is my child spoiled?

Question

my 10 year old daughter nanny takes her to school and picks her up. the nanny has a credit card to use if my daughter wants anything and usually befrore school she'll take my daughter to jamba juice or somewhere like that to get a smoothie or bagel. my daughter told me the other kids call her spoiled im just making sure my child isnt hungry what am i doing wrong???

Answer 1

Kids are always mean. And your child is very priviledged, but she doesn't have to be spoiled because just because she has more advantages in life doesn't mean that she has to be spoiled. Being spoiled means taking advantage of things and expecting things all the time. Ask your daughter if she feels like she is spoiled. Talk about what someone who is spoiled acts like. And then maybe talk about how to help those who are less fortunate. Maybe start a can drive or something like that.

Also, come up with a response to those bullies. "Spoiled is how you act. And right now, I'M not the one acting spoiled!" Just one suggestion. You guys will come up with some better ones!

Answer 2

Having things without appreciating how you received them, or understanding their cost is what makes you spoiled. I had to grow up with my Mom telling me the horror stories of being hungry after the Second World War when she was just a little girl, losing her home to bombs, watching people die on the streets during air raids. I grew up in a beautiful home in America (my mom obviously ended up doing okay), with not getting everything I ever wanted, but certainly not wanting for anything I needed. I wasn't spoiled because I appreciated everything that was given to me and knew from my parents stories, that you can lose all your material things in an instant, so don't put your personal value in those things. I now have three young American children and we definitely live what most in the world would think of as a privileged life. I emphasize to them all the time the need to work and appreciate all that they have, that they aren't entitled to a continuation of their lifestyle after they leave this house - because it isn't their's, its their father's and mine, they just happen to live here. They do volunteer work in their community and I try to set a good example by doing my fair share of volunteer work for the needy as well. They all have bank accounts where we put birthday $$ and when they want to buy something, I make them withdraw the $$ to pay for what they want. I even make them figure out and pay the tax so that they understand what paying tax is, and why it may or may not be considered fair -- I will leave the development of those opinions to each of them. I hope that I am doing a good job with them. It's hard to tell when you're in it. So, no - not all American children are spoiled. Not all Western children are spoiled.

Answer 3

Spoiled is an attitude. You can have everything in the world and be appreciative of the things you have - that would not be spoiled. Spoiled is when you don't appreciate what you get or have a demanding attitude wanting more.
Maybe some day your daughter could bring bagels or smoothies to all her friends.

Answer 4

if you have enough money to give the nanny a credit card then maybe you should work less and give your daughter what she really needs and wants instead of giving her whatever she wants
i'm sure she will be willing to give up all the stuff just to have you take her to school in the morning or pick her up

yes she is spoiled no it has nothing to do with food
but how bout instead of having her nanny get her food on the way to school you sit down and have breakfast together


if you make sure to spend time with her everyday then i am sorry for griping at you and i commend you for having a nice job and good relationship

Answer 5

You're not doing anything wrong, but not all kids have what your daughter has. People are unfortunately going to look at your family with jealousy and lash out by calling her spoiled. No offense, but what's wrong with the nanny cooking her a nutritional breakfast at home?

Answer 6

It makes perfect sense to me...What do they expect, the nanny to buy everything for your daughter? It makes it a lot easier, and safer- No extra cash missing...And you can track everything. I would do the same with my daughter, but I get to stay home. The other kids are just jealous. My daughter's friends are like that sometimes. Some people have a problem with my 6 y.o. having a cell phone. Oh well- just ignore everyone else.

Answer 7

The credit card is for your daughter to get anything she wants? If the nanny is buying her lunch or a snack then it isn't a spoiling issue. If she is buying her anything she wants whenever and whatever, that is overindulgence and definitely spoiling which is typically a form of emotional abuse.

Answer 8

okay first off I agree with the other answer why is the nanny not cooking a breakfast at home for her ? is that not what you pay her for ? and a 6 yr old with a cell phone ,Please i manage to raise 2 boys with out a nanny ,a husband and without a cell phone !!!! You people need to learn the basics of good old fashioned parenting . And if the kids are saying things about your daughter why are you not talking to their parents . I mean who is in charge here ?

Answer 9

Try feeding your kids before they go to school. The jamba juice thing - it should stop. Health issues.

Take the time to be a mother to your children, and don't allow anyone else the ability to spoil them. May just be your child is spoiled, or being spoiled.

Answer 10

well the credit card thing is a little spoiled..it should be for emergency's or the occasional gift. The juice and bagel in the morning isn't a problem..i do the same for my child sometimes.