Why do I continue to over eat when I hate how I look. My 3rd grader didn't want me to come to his school.?

Question

He said Mom, I just don't want you to be hurt. The last time you came, several kids said how fat you were. I am ashamed and disguted with myself, but I still eat.

Answer 1

i think perhaps you are suffering with some type of depression, perhaps you are depressed over your weight and turn to food for comfort i think talking to a Dr or counselor could help!

Answer 2

First of all, I understand how you feel. What I did was find a substitute for each of my cravings ie: bananas for candy, Raw carrots and broccoli for chips and such. I read the labels trying to avoid high fructose corn syrup, and too much sat. fat. All this might help, but I found that if you are a religious person prayer also helps. The trick is not to go on a diet, but to change your eating habits. Eat more small meals per day or healthy snacks, and stay away from soda of any kind. Drink juice instead, but read the label to make sure there is nothing in there that you don't need. The most important thing to remember is to go very slow. It took me almost three years to lose 30 lbs and i am still not at my desired weight. Never give up hope, you can do it. Your child loves you and I think he is more worried about your health than anything. Best wishes and God bless

Answer 3

You are eating out of habit. Tell me if I'm right. You eat even when you aren't hungry don't you? I know, I have had the same problem on and off for years. A lot of people do it just because they like to eat. You need to take the first step, and make up your mind to lose the weight. Then, and only then will it happen. You know you don't have to starve to lose weight. Just eat a lot of fruits and vegetables,( you can eat as many as these as you want) and low fat foods ( just because they are low fat doesn't mean they taste bad) Then find a place to WALK. Walk as briskly as you can for 30 minutes a day, 3-4 days a week, and you will be surprised how fast those pounds roll off. Take the initiative, and make your kids proud of you. I did it, and so can you! Good luck, I know you can do it!

Answer 4

Sounds like you may also be suffering from depression. See your doc and get good meds and a therapist. Then, join a weight loss group (like weight watchers), if affordable. If it isn't, get online and print out some low cal recipes. Learn to track your calories and activity. Start a walking program asap. Walking will get your heart pumping and adrenaline flowing. You'll feel better about yourself. There are some ladies that meet in my local mall several times a week and walk together-you could look for something like this. When I was younger, my mom was overweight. I remember hearing the other kids talk and I was embarrassed. I wished so much that my mom would at least try to take care of herself. Your child will be very proud to see you try.

Answer 5

There has to be an underlying problem of why you over eat or eat the wrong things. See if you can find out what the reason honestly is. Then see if you can correct the problem. If you're doing it out of boredom, see what you can get yourself involved in to occupy your time. When you go grocery shopping DO NOT go if you haven't eaten before you go. You will end up buying things you normally wouldn't have IF you weren't hungry. If sweets are the problem, just don't buy them, don't have them around to tempt you. Change your eating habits & eat less at meals to shrink your stomach. This way you won't be able to over eat. It w/take work, but YOU CAN DO IT. You know what foods are fattening & what aren't. Change your eating habits & your weight w/soon reflect it. When you start to see the weight coming off, that w/be encouragement to keep on going. Make a consious effort to loose weight. Weigh yourself ONE time a wk. & on the same scale. Work at it & make yourself proud of YOU & your son. YOU CAN DO IT...

Answer 6

Its not what you're eating, its whats eating you. Sounds like you're eating to comfort yourself, and this is just one more thing for which you may need to be comforted. Stop putting off until tomorrow. Do something today. Nothing big and drastic, but make sure you cut back in small manageable ways until the cut backs are working and are a part of your life style.

I started by increasing my water intake and walking, it took a year but I lost a good amount of weight, my twelve year old nephew even mentioned it the other day, and I stopped going to his school for the same reason.

We're rootin' for you.

Answer 7

I wish I knew the answer to that question myself! But, I really believe that as long as you hate how you look, it will be hard for you to make a change in your eating habits. It's a vicious cycle

....I hate myself...Why do you hate yourself?...Because I'm overweight...Why are you overweight? Because I eat too much...Why do you eat too much?...Because I hate myself.

Maybe the key is to think about all the good things about yourself and realize that your weight is just one small part of you...and that it is something you can change when you're really ready to do it. You have to believe in yourself and that you can succeed - only then will it be possible. Good luck!

Answer 8

self control is all you need. the sad thing about children is they can be brutally honest byt the one thing you can do is teach them that in todays society not only is there the unhealthy (skinny) but there are the not soo skinny people ( the normal people) and that they are all people not matter how they look. My 3 year old constantly calls me fat because all he hears is me saying i am too fat or i need to loose weight or somthing to that effect. We want to mold ourselves to look like that model on the front of that magazine and be a size zero, but that is just unhealthy. I have come to realize that i can beautiful without loosing 70 or 80 lbs ( just an example) and this weight came because of my children and so that makes it all worth while. Hope this helps

Answer 9

make sure you get some good sleep.. it increases the chemicals to slow the appetite.. don't get up to eat or drink when sleeping. just bathroom. never eat till your full.. and get exercising. if you're shy, get a treadmill and watch and copy fittv to do it in the house and get the rest of your family in on it too..or find a fit walking partner that'll force you into working out :)

Answer 10

sounds like your only problem isn't weight. maybe you should go see a psychiatrist. if you get your eating disorder under control then you'll feel/look a lot better and it will improve the quality of your life.