A christian guy who spends most of his free time ministering to those less fortunate and also criminals and is completely absorbed in religion (the music he listens too, the books he reads, etc). He knows of my situation and said not to worrry he would help me. I have known his 4 months and we have been out to dinner a few times (although I know he isn't interested in dating me even though we met on a dating site, he is so absorbed with his ministry stuff that he isn't interested in any woman romantically. He has even let his work slip and lost an important account.
I am weeks away from being out on the street (i work but like alot of people I don't make enough and have a different schedule all the time) he has even offered to help me find a better job but then he seems to forget about it. He came by and gave me a card with an inspirational message on it and left. Haven't heard from him in a week. I find this very thoughtless.
2007-05-27 04:23:06 · 12 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think cards and prayers are ok when there has been a death or illness in one's family or someone has been depressed or has some emotional distress but tangible problems like not having food or shelter are better served with actual help rather than a card. You certainly would go up to a homeless mother and children and hand them a "God is with you" card would you?
2007-05-27 04:25:23 · update #1
Sorry to inform you dear lady but it is common for the good religious people of our community to offer only religious propaganda to the homeless.
I am so sorry about your situation. If I could help you financially I would, I truly would. You need real help and not someone to tell you to 'pray' about it. Do you have a Salvation Army near you? They have many programs to help you find better employment and they do NOT preach to you in the process.
How about the Human Resources in your state? In Texas they offer free computer classes. I should take one in fact.
I have been in your shoes, I had family to help with the house payment while I struggled to get Social Security though. We were not homeless. I scrambled to pay the electric bill though. Salvation Army helped me as well a Jewish Family Services.
This 'Christian' man is probably out protesting an abortion clinic right now. Ignore him and I am sorry he fooled you.
2007-05-27 04:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Gorgeous, this man is a waste of your time, as are all of these christians that are telling you to pray about it. There are resources available to you, but you have to look for them. Usually your department of Social Services will have several programs that can help you with emergency shelter, food, utility bills, etc. Some states also have workforce programs that help you gain new skills to make yourself more marketable in the current workforce.
Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, waste your time waiting for this guy to give you any actual help. From the sounds of things, he's a new convert to a local christian cult and feels he's got more important things to do than actually help someone that he actually CAN help. Praying for you will not pay your rent or put food on your table, getting the assistance you need will.
Pay a visit to your Department of Health and Social Services and apply for the help you need, just remember that while you receive the assistance you should be doing everything you can to put yourself in a situation in which you won't have to go through this again. Get a degree or a certification in something that you like that actually pays decently, and repay the favor by teaching someone else what you learned as you moved through life.
2007-05-27 14:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You met on a dating site, have gone out to dinner, but say he isn't interested in any woman romantically ...
Maybe you find his offer of help inadequate because you expect something else. What is it you expect? He should change who he is? Let you live in his home? If you are expecting something of him, have you espressed that to him, or is he supposed to guess what you want in the way of a white knight on the ever popular charging steed?
How out of touch with reality are you really? And is this kind of thinking also responsible for your being close to "out on the street"?
In short, why are you laying the blame on someone else?
2007-05-27 15:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned early in life that no matter what anyone promises the only person you can count on in a crunch is YOU! My advice if you need a better job or cheaper place to live you better start hustling TODAY. Do not waste any more time with him romantically. If he wants to buy dinner as a friend fine- but do not count on this guy for anything. Sounds like he is suffering from new convert delirium to me. If he keeps losing accounts and stuff he will be that homeless street preacher, so you do not have time for that crap in your life.
take care be strong but DTA (don't trust anyone)
2007-05-27 11:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can't really say on that little information, but he might just be a little thoughtless. I don't say this to mean that he's a bad person, but not everybody is capable of being compassionate all the time. The fact that he's a minister is no indication that he's a nice person--in fact in my experience it is often the opposite. Most of the religious officials I have known are hateful, ignorant and intolerant of anyone who doesn't believe what they believe.
Do you share his beliefs? If not, he may be waiting to help you until you profess agreement with him. Or he may be waiting until you're completely down and out, when you'll be more receptive to his preaching, and he can claim another soul.
If you need help, I recommend seeking it in a secular place with no other-worldy agenda.
2007-05-27 11:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dan X 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe just mabe the answer is on the inspirational card. remember the lame man that was lying on his bed at the temple gate asking for alms. Peters words were silver and gold have i not but what i do have i give you in the name of Jesus Christ Of Nazareth rise up and walk. This you can find in Acts 3 Do not sit back and wait on this man to give you a hand out Put your trust in God asking him to guide you in the right direction that will make things better for you. You will be ok .I will be praying for you. God Bless
2007-05-27 16:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Dovesss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you want someone to take responsibility for your life. He has offered help (Christians I know will help, not take over your life for you).
He saved you money (took you out for food) and offered help. But have you looked for a better job? Have you looked for a room mate or less expensive housing? What have you done to better your situation (besides criticizing a Christian?)?
2007-05-27 11:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
So, you think this guy is supposed to take responsibility for you and your kids? He has offered to help you find a better job, has offered emotional support, he has been polite, and honest in his approach. C'mon...quit feeling sorry for yourself and be thankful for his friendship!
2007-05-27 11:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by rico3151 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The guy's a freak. The unmanly fellow needs a solid beating to knock some sense into him.
2007-05-27 11:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You need to quit blaming everyone else for your problems. You need to confess your sin, pray as if everything depended upon your prayers, then work as if everything depended upon your efforts.
2007-05-27 11:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋