2007-05-27 14:55:03 · 24 answers · asked by kim q 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am divorced- remarried- ex husband just remarried to a woman he has only known since November06 She spanked my 6 year old daughter at walmart b/c she can not read the men/woman bathroom sign and went into the wrong restroom. she has also spanked my son- we live in arkansas and it seems like the biological parents have no rights. I am very upset at this and don't know what to do.
2007-05-27 15:10:32 · update #1
I personally support spanking for REAL parents. When both mom and dad play a role in the child's life, step parents should NEVER use that punishment on a child that's not theirs. I'd phone the police and local CPS and ask them that question. My guess is that if your ex husband give her permission to spank, it's most likely legal. Then again, still call. I'd be pissed off too.
Good Luck
2007-05-29 23:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Fancy spanking a child for not being able to read. She seems to be the type of person who likes to freely use physical punishment for all the wrong reasons. Why was your 6yo daughter allowed to wander off in the first place? Why was she not supervised when going to a public toilet? Most rest rooms have pictures as well as words. Why can't your daughter diferentiate between those picture signs? I think you need to remarry someone who doesn't punish your daughter for not being able to read and for not supervising your daughter in an unsafe situation.
2007-05-27 23:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by smc4u73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your question brings up several more. To research an answer for you, I will need to know the state you live in (may be legal in some and not in others). Also, to be more thorough in my answer I'd like to know the specifics to give a moral answer as well as a legal one. What did the child do to deserve a spanking? How old is the child? Was the child forewarned of eminent punishment?
2007-05-27 14:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Christi_79 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a stepparent and if the situation calls for I would spank my stepdaughter. Spanking for something like your children were spanked for I dont agree with. But do the kids live with the step parent and the biological parent. Also have you guys given permission for the step parent to discipline. Also as far as step parent being a priviledge not a right is a totally wrong statement. Step parents are forced to step into a mother or fatherly role and just expected to do it, seems to me everyone thinks badly of the stepparents doesn't give them a chance and just assumes the worse. IF you don't want the step parent to discipline then DON'T EXPECT them to love your children as their own, you can't keep one right from them and not give the all the rights that isn't fair untill you are a step parent NO one has the right to judge what they do. Talk to the step parent about the punishment being to harsh for the crime but not in front of the kids you guys need to sit down and talk you undermining the power the step parent has will bring nothing but problems
2007-05-28 05:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I would think that if the spanking was not in violation with the other parent's wishes, and not severe it would not be considered illegal; however, there are other issues here. Does the other biological parent object to you spanking this child? If so they might cause you considerable grief. I suggest that you find other ways to discipline this child and save the spanking for the child's parent. Is spanking so vital that you want to make such an issue of it? Try taking a parenting class (all parties if possible) to give you ideas on what is appropriate for different age groups and different behaviors.
2007-05-27 15:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by marshfield_meme 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I would personally love to cuss your wife out. Why spank a little kid that walked into the wrong bathroom? Send her to my house, I want to spank her. My step kids are 13 and 14, and I ground them , but it isn't my place to spank.
2007-05-28 03:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by happymariewilkinson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think as though spanking might desire to be criminal. there's a great difference in spanking than newborn abuse. I hate those those that think of that spanking teaches that violence is nice because of the fact i think of it teaches them to appreciate others and that once you hit human beings it hurts. a great variety of the undesirable little ones I certainly have considered have not been spanked so i think of it fairly is asserting something
2016-10-08 23:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, yes they can. Unless, you can prove that the spankings are too hard or, on the side of beating!
I think this is a topic for you and ex-hubby to discuss! Discuss this with the new wife as well. If you do not want them spanked by her as you feel she is unfair, then tell her so!
2007-05-27 15:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
there are better ways of handling the situation than resorting to spanking . it only teaches children to resort to violence to get the results they want out of a situation. what does the real parent think ? plus you are likely to teach the child to resent you! even when real parents spank there children they will start to resent them , but a step parent is even more at risk for this . if you want to have a good relationship with this child you should find better ways of communicating with him or her!
2007-05-27 15:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that if she lays a hand on your children again, you will lay her out. Once in awhile a child deserves a spanking, but what she did is abuse.
2007-05-27 16:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋