hi i,m a 21 year old chinese guy my girlfriend is black,when i started dating her when i was 19 my mother said why are you dating a black girl.Black girls don,t have a proper education and they get pregnant by different men all the time,but i did not lisen to her i just kept dating her because i love her soo much!! when i told my mom i want to marry her she got mad at me and when she saw my grilfriend she said oh you n!!!ger if you know what i mean and then she slap her said thanks for throwing your magic upon my son.i,m so mad a her i don,t ever want to talk to her again.
2007-05-27 11:35:38 · 9 answers · asked by jsh_mng 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it is not wrong at all. If you two love each other, then be with each other. I only want to give you a warning. When my wife and I got married, neither set of parents approved. (We are both of the same race, but both had dated inter racially.) My family has not spoken to us since since the wedding. We have tried to reestablish relations with them, but they will not give in. My wife's family spoke to us, but it was mostly screaming and fighting. We have now been married over 40 yr. Our families missed out on their grandchildren and are now missing out on their great-grandchildren.. Sooooo... if you marry your girlfriend, be prepared to lose your family. If we could do it all over again, we would get married again. But we would have the kind of ceremony we wanted instead of trying to please the parents and have the kind they thought was proper.
2007-05-27 12:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That pretty much solidifies my stereotype of Asian mothers (jk).
Seriously, some parents find race to be important. While it is ok to have ethnic preference for taste in the other sex, perpetuating stereotypes is dangerous. The younger generation should learn to look beyond ethnicity. That said, there are significant cultural differences which can be a problem for families. It is important to realize your mothers fears while ignorant, aren't completely unfounded... different cultures have different expectations from relationships.
Example: I offended a latin girl once because I insisted on washing my own dishes after a meal instead of letting her do it. We were both trying to be polite and it kind of backfired.
My mother was really mean to my girlfriend when I was 21, but we had a talk, set bounderies and expressed expectations. Things went a bit better after that, although it is sometimes difficult.
In short:
1)Look beyond the bigotry of your parents.
2)There are cultural differences you have to be aware when dating (regardless of race). The more distant the cultures, the more aware and sensitive you have to be.
3)Talk to your mother about the relationship and how you expect her to treat your girlfriends.
2007-05-27 11:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the way you think! I am relationship a core jap man and im chinese language myself. My father and mother HATED the inspiration that i'm relationship anybody out of my race. Honestly, its only a tradition factor. Black men and women to asians are like poison, hate to mention. they believe that another race except different asians are ok. I discovered that a few of my household discovered to take delivery of my bf. Even in the event you move marry her at present. It will likely be YEARS or virtually certainly not, relying on how cultural your father and mother are, earlier than they may be able to take delivery of your lady and long term kids. Just pronouncing, Dont do something till you spot a mild difference for your father and mother perspective in the direction of this field. thats while you recognize that they are going to come round in the end.
2016-09-05 13:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Whatever makes you happy is all that should matter. Your mother is stereotyping. Not all african-american women are that way. There are plenty of white girls that do the same. I am not sure of your race...unfortunatly, not many of them around where I live. You just do whatever you feel is right in your heart.
2007-05-27 11:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by r riggs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother she knows nothing of blacks. I am a black woman with a college degree and I don't have babies around the world. She is stereotyping. She needs to understand us before she knock us. So marry the girl if that is what you want. Obviously the girl you are involved with don't have babies around the globe.
2007-05-27 11:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dude. If you love the girl, who cares about what your mom thinks?
2007-05-27 11:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense, but i think that was very ignorant of ur mother and not just bcause im black. and if u really luv this girl u should just go 4 it and follow ur heart
2007-05-27 11:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by babychelle15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my thing is you date who you want if your mate makes you happy that's all that counts your mom was straight up wrong
2007-05-27 11:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by nightryder28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow .. ur mom is pretty mean .. and secondly if u rlly love her .. u would not care wut ur mom or anyone says .. and be with her .. NO it is not wrong because god created everyone equally .. now do wut ur heart tells u and be with her dont give a S H I T wut anyone says .. it is u and ur g/f s life .. other people are hatERS
2007-05-27 11:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋