What other ways, besides withholding sex, can I convince my bf to marry me sooner rather than later ?

Question

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. The adulterous woman wipes her lips and says she has done nothing wrong, her ways lead to the path of destruction . Every man that comes near her will be destroyed.-Proverbs

I used to be adulterous and the head games were insurmountable.

Cmon girls help me out !

Answer 1

Honey, if you have to find sneaky ways to manipulate your boyfriend into marrying you, this relationship is NOT GOING TO WORK! Marriage is supposed to be about two people who WANT to get married and spend forever together, not about one person who had to force the other person into it.

Answer 2

Some people say "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" Others say "Why buy the pig when you just want a little sausage?" Men just like feeling good. If someone makes them feel good without having to commit - GREAT! But, that's selfish. If he doesn't want to marry you then there's nothing you can do, except move on and find someone who's not so selfish. I would think that with-holding sex as a tool will bring on resentment and cause a rift between you. ACTUALLY THAT SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD IDEA. If he sticks around, then maybe he does care more about you. If not - he'll leave. No big loss to you. On the other hand, maybe you are trying to control him, and that may keep him at a distance or even push him away. Since I don't know how long you have been together, maybe you are expecting too much, too soon. Perhaps you both need to talk about what you want and expect, and at the same time SLOW THINGS DOWN. You will have the rest of your lives no matter what happens in this relationship. If it's together then there better be clear and complete communication. Otherwise it's doomed. Is this enough information for you to concider? I'm 50 and have learned a thing or two about communication, and relationships. And I'm coming from a mature point of view. This is my opinion, and you are free to listen to it or to totally discount it. In the end, it's your life and you are responsible for what you make of it. Good Luck. Pete.

Answer 3

Kendra,
OK. Here it is. You can NOT make/convince someone to marry you. And why would you want to. You do not specify how long you have been seeing him. No-one should get married unless they have been dating someone for at LEAST a year and a half consistently. If you have been seeing him over a year etc. and he is the man you see being the father of your children, just talk to him. He already knows if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Let's say he does but wants to wait until he's out of school etc..... You are going to turn him off BIG TIME by pushing him....you may very well push him right out of your life.
Here is the bottom line.... You know your value as a person, don't settle or wait for someone simply because you want to be married. It may certainly hurt to split up but you can most definitely handle it. And you will be happier with your decision in the long run. God is in control.

Answer 4

Well it kind of depends.. how long have you been together? How old are you two? Withholding sex does not always work. You need to sit down and talk to him, explain why it is so important to you. If he isn't willing to talk or still refuses the idea, then he may not be worth commiting the rest of your life to. You deserve a man that can't wait to spend his life with you, can't wait to call you his wife, if this is not him, then don't settle. Trust me, I dated a guy for almost 5 years that I thought I would marry, he always said he never wanted to get married, but of course, we did talk about marriage after all that time. Things didn't work out for a lot of reasons, but I held on because I loved him so much. It was very hard to move on mostly because I committed 5 years of my life to this man, and the longer you wait, the easier it becomes to keep waiting. If a man truly loves you, he should want to marry you once he realizes how deep his feelings are. If he doesn't have those feelings, then don't waste your time. Good Luck!

Answer 5

You can't convince someone to marry you, it is something that they have to want to do. Marriage is not a small issue maybe if you sat own with him and actually talked about it might work more affectivly. Furthor more if you just think that he will marry you because you are not giving him sex who might as well find someone else becasuse if he is marrying to have sex then that means that the true feelings that are shown through marriage aren't really there. He only likes you for your body.

Answer 6

I like your morals. Do you know why he is not marrying you yet? Once you know the real reason, you can then try to fix the problem, or if you find out it is something that you can't fix, you can then find someone else. By asking him that, you will also find out his intentions, whether he is actually serious about marrying you or not.

Personally I find everyone only does whatever they want, so it's really up to him. If he doesn't see how wonderful you are by now and how much better life is with you, then he is not worth it because he doesn't value you enough.

Answer 7

Girlllll, you can never ever ever convince a man to marry you. So just get that outta your head right now! That is a decision that a couple needs to make together and there is nothing that a woman can do to make a man say, "Hmm, I think I wanna propose to her!"

Answer 8

You can't convince anyone to do anything, but what you can do is remain faithful to him and if you see that after so many months or years of being with him that he doesn't propose to you, then it's time to meet someone new that will wait to have sex with you and follow through with marrying you.

Answer 9

He should run if your that controlling, withholding sex for a proposal... and don't ya come back no more no more hit the road jack and dont ya come back no more

Answer 10

If you have to convince your boyfriend to marry you it's not going to work out.