Well, my 3-3/4 yr old was sleeping (he has a night light) & a thunderstorm came & turned out the lights. Of course he woke & screams. I got/carried him around while getting candles & flashlights. ( his twin, in another room never woke up)
Now there are “monsters”. I’ve reassured him, talked to him, showed him what (several) things are so to take away the mystery, used the spray bottle tech, used a wand tech, actually have run out of ideas.
My Q is :
Should I just let him sleep with me until such time as HE is ready to return “alone”? or will letting him sleep with me reinforce the monster idea?
2007-05-27 04:34:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well, it is very common to have a "monster" problem at that age! When I was young, I slept with my parents, and I feel that made it harder to sleep by myself as I got older! Maybe you should try reading him a story and and laying down with him for about 5 minutes! Maybe to make him laugh and think you're being serious, have a fun toolbelt of funny odds and ends. Have an inspection every night, until his theory is gone! Hope this helps!
2007-05-27 04:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't put him in your bed! My daughter did this with her oldest and she is now sorry. My grandmother told me about the Angels where bowling and that is why the noise from the thunderstorms and the this was shared with my daughters and their children. We used to open the curtains and what the storm and cheer the Angels for getting strikes. Now the monsters, just be supportive, keep chasing away the monsters with the spray bottle and what ever method that he feels comfortable using tonight, let your son make the choice, also don't allow any scary movies. Always ask the doctor and he might have some advice.
2007-05-27 04:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Donna Marie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him sleep in your bed, he won't want to leave. Reassure him monster's aren't real and let him ask any questions he may have about them. Consider getting a book from the bookstore that he can read about them. You could also buy one of those battery powered push lights that he can keep by his bedside. If the power ever goes out again, he can turn that on and go back to sleep. Knowing he has a backup light will make it less scary.
2007-05-27 04:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT let him start sleeping w/ you... you will open up a can of worms and have to "re separate " later and go thru the crying etc. like when you 1st started letting him goto sleep on his own.
We have Monster spray that we spray before bedtime. Get a clear spray bottle. Put some water in it w/ some food color and glitter... do the spraying before bed and all will be well.
He has to learn to comfort himself more and more as he gets older.
Good luck ;)
2007-05-27 05:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by debberu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making "monsters" fun...
During the day, with both twins, make monster masks out of paper plates and paint/crayons. Then all three of you can come up with monster noises and act silly. Let them chase you around and really exaggerate like your scared. They'll have a blast trying to scare you. Then you can be "Monster Mama" or "Tickle Monster" and get them back. Show your son that monsters are just a silly make-believe game and hopefully this will help him get over his fear.
2007-05-27 04:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many people use "anti monster spray" and "inspect for monsters" before bed, but my theory is this--doing those things reinforces in your child's mind that monsters are real. With my four year old I have always maintained the attitude that monsters are not real. In the non-scary daylight we talk about it. We talk about the fact that monsters are fun to pretend (you can use the mask idea here!) but that they are not real. If it comes up in the "scary" dark, remind them "remember? monsters aren't real!" Never vary from that idea or it plants the seed that they are real.
This is my opinion and worth as much as it cost you, but it works for me! Good luck!
2007-05-27 04:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by esyoubeebeewhy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let him sleep with you to me this would just be telling him there is something there. Have you tryed letting him sleep with is twin this might work or but them in the same room.
2007-05-27 04:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont put him in your bed. put a radio or tv in his room to give noise and light he will be fine
2007-05-27 04:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋