The reason I am asking this is because I am a 27 year old virgin. I am 5-9" red head with a great figure, I dress attractivly and I think I am sending the right signals, but I have not had any sucesss in landing the right guy. Should I dress differently? Please help me.
2007-05-27 10:16:39 · 47 answers · asked by Kendra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you said you dress attractively, so going by that, I don['t think you should change that. Now, if that means slutty and desperate, Of course change the way you dress! I think you are just fine. I think you should stop looking for a guy to take away your virginity, and look for a husband to grow old with. After you're married, he'll take care of that other thing. =)
2007-05-27 10:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a age thing anymore. I do feel that you have to be a mature indivdual to actually have sex. It's great that you are 27 and still a virgin, if you havent found the right guy it's no need to rush that's your body and you should wait until you get ready. It don't have anything to do with the way you dress, I think it's just the standards you have and you know deep down you're not ready because if you dressed like a bum or like a slut you still may be a virgin, because you're not ready and it's not all it's crack up to be the first time around.
2007-05-27 10:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by nightryder28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...it might be the signals that you're sending.
You sound like an attractive lady that many guys would love to date. But, you might be sending the "wrong" signals. It's either that or you're so attractive that men are too intimidated to be your boyfriend.
I hate to give you a lecture - considering that you're a 27 year old adult - but you shouldn't be in a rush to lose your virginity. You should be enjoying the single life and be having fun. When you have fun and live life to its fullest, the right guy will come along and sweep you off your feet - and this is the guy who you should lose your virginity to.
*BTW, if you really like a guy and you think he is single, try asking him out first. Take some initiative. It'll be worth it.
2007-05-27 10:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe that you have reached the ripe old age of 27 and yet you still think that a different skirt is the way to meet the right man. If you have remained a virgin til now then you MUST know that a man attracted to your looks and nothing else is not worth having.
Dress exactly the same as you always do. If you want to change then have more confidence in yourself - that's always attractive.
2007-05-27 10:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by penny century 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right age for loosing your virginity. It all depends on being comfortable with yourself, and finding the right partner. It's great to stand your ground and not let someone take your virginity because they are not "the one". But at the same time..be careful you are not being too picky and will never let someone take your virginity unless they are perfect. No one is perfect. You should not dress differenty becaues you say you dress "attractively, and have a great figure". Unless "attractively" means too revealing. No one wants to have sex with a whore! You should go to places meant for meeting people.Goodluck!
Ps- You said you were 5'9. I bet that you are beautiful and the most beautiful women are tall(think models). But unfortunetly, many guys are shy and stay away from tall girls. This may be contributing to your problem. Just keep trying, it'll happen : )
2007-05-27 10:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Antoinette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how old you are. As long you're legal (which you obviously are lol) and it's with the right person, that's all that matters.
Maybe it really is just a matter of finding that Mr Right. If you're saving yourself for that special someone you might have to wait a long time. There's no harm in just fooling around and having fun with someone you like - as long as you're safe of course.
I'm not assuming you're holding out - it's just that you say in your question you're having trouble landing the RIGHT guy, not just "guys". If you're that concerned about losing your virginity maybe try being a little less picky?
2007-05-27 10:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't see virginity as something that you should get rid off - like a stain on your clothes. Be proud you're a virgin. Realize that it is a wonderful gift that you can only give once - so pick the guy after much thought. You don't want some random guy to receive this part of you, do you? Wait for someone you genuinely care about. I would also encourage you to wait until you're married as there is a promise of committment there. Don't worry about how you dress. You don't want to cheapen yourself or your virginity. You won't be respecting yourself and men won't respect you either. You're better than that.
2007-05-27 10:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you can tag an age on virginity. Having sex with someone goes deeper than just losing your virginity. Its about sharing love, friendship, and overall compassion for one another. Wait for the right one, losing your virginity shouldn't be planned either. Trust me, when you wait you'll be glad you did. So, wait for that special someone and before you know it, they'll fall in your lap, not because of the way you dress but because of the morals you have and for who you are. I know, it can be hard but in the long run you wont have to worry about being a single parent, getting your heart broken, or just feeling alone. You sound like an amazing person...stay strong. Be Safe, Be Smart..God Bless!
2007-05-27 10:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think no. Don't dress differently. That will only attract the wrong guy, and you may be seen as desperate. Be yourself, because "the true right guy" will love you for that, and if you don't act yourself, you're not going to find the "right guy" because they are going to liking a way you are changing yourself not you, and you don't want that. I'm a Christian, so I believe you should be married before you lose your virginity. Just wait, and be yourself, and eventually, the right guy will come and see you for the charm that you are, not a fake diamond.
2007-05-27 10:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would it matter what age you are, you should loose your virginity to the man you will marry. The man that you trust with your heart and soul, there is no age. I was married at 18, I have friends that got married later in life. Age is not the deciding factor and the fact that you are a virgin shows you have respect for your body and you are not going to just give it to any random guy. Wait until you are engaged or married.
2007-05-27 10:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋