Why don't people have the common courtesy to R.S.P.V. anymore?

Question

I understad people are busy now a day's, but I have a busy life also and I manage to let people know if i'm attending a function or not. It is very rude

Answer 1

If you mean RSVP, it is because we have become a nation of ego centrics. No one is more important than each of us think we are, and the world revolves around us.
So, the giver of the party is supposed to know if we are going to condescend to attend. We are too important to lower ourselves to responde sil vous plait
Also, there's the thing where something else that is more important might come up, and we don't want to be committed to any one thing.
And we were never taught to be polite, or the importance of manners.
And, people are so mean, they are capable of deliberately ignoring the RSVP, just to screw up somebody's party, and of course, put themselves center stage.
I say we, but that is not entirely true. Some of us were taught, and do not place ourselves first. I am one of them, and I get my feeling hurt when I give a gift and never get an acknowledgement, let alone a thanks.

Answer 2

Usually it's customary to put RSVP (regrets only) instead of just RSVP. It would be considered rude to put RSVP (acceptance only) as that would mean you expect them not to come.

At a recently held function, nearly all respondents who could not come sent in regrets, so I don't think your problem is universal. But if the number of guests is important, you could practice what small firms have been doing for years. Call the invitee the day before and ask them if they plan to attend. That should save a few moments of frustration.

Answer 3

First of all, its not R.S.P.V. it's R.S.V.P. Which is a French acronym written as follows: repondez s'il vous plait. The phrase translates into "please respond". Note: We all know what the word please means. People should but unfortunately they don't. Bottom line: Anyone who has planned a function knows the importance of receiving a response. However, those who have never planned a function are less likely to reply. Nine times out of ten... if one doesn't R.S.V.P by the suspense date... you can take that as a no they will not be attending.

Answer 4

First of all, it's RSVP, not RSPV. Secondly, it depends on the type of function. For instance, it is still very much required to RSVP to a sit-down dinner function, as your attendance has an effect on the overall plans of the event.

I think that a lot of people don't RSVP because they simply can't make up their minds about attending. I know that personally, I sometimes really don't want to attend an event but feel bad about saying no, so I put off the decision for as long as possible.

Answer 5

I live in NC and thought we just had that problem here. I hate it! I think people just don't think it's a big deal so, it is not a priority to the person who received the invite. (If I don't hear from them, I call or consider it a "no")

Answer 6

It's the same reason some people think it's okay to talk on a cell phone during a movie: They think that nothing is more important than they are!

Answer 7

I agree, v.v. rude.

I always point out to guests that have not RSVPd that what a SURPRISE it is to see them.

If the food runs out, so be it.

They are just lazy.

Answer 8

because we have gotten socially ignorant, and I also hate the ones, who spend thousands and thousands on a wedding but never bother to get simple thank you notes to send to well wishers and gift givers...

Answer 9

Don't you just hate people who say "oh, I don't know , i may be busy." It makes me want to say, hey, you're either *&)% coming or not. Which is it?"

Answer 10

They're probably too busy R.S.V.P.'ing so they have no more time to R.S.P.V.. But then, it could be another reason. God Bless you.