He will say things like "I'm sick of this sh-t i'm leaving" or "thats it i can't take this any more" then i get the silent treatment for a day or so then hes fine.But we never talk or resolve the problem he just acts like it never happened till the next fight then he may bring it up again.I never yell or fight dirty i just would like us to work out any problems/disagreements we may have.
2007-05-27 16:12:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
because it gets your attention. However, it's not a good way to communicate.. The key to any succesful relationship is communication. I reccommend you contact the Couple to Couple League in your area and go on a weekend retreat. Learn how to talk with one another before you become a divore statistic.
2007-05-27 16:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be blinded by your love for him. He doesn't sound like he truly loves you, and is not ready for a long-term commitment. A guy who loves you would never treat you that way-not even close. You deserve better. It's only going to get worse as time goes by if you don't stop it now. He needs to stop, or you need to leave. Don't think that there isn't anyone better for you out there. Trust me: There's someone just perfect for you out there, but it just may take a little time to find him.
Marriage is an open communication policy. You can't hide anything or chose not to talk about something. You're always trying to work whatever problems you have right away, because you don't want your spouse to hurt or feel unloved. When both spouses trust each other, and tell each other how they feel, then they truly care for each other and want things to work out for the long haul.
Hope this helps, and hope everything works out for you.
2007-05-28 06:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by California Wedding Florist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does it because you respond to it and he wins. He is obviously still immature and not ready to get married. You need to wait until you two can work your your problems or you are going to end up divorced. With time and effort (more or less depending on how stubborn you both are) you will reach a point of good communication. Explain to him that his method is not working and you are not happy with the relationship like it is. If you need to, see a couple's counselor. If he is not willing to work on it then you just got your red flag that he is not in it for the right reasons and find a new guy who will love you properly. Without communication marriage is just sex with paperwork.
2007-05-27 16:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT listen to the people here that are saying he wont stop and will not change.
Ive been with a man for 7 years and the first few years we had many troubles and he acted alot like you are describing.
People DO change. It was hard but after alot of struggling and pain we are doing very well now.
If you love him and want to stay together its so important to tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. Ask him the same but dont pry to the point of him getting angry.
Good luck!
2007-05-27 16:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by petmykitty22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you guys don't fix any of your problems then they'll come back to haunt you. He threatens you because he knows it'll get your attention, and because he's immature. Is he really ready for marriage? Are you sure that the problems he doesn't seem interested in resolving won't come back to ruin things once you're married?
2007-05-27 21:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely want to talk about this with him. If you don't, it will extend into your marriage. It's not right that he acts like that and you need to call him out on it. Either he will be willing to work on it, or, you may want to reconsider marrying a man that will talk to you like that.
2007-05-31 07:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want this relationship to last expecially when your married. You have to communicate with eachother. You have to talk to him nicely and ask him can we talk about this once you have cooled down so we can resolve this issue. If you guys can't even sit down and talk to resolve your issues, this relationship will not last and it shows you that he is not ready to get married. Good luck!
2007-05-28 10:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very immature and possibly not really ready to make such a committment. He will NOT change. You need to decide for yourself if this is what YOU want to deal with for the rest of your life. I can assure you that a mature, responsible man who is truly committed to your future together will not act this way.
2007-05-27 16:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your man needs some vacation R&R time. Marriage has that effect on most men who are not ready.
2007-05-27 16:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Daniexus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is going on now, dont think its going to stop once you're married. Maybe you should reconsider marrying him if this is what's going to happen for the rest of your life.
2007-05-31 11:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋