He only knew the girl for a month and a half over summer and she died so he said that was why it was hard to tell me. But he made a big deal about how i wasnt a virgin.
He also fooled around with another girl a few years ago.
I tend to be jealous, especially after that. I know he loves me.
He also told her about his older brother's death, but wouldnt tell me. He actually got mad when i found out. He says he loves me more than her but i dont believe that because he wont be open with me like he was with her.
Should i be understanding or do i have reason to be upset?
Am i being to sensitive? I dont know how to get ove him lying about being a virgin. I constantly think about him and her and I just dont know what to do!
Please help!!!
2007-05-27 11:41:08 · 13 answers · asked by need_serenity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just wanted to let everyone know that I am not jealous of the girl he had sex with. I feel terrible that he has had to deal with two people he loved die.
i just dont understand how he could tell me he loves me more when he got mad for something he willingly told her about...
2007-05-27 11:55:57 · update #1
You are too sensitive. Obviously you're quite young, so you'll learn to deal with this sort of thing as time goes on. It's simple - you need to accept anything that's happened before you. To have any kind of functioning relationship in the future, you have to be able to deal with a guys history.
It seems like he has been though much more than what you have. Go easy on him. Maybe he felt he'd made a mistake discussing personal stuff with the other girl, and learned a lesson from it. All you've done is get on his back. Another lesson learned
2007-05-27 12:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by cheepmeepmew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i think that having a little jealousy is normal. Now the fact that he didnt tell you he wasnt a virgin after 4 months is a little weird. He is probably going through a lot with his brother dying and all. But i think this relationship should end if he is fooling around with other girls and not telling you hes not a virgin, and not being open with you. But i dont know him like you do... so its up to you to take my advice, or do something about it.
2007-05-27 15:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by oh_so_snazzy =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill out. You're obviously young by the way you've reacted. No wonder he never told you, probably sh*t scared!!
You're lucky it was only one person he's been with. Just think it could be so much worse, he could've had 20 partners before you. At present there's one and he loves you, so relax and enjoy your relationship as you could ruin it by carrying this jealousy thing on.
Just re-read your question, take care there are a few deaths mentioned here - a friend of mine went out with a compulsive lyer, who would sob on his own lies?!
2007-05-27 11:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the guy is greiving for his first love as well as his brother. some people are easier to talk to than others. yes your upset, but he is with you so try not to give him a hard time.
if neither of you were virgins, you both have to accept that you both have some sort of history. Concentrate on enjoying being together, not what happened in the past.
2007-05-27 11:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not like he cheated on you, this happened before you were together. A lot of lads don't like opening up to people but he has told you now so maybe he feels comfortable enough to tell you things now. The worst thing you can do is overeact when he tells you things from his past cos he won't tell you anything else to save him getting earache!
2007-05-27 11:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by ShesElectric 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl .. wow .. my ex .. that bastard .. lied to me for 4 fkin years says he didnt lose his virginity wen i asked him about his ex .. im still a virgin .. and after he broek up with me he told me he screwed her and now that he wanted me to hate him for that .. now i have lost all respect for him .. during these 4-5 fkin years of knowing eachother he tried to prove to me that he loved me .. and even after that whole storry and everything we have bin thru .. he decided to end our relationship and our friendship .. o and by the way the ex came wen me and him were a year into the frendship and we just went out for a year after her broke up with her .. my opinion is u shud leave him .. before he plays u .. please dump him and never speak to him again .. u do not want to get hurt .. i still till this day cannot get over it and am hurt and i cant stop thinking of him and his ex try listen to mario winans - "i dont want to know" song .. itll make u feel better
2007-05-27 11:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're actually jealous of a dead woman? I think you're right to question his feelings for you, but for the wrong reasons. it isn't jealousy. it's feeling hurt that he told her intimate details that he didn't tell you. you really need to talk to him about these feelings and let him know that you feel betrayed because he doesn't seem to trust you like he did her.
2007-05-27 11:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if I were him, I'd worry about some daffy bird holding onto a grudge that long about something that's over and done with. If I were him, I'd tell you to "get over it" or "Get out.". Poor lad, he deserves better.
2007-05-27 15:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Skully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if that is your biggest problem in your relationship... then damn i wish i was that lucky... it should not be a big deal that he is not a virgin...Guys dont open up that easy... when they do open up it is a big deal.... dont force him to open up because if you do then you will be pushing him away... when he is ready to talk to you her will.. just give it time... you guys only been together for a short time..
2007-05-27 11:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he can be open and tell you stuff. Tell him that you want to be closer. If he rejects then hurry up and brak up with him.
2007-05-27 11:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by Big Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋