Am friendly with Couple A who invite us to dinner and I think it will just be the 4 of us, when we arrive there are other couples included. Usually, this would not bother me, but Couple Bs wife does not acknowledge my presence. Couple A invited us for a barbeque at their home, and then called me to let me know that the locale was switched Couple B's home. A few hours later I contacted Couple A, stating we would not be attending the gathering, as I was tired (true). Hours later Couple B husband called to ask if we were coming for dinner. I thanked him for the invitiation, put declined the offer. Was it appropriate for Couple A to invite me to Couple B's home (as I had never received an invitation from them)? We've all known each other for 2 years, but I feel Couple B never takes an initiative to invite or include others in their plans.
2007-05-27 16:38:24 · 5 answers · asked by adventuregirlb62 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They should not. If you don't like couple B, don't go.
2007-05-27 21:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is that you are not being honest, and you are trying to justify your feelings through "etiquette". Who cares whether is is right for them to switch locations, that isn't the problem, the problem is that you and Couple B don't get along.
You have viable options. Talk with couple B and work things out, or decide that you will agree to disagree, as it were and ignore each other. Decide that you will not participate in get togethers where the other is attending. Or just suffer in silence.
I had a similar situation, it became so unpleasant for me to be around Couple B, that I told Couple A I would not EVER attend a gathering where Couple B was invited, and I apologized, but asked to be excluded in the future. That solved the problem.
PS, it wasn't long before that group of people realized who the real problem was, and eventually Couple B were excluded and I continued to be invited.
2007-05-27 17:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't normally be appropriate for a couple to invite you to another couple's home. However if the locale was switched, it was appropriate for the first inviting couple (couple a) to be the ones to call you. What was not appropriate was the changing of the location for no good reason. I am sure couple a can see how the female half of couple b treats you.
2007-05-27 17:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How complicated. Not unless all the couples know each other very well, and no one would ever think twice about it. Otherwise, no, the first couple was in the wrong to do that to you. As you say you aren't comfortable in couple B's company, it was not good planning.
2007-05-27 16:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am mystified at how anyone can invite someone for dinner at another person's home.
Your explanation is a bit confusing, you arrived, then you said you were tired then didn't go?
In any case it is a little odd.
2007-05-28 06:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋