear any bullsh!t but just for a moment sit and think, you got over 40 answers to your question and most of them, tell you the same thing...that you are too young for it, does that ring you a bell? all those people are not trying to bother you and annoy you, they just want to tell you from their experiences that at 13 years old you are not really ready for it, You think you are but you are not, I know your hormones are going nuts everytime you see your boyfriend but that's natural we all have experienced it, but that doesnt mean that we are going follow our hormones and have sex everytime we feel the urge. As we grow we learn to control that. Having sex just not only come with pleasure, but also with a great deal of responsablity if anything goes wrong (I dont need to tell what, Im sure you already know it) just think. Sex is not really how they show it in movies especially the first time, you are not even going to enjoy it, you are gonna be in pain!!!(once you go all the way through) then you are really are gonna wish you have waited (at least a couple of years more 'till you body is fully developed). well I wont lecture you any longer.
Just protect yourself and tell him to wear a condom, use birth-controls and to be even more save tell him pull out before he reaches an orgasm (condoms can break sometimes and then that's a big problem!)
2007-05-27 18:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you really sure you want help? Doesn't sound like it because you obviously know your gonna hear your to young. Someone telling you that your to young isn't bullsh*t, it's a fact and I can promise you that you'll regret it if you go any farther but it's your life you messing up not mine so if you want to go through with having sex with him then use birth control, go buy some condoms and foam.
Just remember if he were the right guy and this is the right time then you wouldn't be confused. You wouldn't even have to think about it. Your confused because your young and no offense but immature. And at 13 you shouldn't be mature.
I have to ask though, what kind of dates to 13 and 14 year old kids go on? I mean neither of you can drive (at least I hope your Mom isn't letting you see someone old enough to drive).
Exactly what do you consider dating? I consider it going out to dinner at a restaurant (not fast food) and to a movie or a club, things like that.
2007-05-27 17:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 13, we all got the urge...soem chose to listen to it and otehr chose not to...either way, jsut realize that if you listen to it and you get pregnant, he will leave you and you will have to raise the kid on your own and you will be giving up your life and your freedoms just for a few minutes of fulfilling that urge...with that said, make him wear a condom ...You can buy a female condom that you insert into you body, also. Or you can go to the free clinci for birth control or planned parent hood...or you can buy the Today's Sponge over the counter...but if you are going to do it, use protection and realize that not only can you get pregnant but you can catch a STD that could kill you or damage you chances of every having children in the future...and you would need you mom to take you to the doctor for treatment (so she sould figure out you had sex) Kiddo, from the wording of you question, I can tell you are the type of kid that thinks she is more grown that what she really is. I can't understand how you think a few seconds or minutes (if you're lucky) of feeling good (probably him feeling more good than you will)is worth possibly ruining your life over.
2007-05-27 17:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by misfit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I can't say that I agree with what you are planning to do, but please be careful. HIV is deadly. You only have to have unprotected sex one time to get it. Please use condoms for that. Pregnancy could take away all of the fun that you deserve to have before you get sagging breasts, and have to deal with a baby crying all night, and not being able to go out with your friends because you can not find a babysitter.
What happens when he gets tired of sitting around, and wants to go out? He can leave, but you have to stay at home with the baby. You never know what he might be doing while you're sitting at home.
What happens if you get HIV? He could have it, and you would never know because he is not required to get tested. When you sleep with him, you are actually sleeping with everyone that he has ever been to bed with. He will probably tell you that he doesn't enjoy it as much with a condom. If that is true, then he has probably never used one with anyone else he has slept with. That sounds pretty dangerous, since your sex life, and general well being will be destroyed if you contract HIV.
Please take all of this into consideration. Be prepared if you really are ready. Go to your health clinic and get birth control, and condoms. That way you will not ruin your life. I know too many girls that wish they had either waited, or been properly prepared.
I sure hope that you are mature enough to make the right decision. Good Luck!
2007-05-27 18:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I can't encourage you to have sex with your boyfriend. Not that I want to preach dear heart, but I believe you should wait a while before you jump in the sack with someone to satisfy your urge. Of course you can control your urge dear heart. Just think about the possible consequences and you might just figure out by yourself that it would be better to wait. Try to do activities with your friends and occupy your mind on something creative and you might discover a talent for something like painting, music, singing, acting, writing, gardening, the list is endless... ( besides sex ! LOL ). You are still young and probably beautiful and you have a whole life ahead of you ! Don't spoil your special day in the future with the one you will love and who will love you.
You are talking about your own passionate feelings, but what about his ?... Sex is easy to control dear, but love is much more precious and it should be shared with great care!
I am an elderly person and this is my insight on your question.
Patience, and determination to do the right thing for your future!
Good luck.
2007-05-27 18:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused, that is a terrible reason to have sex.
Fighting the urge is part of the fun of being 13 and a half.
It's part of the fun of being 14, 15, 16 etc. Love is a wonderful thing. Sex is great, too. but not at 13 and a half. Depending on the state, it's not ever the age of consent, adn the bf could be charged with stautory rape because you are too young
to consent. Think about it. Does he need to be labeled
a sex offender for life because you both are immature?
2007-05-27 17:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by M S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know you don't wanna hear it =\ but you are too young, you should wait a little longer and see how things go between you too, i know you love him, but make sure he loves you and is a good guy, you don't wanna give it up at such a young age to some guy that don't truely love you, most of us guys, we mature later then girls, lets say you did it with him.. and you get pregnant, are you sure this guy is mature enough to be there for you and the baby? i will be honest, 80% guys at the ages of 14 - 17 even sadly in there 20's are cowards and can't take responsibility when it comes to having a child.. it's best you wait till you are atleast 16 and see how things are then, even though many people don't think that is the age to have sex, it's most commonly around that age people have there first time.. but if you still don't wanna listen, just make sure he wears a condom and don't use you just for sex, alotta guys are pathetic and do that..
2007-05-27 18:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as how you are under 16, if you ask your doctor about birth control there's a good chance your mom will find out. The only non prescription birth control is condoms (male and female) and abstinence. As you've made it clear you don't want to hear that you are too young I would suggest condoms. They are inexpensive and very good protection against pregnancy and STDs. Just make sure you are putting them on correctly, they usually come with instructions, lol.
Be careful! You're too young to have an oops...and I'm not just talking pregnancy, there are alot of different STds out there.
2007-05-27 17:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by cutewiddlekittencat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it. Love at your age comes and goes just as day and night and you'll have as many if not more guys you'll fall in love with. Each new guy you meet will be as sweet to love as the last one. Waiting for that special one will be the one you marry. Guess what? Chances are that you'll be more in charge of yourself in all matters.than having someone else trying to control you and you letting it happen because you'll feel you have to, in order to keep him because you would have lost your self and the power that you have. All for a 20 seconds of his pleasure. Because he'll be done in that time and you haven't even started. He will leave you with nothing. No where near satisfied.He will think he is king at your expense. Don't rush to loose the beauty that you have. You have no idea what will happen to you after he tell his friends. And he will brag, no matter what he promises you. Please wait. I promise you that you won't regret waiting as much as you will if you give all you have up for nothing. Stay cool and you are cause you are asking for help before making the mistake of your life. You'll loose and he won't and that's the truth. You will end up loosing for th rest of your life!!! Every guy you will meet from than on. Will expect it cause if you don't, they will say you did. If only you could see the future. But you can't. Why take the chance. you got the world in your hands Don't loose it.!!! It'll never come back again!!!
Your Truly
Cundingy
2007-05-27 18:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cundingy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 1/2 you are way too young to have sex. Of course at 13 1/2 you think you know more than anyone, so you will probably do it just because you are young and foolish (we all were at your age). Odds are down the road you'll get pregnant and you will become just another statistic.
Oh, that's right it won't happen to you, you are smarter than me, you are 13 1/2 and want to have sex. What was I thinking?
2007-05-27 17:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by taotemu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋