There is this guy who works with me and I told him I liked him and we went out on a date. I have just recently gotten out of a year long relationship that left me emotionally worn out. Also, I am going back to college in the fall and so is he and we would be 5 hours away from each other. He is very outgoing and funny, and sometimes it makes me feel boring cuz I cant keep up, he also likes to tease, which can be annoying. He is a great guy and cute, I just dont know how to tell if i should continue to go out with him. After the date I felt emotionally worn out, even though I had fun and like him, I felt depressed. I dont know why I feel like this. Any advice would be helpful, please.
2007-05-27 12:36:18 · 16 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I seem to be attracted to outgoing funny guys, then have a hard time keeping up with them. I think it is because I used to be so shy, and I hated myself for it. Now Im not shy but not super energetic. I just always feel the need to be more outgoing, like Im never outgoing enough. (I was picked on for being shy when I was in high school). I just feel bad about myself when I feel like Ive failed to be entertaining and outgoing 24/7.
2007-05-27 12:50:16 · update #1
We date people because they make us feel comfortable, because we enjoy spending time with them. After coming back from a date we are happy and joyful. If you dont feel that way, im not sure hes the guy for you. Even if he has great looks, he might be a little too outgoing for you and thats perfectly fine. Not everyone has TOO much energy!. Tell him that you need a break and try looking for a guy who is more laid back and easy going, the one who doesnt make you feel depressed and worn out.
hope this helps:)
2007-05-27 12:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should finish this relationship, why?.. you are bringing the answers, coz u are no sure about him, coz he is to party guy , like to tease a lot and u know that he is going to be unfaithful or u can to anticipate that.
any way, u are not sure of his love, it's cause he is not totally in love with u, coz he is nos making feel u that.
Listen, well is just an advice, be strong don't be scary about he will leave u go, cause if he'll do that is coz he never loved u, and u will not loose anything.
Sometimes "we" the girls be afraid to be alone, and when we like somebody , we don't want to loose that person and we accept all kind of terrible situations.. why??? that's why guys have that kind of behavior, it's better a good break up, try to keep the friendship and sabe ur dignity. At least you can get that.
If he really love u, he will be around , traveling to see u, calling u and keeping the love on, if not... don't worry you will be sure that u saved a lot of painthful and problems..
Good luck
2007-05-27 19:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by rochi_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need a break! If you felt emotionally drained from this guy after ONE date can you imagine what will happen 6 months down the track if you continue seeing him?
In my own experience you will know when you will be ready to date again......I too got out of an emotionally draining relationship of 8 yrs 2 yrs ago.....i meet and dated a few guys but it took me 18 months to be ready to WANT a relationship.....and I am so very happy with my current boyfriend!
You just need 'YOU' time.....to be a girl.....to hang out with girlfriends......to go shopping......go out.....HAVE FUN!
Use the time to think about what you truely want from a relationship.....and when you meet a guy your mindset will be in a stable and CLEAR state and you will be able to persue a true relationship.....not a fill-in one.
Just take time for yourself at the moment and sort your emotions and head out.
I wouldn't date this new guy.....it sounds like your not ready......you can be friends with him! But be aware of his draining nature on your emotional state. If he bugs you then don't hang out with him! Simple.
He may be cute and sweet and funny....but at the end of the day you need to look after YOU.....and do what you feel is right for YOU.....think of yourself for a change instead of the other person.
You will know when you are ready to date again....your mind and heart and emotions will tell you.....the butterfly feeling in your stomach....the excitedness of knowing you are going to see your new guy......this is when you are ready to move onto a new relationship!
Good luck and look after yourself!
XXX
2007-05-27 19:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww!! let me first start off by saying i honestly feel 4 u and wish u the best!!! i think that you are still recovering from your year long relationship and i think its really interfering with this relationship!!!! he soundz like a really sweet and fun guy and i kno u realize it to but u are juss overwhelmed with everything!!!!! so my advice to u would be to juss step bak a little bit and slow down because being 5 hours away from him may not be the best thing 4 u right now!!!!! explain to him how u feel and im sure he'll understand!!! also dont let this make u emotionally unstable because thats not very good!! juss have someone talk u through this rough time and juss slow down and im sure everythinng will work out 4 the best!!!!! i hope i helped u!!!!!! good luck girl!!!!!!!
2007-05-27 19:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lovelyy2012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you just got out of a one year relationship and need to have time to move on & so you can get all your feelings back together. So now isn't really a good time for you to be in a relationship.
2007-05-27 19:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by PRETTYGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that your thinking, same **** different guy. My advice is to you is to forget about the other guy and focus your energy on this one. I dont know of a surefire way to do this off hand but i guess do something that makes you feel young would be a good start.
2007-05-27 19:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need a little time to yourself to heal from that long relationship you got out of. Give it some time and then when you fee better give that guy another go.
2007-05-27 19:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by mexifelio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five hours is a long way away.. and it seems that there are things you don't like about him.. but maybe it's just not meant to be.. and you should just tell him that theres no point in dating, and that you can just be friends..
2007-05-27 19:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you can't really be yourself around him. Were you almost competing to keep up with him? Sounds like he has enough energy for 2 people. Stay friends, and if you meet up again and it works out, go for it.
2007-05-27 19:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by Siobhan W. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like:
1. You may not yet be ready to date; and
2. This guy isn't right for you.
Try someone else another time.
2007-05-27 19:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋