i need some advice anyone?????

Question

well me and my mom dont always get along, she never hits me or anything but i feel unwanted. she is different to me. i have a sister and if she makes a mean remark it doesnt get any attention, but when i say something i get yelled at. she is not a good listener. i try to talk but she doesnt understand me. when i tell her something she turns it into something else. she always trys to think i mean something else. she thinks i am saying something else. she doesnt let me explain. i hate when she does that, i love her a lot but she is so i dont know. every time i talk to her she says i am deing rude when im not, nd when i try to tell her i feel this way she once said "its always about how u feel" she puts me and my sister down alot. she tells us we a failures sometimes if we dont do something in school. i tell her that she does this nd she thinks she doesnt, i always try tell her, but hse just is like give it a rest, nd i sometimes go in my room nd cry, how do i make her relize wat she does

nd dont tell me talk to her cuase it doesnt work, nd i am sick of her not understanding, she says she does but she doesnt, she makes me feel like i have no meaning on this earth!!! thx for the advice if u have any

and she is not an easy person to talk to, she will make something into everything, she blows things out of preportion, it makes me so upset, she just always walks into room when i change nd stuff too, no respect i get, she treats me like i am not there

icase u have been wondering i have no dad

Answer 1

Honestly, do something for yourself. No matter what you will always have people in your life who will bring you down. You just kinda have to go with the flow. Do yourself before you worry about other people. Make youself feel good, go for a walk, exercise or even just spend time with the people who want to pay attention to you such as your friends. Do something so that your mom will notice that you are trying such as cleaning your room or helping out around the house. If you have to, mope around then maybe your mom will feel bad and try to wonder what's up with you. Believe me I do it all the time when I feel un-loved. I'm sure your mom also may have a lot of stress to deal with such as taking care of you and your sister, maybe paying the bills, working and trying to find some relaxing time for herself. Don't worry, mommy loves you. Parents sometimes will annoy you or push you when they know that you are capable of doing something. They just want you to prove them wrong so that they know that they have done a good job at parenting. Good luck and don't worry!

Answer 2

I hate to tell you but I until your mother realizes that she is being a total b****, there isn't much you can do....My mother was the same way with me. From the time I was like in 4th grade I didn't mean that much to my mom. Now I'm 22 and only talk to her if I have to. She always treated me like I wasn't important enough to be bothered with. I was an "A/B" student all through school, top 10 of my class. Not once did I get a "good job". Now she doesn't understand why I don't talk to her. She also doesn't acknowledge that I have a boyfriend. Well I don't have the boyfriend that she wants. I have been with this guy for 2 years, and she still asks me when my ex-boyfriend and I are going to get back together. She likes him and not my current boyfriend. Honestly, there isn't anything that you can do. I'm so sorry. Hopefully you have a good relationship with someone else in your family (i.e. dad, grandparents) My grandparents are what keep me from going nuts and doing something stupid. I hate to be so negative, but take it from someone who has been there and done that. Some people are just too selfish. They only really have kids so people will pay more attention to them, not because they want them. Look me up if you need to talk. Good luck!

Answer 3

Is it possible that your mom has a lot going on in her life? Like maybe she is really stressed out a lot and takes it out on you and your sister? It's no excuse for her to treat you that way, and a parent should NEVER tell their child that they are failures, but maybe she doesn't know how to take care of what she has on her plate. If I were you, I would do your best to keep the drama to a minimum, even if you aren't starting it, try to not escalate things, and steer clear of her outbursts. You will be the better person for it. Since she obviously doesn't want to listen to you, you need to just show her. It may be that you have to be the better person and know that she can't handle anything more than a nice conversation. You should just try to show her love and teach her how to love you in return...do your chores before she asks, give her a kiss goodnight even if you normally don't. Show her want you want from her. I hope it works out....and please know that you are not a failure...you just might have gotten a little jipped in the parent department...but you can rise above it! Good luck!

Answer 4

You'll have to understand its a tough world out there. Your best option is to be thick skinned. Gotta let it roll off. The more you can endure the easier it becomes. Right now your mind is preoccupied with pity, no ones here to offer sympathy, you gotta present yourself professional, be strong willed, endure everything thrown at you, do your best regardless of situation and move forward. My parents changed after I left the house, so don't expect anything to be different until everyone matures. You have to remember, that parents are coming online saying, "my daughter doesn't respect me". Everyone will get through it.

Answer 5

It is allways difficult in a situation like that. It makes you feel like thier is no solution to this problem. If you feel like you can just do your best to ignore it, try that. But if it so much of a problem that it cant be ignored, try talking to her. I had a friend in the same situation. She stood up to her mom, and the problem seemed to go away. The whole situation is about power. Kind of like when a bully puts someone down, they feel good about themselves. You should explain to your mom how terrible you feel when she tells you things like that. I hope your relationship with your mother improves!

Answer 6

Would you do me a favor. Go to the store and buy a small reasonable gift and a nice card. In your card write down everything that she is doing to hurt your feelings. Let her know that you do love her, and you want to be close. Ask how you two can be close friends?

You really need to wake her up. If your dad is available ask him for his help by talking to her.

God Bless

Answer 7

You sound like a great kid, your mom is missing out by pushing you away like this.

Hang in there, work hard in school and think about your future away from her.

Keep in mind that lots of mothers and daughters have this "push and pull" relationship early in life... it does get easier when you move out and live away from her. Our moms and dads are just people like everyone else, they have faults and make mistakes... the sooner you realize that and worry about yourself and your own happiness, the better.

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Answer 8

HI..Your mom sounds as though she has a lot of personal problems of her own..And it seems as though she takes out all her anger out on her daughters..( You never mentioned anything about your dad..Perhaps that's part of her problem)
I don't know if you girls are in school..If so, can you speak to a counselor OR a psychologist..
If that's not possible..how about a family member, that you can trust?
I wish I could help you more..but you definitely have to speak to a professional! Good Luck Girls!

Answer 9

wow ur mom is so mean. if ur mom is that stubborn, try giving her a taste of her own medicine by ignoring her as well. dont pay attention to her. she will just make u feel bad. just go hand out with some friends and get ur mind off of her. nxt time dont let her make u cry. be strong and im sure u already are by putting up with this woman. well got to go. hope i helped :)

Answer 10

find an adult you CAN talk to, and tell them your situation. Find one that you trust, and can be open with. Perhaps a teacher, a friend's parent, and aunt or uncle, or neighbor. They will listen, and guide you in the right direction, and give you good advice about your mom. Best of luck.