on my bedroom door at night asking me where my mother is (shes in a rehabilitation hospital recuperating from reconstructive knee surgery) hes driving me insane, and certain ppl say so what ,he doesnt know why or what hes doing and not to complain.
2007-05-27 16:56:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
When I was in the hospital for bipolar, there were some dementia patients in there. What worked for some of them was to put a sign on a door saying NO or STOP so they wouldn't go in there. So you could try putting a simple note on the door saying "Mom will be home tomorrow" or something like that. I dunno if it would work, but it's worth a try. It's ok to be frustrated, you just have to try not to take it out on your dad. People who give you a hard time about it obviously haven't been in that situation, imho.
2007-05-27 17:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are dealing with. This would be rather trying....
The best thing I can tell you is to put a message next to the door way or some common place that your father uses on his path to your room. This may help orientate him back to reality.
Write that mom is in rehab for....
Use large writing and clear phrases. Also might be good to include the month/date and the year...most important.. the year!
I have worked w/ thousands of geriatric patients w/ dementia and other thought process injuries.
I wish you the best of luck. Just try your best to hang in there!
Remember that this time is only temporary.Be patient and as understanding as possible! You will be blessed for all of your efforts!
2007-05-28 00:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jenblossom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is puzzled maybe a bit senile I dont know. I know all to well that at the end you become crazy: same question, same answer. Better switch nights with a relative or a good friend. So make a schedule and find another who will listen to the same question for one night and next night you do the job. When you are lucky your mother will be back in 3-4 weeks
2007-06-04 16:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by dick v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What time is he getting up in the middle of the night? If he naps during the day, maybe decreasing the duration would help him sleep better through the night? Why is he waking up in the night? to go to the bathroom? if so encouraging him to urinate right before bed may help him avoid needing to during the night. Of course, it cost money, but there are sitter services that would stay up while he (and you sleep) to redirect him before he even reaches your room. But this could cost anywhere from $8-$20 dollars an hour.
Best of luck.
2007-06-04 23:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by RWdogtrainer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father has repeatedly asked where your mother is, and you have told him over and over again, he is showing signs of Alzheimer's Disease or other forms of dementia, which are common at his advanced age. Please try to be patient with him, as he really has trouble remembering. He probably needs to be in a facility where he can receive special care to insure his safety and well-being. Sometimes people suffering from impaired memory, will wander off, get lost, and not remember where he/she lives. I realize his behavior can be annoying, but he's still your father and deserves love and respect. Seems as though he also needs help. Please see that he gets it. That will help you also in the long run. Good luck!
2007-05-28 00:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had a similar problem. She bought a mini stop light and told her mother in law if it was red she could not knock or enter but if it was green she could. Surprisingly it worked. How about a not on the night stand " Honey be back in a bit your loving wife...." Good Luck
2007-06-04 23:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by arborsurgeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though your question comes across as rude in a way I understand your plight. Unless you have to deal with someone like that you do not understand the frustration, even if you do not want to feel it. My grandmother is like that and keeps asking for my grandfather. At first I told her that he had passed years ago but it was like he had just died in her eyes, all new pain and sadness. Part of me was relieved when she forgot again and asked where he was. It gets aggravating sometimes and I have to step back and regroup. There are homes out there if the stress becomes too much for you. You may feel obligated to take care of family but I would never want to add that stress to my kids. While I am in my right frame of mind I let them know that its ok to seek help if I get like that. Im sure your dad would not want to know he was being a burden.
2007-05-28 00:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A person with a TBI (tramatic brain injury) often has a "wiring" problem in their brain where things don't "stick". If you are REALLY having a hard time taking care of him and he is on Medicare, you may be able to have him go to a facility for respite care. Good luck.
2007-06-04 19:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by luteachris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SEE WHEN YOU WAS A BABY YOU USED TO CRY A LOT AT NIGHT.
THEY GOT UP CHANGE YOUR DIAPERS, MADE YOUR BOTTLE.
NO SLEEP AT ALL FOR THEM BACK THEN.
BUT THEY DID IT WITH LOVE
SO JUST LOOK DOWN IN YOU HEART FIND SOME LOVE AND PUT UP WITH IT WITH LOVE.
I FEEL BAD TO SAY THIS BUT IT WILL NOT BE LONG
IT WILL BE BAD IF WHEN THEY ARE GONE OR HE IS GONE, YOU REGRET I COULD HAVE DONE IT DIFFERENT FOR IS OWN GOOD.
DO SOME NICE FOR PEOPLE WHEN THEY STILL WITH US.
SO WE WOULD HAVE TO CRY WITH REGRET AT THEIR GRAVES.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-06-04 00:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by paco2164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think that there is anything you can do in a situation like this...you just have to keep telling him. He can't help it that he has mental problems and can't remember! Help the man out...he probably won't be around much longer anyways...God bless!
2007-05-28 00:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋