It's not abuse, it's only using open hand, on the backside but yes, l do put some weight behind it. This is my right, and my choice as his mother. What gives some people the right to criticise me for this? l don't judge them for not doing it, and having badly reared children.
2007-05-27 07:53:02 · 18 answers · asked by bunnyears 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Count me in your corner. I am right there with you. I too believe that if you reached "spanking time", make it count! We still do the pants down, over the lap thing. I really don't care how many people criticise it, call it old fashioned (which is a complement to me) or accuse me of abuse. I know the laws, I guarantee i raise my children with in the law. I see the positive when I compare my girls with others in their classes, not even close. Granted, I am bias, but behaviour wise, my daughters blow everyone else away. I wouldn't change a thing.
I am sure you asked this question due to all the anti spanking nonsense on here. Props to you for not falling victim to it.
Good Luck
2007-05-29 23:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 7⤋
What gives people the right to criticise you for hitting your child like this? That is exactly what men who hit their wives used to say. The only difference is, a child is even more vulnerable than a grown adult.
You don't own your kid, you just have a responsibility to him.
What gives people the right to criticise? What a hilarious question! I have the right to criticise you for hitting your child for exactly the reason that I have a right to criticise someone for hitting you!
As for the poster who is telling us that kids who are spanked are less likely to end up in prison, that is the exact opposite of the truth. All the research shows that kids who are spanked are much more likely to end up in prison than kids who are not. Don't take my word for it - look it up. There has been a lot of research done on this and you will be able to find it easily.
2007-05-29 07:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
You will get all kinds of criticizing on here. Why does it bother you really? You have convinced yourself that it is your right?
People just don't like to hear parents PROUDLY announce that they smack their kids hard (with some weight behind it) believing that it isn't abuse.
Some people view it as abuse and don't see that there is any difference. Open hand, backside etc....
I know lots of children who aren't smacked, including mine and they are quite well behaved.
Don't confuse smacking with discipline. Smacking is punishment, discipline is to teach.
It is the parents who have no discipline in their homes that have badly reared children.
Is it your right? Is he your property??
Does your husband have the right to smack you? I guess so, because you married him so he should have the right?????
2007-05-27 19:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Spanking generally isn't criticized because of the pain it may cause, but more for the lesson it teaches children. If a 5 year old sees thats it OK for you to smack when you're angry, he thinks he has every right to smack someone when he's angry. Children can't differentiate who has the power to discipline, and if something teaches children that violence is a reasonable solution the general public will try and convince you to refrain from using it.
2007-05-27 15:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
Well, I was spanked, hard, and I Will alwayslways remember it. It ,made me SCARED of my dad and to this day I don't like him very much, but that hasn't just come from spanking. I respect your choice, but I think that there are better ways to correct your child(ren)'s behavior.
And to Pro Chef & Mom, the only reason why your children are so "well behaved" is because they are SCARED of you! They don't want to feel the pain again. And, by whipping them with a belt it's not teaching them solutions to their behavior. I'm not saying you don't love your children. I am saying that there are WAY better disaplin solutions than hurting your children physically and emotionally.
2007-05-27 16:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
I agree with you entirely! What does give the right for other people to judge us like that! There was a poll done about four years ago on this. There were 500 people asked how they were disciplined. The first two hundred were prisoners and they were put in time out for being bad. The next two hundred interviewed were policemen and they were spanked for doing wrong when they shouldn't have. The rest of the one hundred were random people in a city around lunch time and they had a mixture of both! I'm not saying that if you don't spank your kids that your kid will end up in prison but I am telling you they most likely won't if you do spank them! Make sure after you do it and things settle down to scoop them up and tell them you love them. Never spank them when your angry but also never apologize for spanking them either.
2007-05-27 15:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by waltdawg3 3 · 5⤊ 7⤋
I completely agree with you. Mom's should have the right to spank there children with out people criticizing them. Then again there is a fine line between spanking and abusing. People these days think that a small smack is abuse when in reality most of us were probably spanked (not abused) as children
2007-05-27 14:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by kitty81301 4 · 6⤊ 6⤋
Not spanking doesn't always lead to badly reared children so right there you are judging them.
Perhaps if you wern't so defensive people wouldn't question you.
2007-05-27 15:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
they better be doing really really bad for you to have to smack them...............that should be the LAST option!--and if your kids are sooo good and not badly reared why would you have to smack them at all???hmmmmmmmm
2007-05-31 11:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by slopoke6968 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Child abuser.... 99% of people who have smacked their child, do it because they where smacked. And all of those people will reply ...I got smacked and it didn't hurt me.... Ahhh but it did hurt them because they continue the cycle. You can not defend or justify a physical punishment against a little person.
2007-05-28 07:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by smc4u73 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋