Your daddy?

Question

How many of you out there love your fathers? Sometimes i question whether i do or not cause of the way he makes me feel.

I'm 21 and far from a brat.

Answer 1

I never had a father that was worth anything. He died when i was 6, but he was useless as a parent. How does your father make you feel? Send me an email if you wish.

Answer 2

I have grown to respect and love my father. We do not have a close relationship, but since he is my father, I give him respect. I have learned that our parents did the best they could with what they had. So, the way they treat us based on how they were treated. All we can do is make the decision to live our lives better for ourselves and our kids. Don't harbor anger or resentment - that does nothing but limit your future. Once you realize that your father's actions and words are because he is a weak person, you become stronger and just let it roll of your back. Good luck!

Answer 3

i think most of us have a love/hate relationship with our fathers, that tends to change as we mature... even if your father and you don't get along, i promise you one day, when he's gone, you will miss him and will dwell on the good times! Fathers are just like us children, they come in many different shapes, sizes and personalities... try to find out about his upbringing, that usually influences his parenting styles tremendously, and it can explain a lot about "why" he has the attitudes and beliefs he does... as you get older (usually mid-late 30's), you'll definitely come to understand and appreciate him more than you ever imagined possible (especially if you are now a parent)... hang in there, try and talk with him about your feelings and remember, he was ONCE your age, too... i know that some fathers are horrible to their children, but, i do believe that most do the best that they can within their ability (but majorly influenced by their role models)... becoming a parent really helped me appreciate my "less than perfect" dad much more than i ever thought possible, and today, though he's passed on, i have accepted that he was trying the best he knew how, and maybe now, he is at peace ... good luck!

Answer 4

I do. And believe me it I can love my father, ANYONE can. When I was 11, he left me and my mom. She didn;t drive, and didn't have a job. He had our electric and phone turned off in the middle of winter. He paid child support, but not willingly. He never wanted me on the weekends either. After he left he married my mom's so called best friend. So he became a father to her 2 children. He never came to either graduation, (He went to her kids tho.) He never came to my wedding, or the birth of my daughter. I have a good steady relationship with him now, but who knows how long it will last? I still love him after all this. He is my dad, and help give me life! So if I can not hate him, I know you cannot hate yours either. Tell him how he makes you feel. I am sure he will stop hurting you if he knew he were.

Answer 5

I definitely love my dad, but I can relate to not being sure how you feel about a family member. Family is such an important part of our development as human beings that sometimes it saddens us when we don't get along with them. I don't get a long with my brother because he constantly makes me feel bad about who I am but I realize that I do love him but I don't have to like him right now. In time I believe we will be friends again, but we are just too different right now. This might be the same case with your dad, i am sure you've tried and trust me he'll come around and try to make up for lost time...

Answer 6

If your like me it's not that you don't love him. Maybe it's he doesn't show appreciation towards you. I love my father but sometimes he just expects me to stop everything for him and even if I do drop it he still thinks I shouln't expect a thank you or I appreciate you. Just know that it's not the way your father treats you that counts, it's the way you treat him. That's just because you know you've done your best to show him you love him with no regrets for the future.

Answer 7

I question it too. My father is an alcoholic and i have not heard from him for about a year and it dosen't bother me very much. Sometimes i do pray that he would stay sober so he can be the one to walk me down the aisle and be in my childrens life when i have kids but i know he won't be.
I just stay away. His drinking hurt me alot growing up. It hurt me too much and now i guess you can say my heart is cold for him.

Answer 8

i love my daddy he is the best i cant help but love my daddy because he is the best daddy and grandaddy in he world i can go 2 him and tell him anything and he helps me throught it no matter what i would go 2 him befor my own mom he was the 1 that i told i was pregnant first when i was 16 and was scared 2 tell my mom and he talked 2 her witout even judgein me and thats y i love my dad soooooooo much because he loves me so much more then word can express and he is always there 4 me

Answer 9

I love my dad, I may not like him alot of the times but I love him and know he only wants what's best for me. Also there are so many people out there who do not have a dad in their lives and I'm so grateful to have one that chose not to walk out of my life and who's not psychotic, or abusive which sadly so many dads are.

Answer 10

I think I probably always loved my father, though he was very demeaning and critical when I was younger. He also had an anger problem. However when I became an adult and he no longer had any control over me, he became a much nicer person. He died of cancer and I miss him.