I recently broke up with my boyfriend Kevin.... I cheated on him... now I am going out with the guy I cheated with Dave. Me and Kevin are still friends... sometimes we even forget we are broken up and I still flirt with him. Well my Dave saw me flirting with with my ex and he got mad. He broke up with me and said he did not want to deal with the drama. I was hurt... I guess I deserved it because that is how Kevin felt but the other day Dave and I just got back together. I was sitting next to Dave's phone and I saw he got a text message from a girl named Carrie. I looked through all of the text messages and it said I can't wait to see you this weekend and all of these other things. What should I do?
2007-05-27 15:08:44 · 18 answers · asked by Lindsey G 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, I believe cheaters sow what they reap. In general, once a cheater, always a cheater. PLEASE NOTICE THAT I SAID, "IN GENERAL..." Of course, anyone can change their ways. I think your best bet is to move out of the cheater circle when looking for someone new.
2007-05-27 15:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by ruby_intherough 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let's run this down real quick:
You cheat on your original boyfriend
You begin seeing the guy you were cheating with, but you still flirt with your original boyfriend.
You invade your new boyfriend's privacy by looking through his phone records and get suspicious of him cheating.
I mean this in the best possible way, but it does not sound like you are mature enough yet to be dating. I would recommend you take a break from dating anybody for awhile until you grow up a bit. There is nothing wrong with being single, you know. Just wait it out and when your ready start dating again; that way you'll have really deep relationships and you won't hurt your boyfriends.
2007-05-27 15:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by Chip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys both have a history of cheating with each other.
Just get a fresh start with someone else.
Yes, you were wrong to flirt with your ex, but that doesn't make his cheating right either. Talk to Dave, figure out if it's really cheating, and if your judgement says that it is, move on.
2007-05-27 15:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by julka323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a few months off from dating....figure out what you want to do with your life, then start focusing on that. If you become an independent, focused and sucessfull woman you won't have to be in such trivial situations.
By achieving goals and personal integrity you will bring yourself up from being a 'cheater', which is never a good thing to be called, and instead will attract sucessfull men in your lives that you will hopefully have no desire to cheat on.
Good luck to you and no matter your age you should 1st concentrate on you self improvement BEFORE entering another relationship.
2007-05-27 15:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by sierra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I don't want to be mean, but I think this is good for you...like medicine. Maybe it will inspire you to change your ways. Beyond pontificating, what I would do is talk to Dave, in a very chill way, to know what's going on, and if he still wants to be with you. See, the problem is, most guys that know you cheated in the past, think you'll cheat in the future. It's up to you to prove otherwise, imho...Good luck.
2007-05-27 15:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm tricky, well he now probably doesn't take you seriously because of the flirting. By the sounds he is keeping his options open. As it goes, people say not to trust the person you are with if she/he left someone else for you. It is hard to take a cheater and a flirter seriously. There is nothing wrong with harmless little flirts but doing it with you ex boyfriend in front of your current boyfriend has probably got him thinking well she cheated on him, why wouldn't she do it to me. I think you need to be single. You sound young so be young don't tie yourself to boyfriends and so on. You have the rest of your life to do that. Trust me! As for the message well you are just going to have to see what happens. You shouldn't be going through his phone anyways. As they say what goes around comes around. Sorry to sound harsh but its the truth hon. :)
2007-05-27 15:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both you and Dave deserve what you get since you don't seem to understand what the word commitment means. Rather than trying to be BF/GF why don't you just be friend with benefits until you figure out what you really want.
2007-05-27 15:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 23:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve it and so did Dave for hooking up with you when you were with Kevin. You need to learn not to hurt people.
2007-05-27 15:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Michael S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and get back together with Kevin. You should have never have cheated on him in the first place, and if you susspect foul play, you don't derve that guy, but you really shouldn't have cheated on Kevin.
2007-05-27 15:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by unclestewie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did cheat on him first. I think you should just give it some time maybe he thinks your going to cheat again and is not taking you serious. Are you serious about him this time? I think you should ask him about Carrie.
2007-05-27 15:19:38 · answer #11 · answered by cill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋