Household duties in family?

Question

What should do husband and what wife
Maybe they should share their work about house
How do you think about it?

Answer 1

I think each couple should sit down and figure it out before they get married and see what works for them.

Answer 2

We used to share everything when we both worked full time - whoever had time for laundry, cleaning, etc just did it.

Then I went back to school for an advanced degree while still working full time and my husband took over a lot - grocery shopping, laundry, taking care of the dogs, and I really appreciated it - I was usually gone from 530 am to 11 pm, 6 days a week for those couple years.

Now, I am a full-time homemaker, and he works about 40-50 hours a week. The house is strictly my domain - I do everything and I feel good about it. Whenever I feel bad about no longer contributing financially (it happens sometimes, even though we both choose for me to not work outside the home), he is fantastic about reminding how wonderfully I take care of him, our family, and our home. He does pretty much nothing around the house, but I don't do housework either after 4 pm - I treat it like a job with regular hours. I do cook dinner 5 nights a week, and we always clean up together afterward.

I don't know if it makes a difference, but we both grew up in homes that did not have boy-chores and girl-chores.

Answer 3

I feel that all the members of the family should pitch in to help with the cleaning.Not the kids who are still babies, but the children who are at least 4. even the Hubby should do his part. Husbands are the hardest to convince of that because he always says " I've been working my butt off all day, and you expect me to come home to chores?" They just don't stopped to think about how hard the day was for you. Too bad we can't make a list of everything we do from when we get up until the time we go to sleep . Let him try a day in our shoes, then see what he has to say at bedtime.

Answer 4

I believe you know the answer in your heart. Share life, Share a home. Share responsibilities... But the main thing is to talk about it and decide as a couple who will commit to what... then maybe trade some things when things are getting done... communication is the key.

Answer 5

Yes.........

Make a list of everythng that needs to be done
banking
shopping
floors
windows
repairs
cooking
washing/ironing clothes
accounting
general cleaning
(got the picture)
Now......give them all a number regarding how long or energy it takes to do them, assign then points based on how much work they are.

Now, you have a clear picture of energy exerted.

Divide that up. Until you make a map of how your total energy is being distributed you cannot verify or see any imbalance, this really works.

Answer 6

I fully agree that the husband and wife should share housecleaning duties, BUT if the wife is not working then it should be more her responsibility.

Answer 7

I believe that to they should share household duties

Answer 8

Say what?