i lost my friends because I am Mormon!?

Question

I lost ALL of my (what i thought were) my best friends because I joined the church of Jesus Christ of latter Day Saints! Now they are starting to be nice to me all of a sudden. Idk if it is because they are realizing that im not a bad person or if they are trying to be nice to get me to "change back" also... my boyfriend loves everything about me except me religion... which i WONT change! i really love him too! What is you opnion on al of this?

btw, we are not a cult! go to www.lds.org to find out what we believe! they were the same way! They thought we worshiped Joseph Smith and were a cult and were poligamists... none of that is true...
thanks for the help

I was Baptist before.

Answer 1

It is sad that your "friends" left because you joined another church. It shows two things, what kind of friends they really were and what kind of Christians they really were.

To Jan San- You said the Mormon church does that to people. But it wasn't the Mormon friends that left her it was the "christian friends". A true Mormon would not stop being your friend just because you joined another church.

Answer 2

I understand both sides here. I understand that you believe you have found some thing in this church, and that is what a lot of people want in life. a sense of belonging and purpose.
But, the mormon church is cult like, tends to keep women and minorities on thier knees, and the foundations of it are very weak. You have probably been told a lot of really fantastic sounding things from thier boys on mission, but please do take a look at the other side. There are dvds out there that have been made by ex mormons that give clearer views into the church.
I live in a Mormon town. One example i have found in keeping women down by the church involves the "missions" young people are sent on. Boys go at 18 if they wish, and usually come back and get married. Girls are NOT permised to go until they are 21, by then they should be almost done with a degree (which they most likley wont use) and should be married. How many new couples do you know would want to seperate just after getting married. And why would a student about to finish want to put it all on hold. The mission is a great way to see the world and help people. But girls are held back from it.
I am sure people in your life love you but the Mormon faith is full of holes. And I must say a lot of the churchgoers there are very stuck up and fake. Now i dont hate mormons, I have mormon friends and even more ex mormon friends. YOUR ON A TOUGH ROAD!! BEFORE YOU GET TO THE FORK, RESEARCH.




- A girl who questioned religion.

Answer 3

I am so sorry...
But I can see how your friends might have been confused by this. It is a big change, honey.
Some of my best friends are Mormons, and they are the best people I've ever met. I really do believe that there is something good about LDS; I am not a member, nor will I ever be, but I do believe it is a beautiful faith filled with beautiful people.
Before I had experience with it though, I thought it was a cult.
Therefore, why don't you open up to your friends about your religion? They might have just been confused, or felt shocked or something. I would try leveling with them. If they seem accepting, then you should definitely try being their friends...Forgiveness is best...If they are not willing to tolerate your new faith after you've given them time (and give them adequate time) then you can always find new friends. And you can always find another boyfriend. Pray on it, honey. I wish you the best. Good luck, and I hope LDS brings you much happiness.

Answer 4

I think your friends maybe got scared off because Mormons, like Jehovah's Witnesses, go door-to-door discussing religion. Not just those two religions, either. I had a protestant at my door once as well although I never did figure out what church he was from... A friend of mine who was a JH came to my door once and did her spiel. She said it was required of her. Went fine until she started explaining to me why my religion was all wrong. Like you, I am not interested in changing my religion and do not want people telling me mine is wrong. It's like insulting your mom or something. Perhaps, your friends thought you would do that and now they're realizing you aren't some religious zealot and they're feeling bad about the way they treated you. I wouldn't over-analyze it. People shy away from anyone with a strong conviction. Just don't go pushing your religion on them and don't allow them to push theirs on you either. Surely there are other things to talk about? Anyway, sounds like they feel bad. They screwed up. Be the bigger person and forgive them, hon.

Answer 5

A story from general conference, it talked about an old experience by President Hinckley.

He met an young naval officer from Asia. The officer had learn about the church, was baptized and was now preparing to return to his native land .

Pres. Hinckley asked the officer:
Your People are not Christians, what will happen when you return home a Christian, and more importantly, a Mormon Christian?

The Officer's face clouded, he replied:
My family wil be disappointed.....as for my future and my career, all opportunity may be foreclose against me.

Pre. Hinckley asked:
Are you willing to pay so great a price for the gospel?

With his dark eyes moisten with tears, the officer answered with a question:
"Its true, isn't it?"

Pres. Hinckley responded, "Yes, it is true."

To which the officer replied, "Then what else matters?"


As for myself, over the years being a LDS Mormon, I lost friends too, but I also gain many friends, and I also gain a wonderful Mormon wife.

So ask yourself the question, is it true?
If its true, then what else matters.

Answer 6

It's probably more complicated than it seems. Mormonism is a rather restrictive religion (i.e. No drinking, no premarital sex, no coffee/caffeine/tea, no dating/marrying non-Mormons, no swearing, no gambling or using poker cards, no spaghetti strap shirts, no smoking, no tattoos, etc.), so people who are LDS don't often have many friends who are non-LDS... and that's, for one thing, because they can't find much in common with each other. For another, Mormonism is a "lifestyle" religion -- so it's a constant reminder (to both the LDS, and those around the LDS) of LDS standards. It's difficult to be around somebody when you're constantly afraid of offending them; and non-Mormons often feel that they're "looked down upon" because they don't share Mormon values/standards.

In any event, if you feel your friends may be compromising your morals or not accepting your lifestyle -- maybe you need new friends.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If the Bible is a big house and Christians live in it, then Mormons are living in an annex built off the side of the building.

Trying to be good Christians but having their own doorway in and out of the bible.

That is how they like to be portrayed in actual reality they are a large commercial enterprise based around their own interpretations of the bible.

There are alleged to be millions of Mormons but approximately half of these believers never see the inside of a church.

$15,000.0000 of donation money was alleged to have been spent building a shopping mall in Salt lake city.

Sound like a great religion to me.

My neibour has just joined up, we still talk and are friends but I still think she has made a big mistake.

I know why they recruited her, she may inherit a large sum of money and they can see their cut in the future.

Answer 9

They were probably just shocked and confused at first. Mormonism is VERY different from regular Christianity (what with believing God was once a man and that we can become gods, etc.) They're probably nice again because they've gotten over that initial shock and missed your friendship, etc. If they're being nice again then give them a break. Humans don't always know how to handle things that are foreign or how to interpret a friend who makes such a major change. What were you before? Athiest? If so, that is a huge change indeed.

Answer 10

I went thought the same thing. I was a die hard Mormon. Then I started reading "anti-Mormon" literature so that I could defend myself better. It helped some. But then I started realizing that my Bishops were complete idiots, and they are supposed to have discernment. Then when I had to go out and work, and I was given responsibilities and people knew that I knew what I was talking about, I had to wonder why it was that when I went to church, I was treated like I needed a man to tell me what to do. Then when I accidentally saw one of the church leaders (who was married) on a dating site, I really had to question how Heavenly Father would allow him to hold his position, why he was called. When I went to church leaders and told them that a 40+ year old man (who was dating a 17 yr-old) took children to his darkened van to have a Sunday school lesson and requested that they call the police and make sure that none of the children had been molested, I was told to be "QUIET!", and that "we take care of our own." Stuff like that. I could go on and on.....