He will say things like "I'm sick of this sh-t i'm leaving" or "thats it i can't take this any more" then i get the silent treatment for a day or so then hes fine.But we never talk or resolve the problem he just acts like it never happened till the next fight then he may bring it up again.I never yell or fight dirty i just would like us to work out any problems/disagreements we may have.
2007-05-27 16:12:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's probably what his father did. Either way, it's just a manipulaiton tactic he feels like he can use because he has the control in the relationship.
2007-05-27 16:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by House M.D. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He obviously is not going to leave, because he hasn't so far. He is controlling you!!! Sometimes we can't see what's happening to us because we are too close to the situation. But if this was happening to a good friend of yours or your sister, what would you advise them to do? All good answers so far, get counseling together IF he will even go. Do not marry him at this point. He's not ready. If he won't talk things out with you now, his level of commitment is not promising for the future. He's manipulating you and that's not love. You need to take control of your life and decide if this is how you want to continue. It really sounds more like an addiction to each other than a love affair. Get help and/or get out before it's too late. Think of the kids you might have together, do you want them living like you are right now? You have a serious responsibility to your future children to choose a good and loving man to be their father and you deserve a good and loving man to be your husband.
2007-05-27 18:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is testing you, to see how hard you will try to keep him. He feels insecure about your relationship. Unfortunately, this isn't about you and you can't fix this. No amount of chasing after him will ever be enough. He will always need more and more. If you think that you can handle this type of personality, it will be very taxing on you. The best course of action is to be firm. "I love you and I will be here if you decide to come back" is the most that you should ever feed into this. Let him throw his fit and run away. When he comes back (and he will) Don't be angry, but don't apologize and take blame. Just remind him, "I love you and I'm here". Try only talk about issues when no one is angry and drop them when anger arises. If he pushes, try to avoid feeding into it and remain neutral and calm. It's not fun to deal with someone like this, much less for ever. Don't rush into this.
2007-05-27 17:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by lovestogarden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people cannot handle confrontations. Others just do not want to hear that they may be wrong. Next time he threatens to leave tell him not to let the door knob hit him in the @ss when he goes.
2007-05-27 16:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's doing this now he very well do this in your marriage and you don't want that! get counseling now before it gets worse and things really get out of control. good luck. oh yeah he sounds like he wimps out when problems come up don't marry a coward weak person that runs away from problems.
2007-05-27 16:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Lady.Lady Lady" how can you use the word fiance in this paragraph? You could not even be admitting to the world that you have plans to marry this jerk one day. Go ahead. There is no help for you. You are in for the ride of your life.
2007-05-27 16:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he give up on a lot of things that are diffacult? Because relationships are diffacult !
2007-05-27 16:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by motoqmotoq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day he WILL leave
you need to get counseling, and do not get married till you fix this!
2007-05-27 16:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋