I have been dating this guy for about 5 months now. Were not going out but we might as well be. we've been in tons of fights and didnt talk for about a month because he thought i had sex and lost my virginity to someone else, when i didnt. we just made up yesterday and hung out for the first time in a month or two last night and everything seemed like it was back to normal. we kissed and slept next to eachother just like always. i was really confident that we were finally good again when i came home today, but the more i think about it now the less sure i am. at the beginning of the night he was nice to me and sort of affectionate, but then he got drunk and started kissing me and wouldnt get off of me. So im not sure if the only reason things were "back to normal" between us was because he was drunk? i know he cares for me a lot and hes always been there for me but idk im not myself without him. its like i need him...i cant imagine a happy life without him. what should i do?
2007-05-27 07:54:44 · 10 answers · asked by Reese 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh boy... Dump him now. He's a loser.
2007-05-27 07:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard...when a guy drinks in a relationship, it really puts a lot of tension on things. I would tell him this: I'm most happy when we're together. If I wanted to be with someone else I wouldn't have worked this hard to make you realize that I'm head over heels for you. There's no need to worry about losing me to another guy when you make me feel this special. It's hard to judge how you feel about us or me when you drink...people say or do things they normally wouldn't when they're drunk. So I'm asking you to be real and just tell me how you feel about me. You might mention that losing your virginity is a big deal to you and you aren't going to have that moment wasted by some floosy that you aren't even in love with.
2007-05-27 15:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and ask him straight up what is going on with you guys. Give it some time. IF he feels like you "need" him he might take advantage of that and come around when he feels like it. Tell him you need to know and that he can't just come in and out of your life like that. Remember Respect is earned! Have a nice day and good luck to you
2007-05-27 14:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by civic9497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine a happy life with an alcoholic? This guy aways seems to keep you guessing as to the stability of your relationship. A lot of it has to do with is his being sober. It's almost like walking on egg shells.
In terms of self-identity, you are defined by you and not by him.
2007-05-27 15:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, focus on your life, get an education and realize your to young and immature for a real relationship.
2007-05-27 14:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly how many times are you going to ask this same question? Until you get a response you WANT to hear instead of what you NEED to hear?
2007-05-27 15:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reese, Hon my best advice is plain simple honesty ! Tell him everything you just told us. Hope it works out, I will pray for you !
2007-05-27 15:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one tell him how you feel..... also just a hint your real feeling come out when your drunk
2007-05-27 14:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait and u will see
2007-05-27 15:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him little more time
2007-05-27 15:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by rahul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋