I've been dating my girlfriend for over 6months. During oral sex, after a certain point she tells me to stop because she can't take it anymore. She says she becomes too overwhelmed and can't continue. Any tips? Am i doing something wrong?
2007-05-27 17:30:12 · 15 answers · asked by TheWanderer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Communication.
She's feeling uncomfortable because she's not used to this amount of pleasure. She's out of her comfort zone at this point, so she's not relaxed anymore.
You need to comfort her, talk with her and let her know that what she'll experience (if she lets go) will be the best feeling she ever felt.
It might take some time...but anything worth having usually takes time to get :)
2007-05-28 07:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some women that orgasm very easy.... and some that may only have one orgasm during an encounter.... some that find it very difficult.... and those that just don't have orgasms at all. I've met all of the above. As with anything there are extremes on the sexual side also. There are some women that can attain 10 or 20 orgasms in one evening (though they don't do this all the time) and others no matter how "skilled" the male is their just not going to have an orgasm for physical or mental reasons. This is a big enough problem that even the drug companies tested Viagra on women to see if it would increase their sexual response... the end result was it didn't... typically because the plumbing is a little different. I suppose the pill would be pink instead of blue for boys if that was the case. Stress in the relationship is one thing you point out then this could be a big factor. Also you point out that her orgasms are not through intercourse (most women do not orgasm directly through intercourse anyway) and that's typical. The problem is the more she gets frustrated (true with males also) the less likely she is to be able to produce an orgasm in the future. She's going to bed with "this probably isn't going to work" starting out and that creates a cascading effect. Getting out of the rut may not be easy and it sounds like you've done your homework. Considering that she was only able to have an orgasm 50% of the time in the relationship at its beginning to me seems fairly low. You really need to have a talk with her sort of heart-to-heart as to how important the orgasm is to her... some women are perfectly fine with every now and then.... make sure you're not the one that feels she has to have an orgasm each time to be satisfied and for you feel satisfied also. Sometimes that's hard to come to grips with but it may be necessary to save the rest of the relationship. You might want also to experiment with things out of the norm.... she may be getting bored by oral and fingers.... maybe think of electronics like a vibrator to get her more interested.... use it together. If she can get more in touch with what feels good it might make her more responsive. However if she opposes everything then you may be fighting a losing battle. The longer a sexual relationship is the more difficult it can be for the couples to feel excited to each other. You just have to work at keeping that spark going which is difficult but not impossible. Adviceman
2016-05-19 05:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by mireille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably hitting her clit too hard. Some women are much more sensitive than others. I've been told it is even painful if the clit is touched too hard. Be gentle with it, and rougher with other parts. And switch things up every so often. The same thing for too long seems to put them in a holding pattern, just waiting for a new stimulus.
Better yet...ask her what she would like. Her advice will probably be much better than an online stranger.
2007-05-27 17:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by mrtnlu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be using too much direct stimulation. When she gets sensitve, move to another area. Some women like indirect contact.
2007-05-27 17:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by marchhare57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there can be a couple different answers for this. 1, she is enjoying it so much she can't take it. 2, you are no good and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
2007-05-27 17:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by CUTTY009 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice that you want to try to please her, but its probably nothing you are doing. She probably just doesn't know how to get to that place herself. And if she's not asking you to do specific things, then how the hell are you susposed to know? I would ask her next time if she can tell you what she likes and doesn't like. But until she actually figures out what makes herself tick, you aren't going to be able to hit it.
2007-05-27 17:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're almost doing everything perfectly.
What the F&@% is your problem OBEYING her when you dam-well know she loves it? When she says stop with a lusty voice, you fake stop and go SLOW AS HELL. She'll try to pull away at first cuz she doesn't want you to hear her moan, but pull her closer and keep going slow.
Muahahahaha,
Franklin
2007-05-27 17:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No you haven't done anything wrong...you just have a very orgasmic girlfriend...ur kinda lucky
2007-05-27 17:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it just doesnt work.....ask her to be more vocal with you. tell her to moan when its feeling good and touch your head when its to rough. sometimes a girl just cant relax enough to let go. give her a full body massage, or a nice hot bath, or ask her to tell you what she wants....make it her night, and i bet she will be able to relax and let go . good luck!!
also you might be getting into it a bit to much and start to do it to rough, pay attention to her body and be gentle
2007-05-27 17:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by lisa k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happens to me when I get oral, just don't give it to her as long.
2007-05-27 17:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by MissTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋