I am 14 and haven't started dating yet. I will be in high school this year and I don't think I will get a bf in HS because I live in a small town and I am kinda shy. Would it be weird for me to get my first bf in college? Do you know anyone who didn't date or have a bf or gf in high school and how did they turn out? When did you start dating?
2007-05-27 16:32:26 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't date or have a boyfriend in High School. I had plenty of girl and guy friends...but no boyfriends. I didn't start dating until after I graduated High School. I only had 2 serious relationships (besides the one with my hubby) and a few non serious relationships. (I am now 24). I got married when I was 21 and my hubby was 19. We have been happily married for 3 years and have 2 boys. I know a lot of people that don't date (or seriously date) until after High School. My little brother just graduated a week ago, and he has never had a girlfriend. Don't feel bad. As long as you are happy, I wouldn't worry about it. Just never change who you are to get someone you like. Always be yourself.
2007-05-27 16:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually write bs and make fun of people here but this is a question I think is actually question worth focusing on.
It's fine not to have a boyfriend in high school. I know many people, both males and females, who have not have partners during their experience in high school. There's nothing wrong with it. And no they weren't all geeks and nerds, many of them were some of the best athletes in the school, even some of the most popular people, and had a population of like 3000 kids.
You will see people make fun of you and whatnot, but don't let it get to you. Remember that you're still a kid, in a small town. There are people who will live an entire life and travel all around the world and never find that special someone, so why rush things? Just enjoy your youth while you can. Enjoy life, don't bother trying to live up to someone else's standards.
2007-05-27 16:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Super N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I know lots of people who haven't dated in high school. I haven't started dating yet and I'm about to graduate.. Some of my friends are already getting superserious about their relationships and I think that's great but also silly. I mean in a couple years they'll be different people and not with the person they're with then.. I think it's better to just relax and have a good time with your friends while you're still in high school.
2007-05-27 16:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by regina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't rush it... you have a looong time to worry about boys. I've seen so many people not excel at things because they were too wrapped up in a b/f or g/f - like not going off to college, not taking a scholarship for athletics because they didn't want to leave their b/g friend.... BIG mistake. More than likely those relationships are short-lived and school sets the tone for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. You can date, but keep it casual... and enjoy your teenage years - they CAN be the most fun years you will ever have, if you do it right.
2007-05-27 16:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by mommyrayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not weird and probably more common than people want you to believe. You will have a better chance of doing your best if you don't spend too much time in boy/girl drama--so if you do get a boyfriend, at least try to keep it in perspective.
Actually, I worked hard all through HS, graduated second in my class, went to Harvard, got my first boyfriend there, married him, had two kids with him, and a great career.
So, HS is more of a beginning than an end of life.
2007-05-27 16:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by desperatehw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't date in HS. I felt so odd. Seemed like every kid around me was kissin' and hugging in the corners of school. I think it just looked that way because of my feeling left out. My mom didn't want me having boyfriends and I just didn't seem to fit in. I look back now, as a wife and mom, and realize, a lot of those boys were shy and I was shy. Some shy boys like to draw attention to themselves, but only because they are too shy to tell you how they really feel. I think most grow out of that when they break the ice with their first sweetheart.
I dated in college but not college boys. I met my husband in church, although we aren't terribly religious, it worked out well. We fell so in love, got married after three months of knowing each other and have been married for 12 years. We have two boys.
2007-05-27 17:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In fact I would find it completely normal. I have 4 daughters, 2 of them are married, which means I have 2 more daughters to deal with. My 18 year old has been on a lot of group dates, but has never had a steady boyfriend. You’re too young to tie yourself down to a BOY at this age. The most important thing in your life right now should not be worrying about if you should have a boyfriend but what you want to focus on in your High school courses. After all it's going to set you up for college, which will set you up for your life. Once you get High school out of the way maybe even college, you will have more time to focus on MEN and not boys. Boys are you big of a hassle. My 18 year old watched as her girl friends stressed and complained about their relationships. She maintained a 4.0 from 7th grade all the way to graduation. She told me she would have never been able to do that if she has a boy friend or had to worry about all the relationship issues her friends have gone through. In fact she was often times the moral compass for most of her friends. They would ask her why she doesn't have a boy friend and how nice it would be to have one. She would look at them and ask them, have you been happy with any of the break ups or other problems your relationships have had? Why would I want that kind of distraction when I have enough to worry about? Many of her friends stopped having boyfriends and girlfriends. And started focusing on school. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. After this moment I do not want you to ever think about rather or not it is normal. What is normal is that you want to get your life in order before you have to deal with all the hassle dating has to offer. Honestly I would not want to go back to the dating scene. Too many games and too many stresses. You’re going to be fantastic. Stick with it.
2007-05-27 16:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by gearnofear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not right to have a bf thats more than 2 years older than you at that age i should kno because when i was 13 i dated an 18 year old. i dont reccomend it to anyone they are to experienced 4 you. and you really dont kno if you will get a bf or not in high shool. there are so many guys there it is very likely u will get someone.
2007-05-27 16:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I had friends that did not date in highschool. They are all far more succesful than I am now. Dating in highschool is an emotional waste of time. I on the otherhand started a little younger than you. I had a broken heart and a kid by 17. I soo wish I would have just concentrated on school.
2007-05-27 16:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not weird. im 17 and about to start my senior year i started dating when i was 14. but i have friends who still dont date and have never had a bf. its normal. my cousin didnt have his first girlfriend till he was 20 and he is perfectly normal. some ppl want to date and others dont. aslo having a boyfriend in high school isnt so great at times. because ppl start spreading rumors and talk s*** about you guys its not that fun.
2007-05-27 16:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋