Was night rape?

Question

I was set up with a guy who was like six inxhes shorter than me I assumed he was harmless. We went out last night and we hit it off, and when we went back to my apartment I let things get carried away. I knew it was probably going to be a one night stand so and he didn't have protection, so he promised to pull out. When it was time, I told him to stop and when It ried to push him off, he held my shoulders down and finished. He then had the balls to ask me how it was. Was it rape? Is it something I could prosecute for? o I have any options?

Answer 1

Stop is no what ever you are doing. Yes it was he should of stopped and talked to you to see if you was okay. He was thinking of himself. You should of used something so you don't catch something or get pregnant. Yes still it is rape no matter how you look at it.

Answer 2

No matter how far you had let him go, once you said stop or no, and he didn't, it could be considered rape. This depends on the state that you live in..


Title: A Woman SHOULD Be Able To Change Her Mind During Sex
Created on: February 10, 2007

If a woman consents to having sex with a man but then during intercourse says no, and the man continues, is it rape? The answer depends on where you live. The highest courts of seven states, including Connecticut and Kansas, have ruled that a woman may withdraw her consent at any time, and if the man doesn't stop, he is committing rape. Illinois has become the first state to pass legislation giving a woman that right to change her mind. But in Maryland--as well as in North Carolina--when a woman says yes, she can't take it back once sex has begun--or, at least, she can't call the act rape.

Answer 3

What does a persons height have to do with anything?

You knew that it was "probably going to be a one night stand" and he "promised to pull out...."

Bad decision, not rape....you need to be tested and stay away from one night stands.

Use condoms every time, even if you choose to have one night stands. Keep assorted condoms in your possession for these times.

You obviously invited him back to your place, and since a lot of boys or men take that as an invitation to a one night stand, this is all on you.

Hopefully, you will learn to make better choices because of this.

Sad, and revolting. If anything, you are equally at fault in this mess.

Take care of yourself, and good luck.

Answer 4

Been in this type of situation no it wasnt a one night stand but i knew the guy had bene with the guy and was about to have sex with him and he did not have protection so i told him no. he forced the issue. In my situation i called the police and because i admitted it was consentual they wouldnt press charges but did send me to a clinic to be checked out and then gave me a good talking to. Basically this if you arent prepared then dont do it. Do not leave it to someone else to be prepared not in this day and age. Take responsibility for that yourself and then you wont have to worry about it.

Answer 5

Oh dear, that sounds awful, you need to be careful.

You did consent to the sex though, but him holding you down, im sure that could be done as some sort of assult.

Maybe you should call you local police station and talk to someone there, also be prepared to go through a long process of going to court, giving evidence, how his and your family are going to be. Its alot to think about.

Oh, I really feel for you, I would feel so violated if that was me. But you knew you were putting yourself in a dangerous situation. Email me i let me know what you plan todo [e-mail], in the mean time take care of yourself.

Answer 6

okay, you, yourself have stated "i let things get carried away. i knew it was probably going to be a one night stand" ...how in the world would you call that rape? you CANNOT consent in one breath and then when he is about to 'get his' call it rape...this is the exact reason when women are really raped, they are not believed.
yes, when a woman says 'no' the man should not proceed...but, once the woman has allowed things to go as far as you did, you cannot call it rape with a good conscience.
rape is when a woman says 'stop' and a man does not stop, however, you should not expect a judge to believe that a man should stop after he has gotten as far as you allowed this man to go...willingly
i think it is cruel on your part to allow him to go so far and then tell him to stop! get real!

Answer 7

How the heck are you gonna let a man have sex with you and expect him to get off you right when he is getting the most horny. Your not very smart that's the hardest thing for a man to do. Learn a lesson from it and don't let a man have sex with you without protection or knowing the guy. Screw your prosecuting options and don't do it again.
also get on the pill if thats how you play Mrs tease

Answer 8

agree with janica above.
you should have said no when he/you didn't have any protection, as you consented it would not stand for a rape, sorry.
see your GP/MD/Doc ASAP for advice, counselling, be checked over & sort out some sort of morning after-pill.
he did take advantage of you, try not to put yourself in the same position again, say no & mean it, from the start.

Answer 9

I would say no it was not rape because you to went to far with it. you allowed him to enter you without protection. any penetration that happen was allowed on your part. once started you already had *** in you from the pre-***. By law if you say no before it started then it rape but after you OK him to be in you it not but that Just My thoughts on the matter

Answer 10

Well this one is going to spark alot of talk. I am 46 and i am not sure how old you are but you made some bad choices. The first mistake was not having condoms yourself. Shame on you. The next bad choice you made was thinking that a guy would pull out just before he is about to blow. That will never happen because a guy thinks of himself when it comes to this. The next bad choice you made was thinking that this was any type of rape because when you laid down with him it became your choice to have sex with him. Talk to a woman who has been rapped with no choices and you will not throw that word out so lightly. Rape can put that man in jail for many years for something that you gave him permission to do and permission was when you put your legs in the air for him! Think before you follow through. You made a choice to have sex with him without a condom deal with the choice and go to the store and buy some condoms for next time. The worst mistake of all that you made was having sex with him to begin with. You did not know this guy at all and you laid down with him. Please stop and think about this. That is what you need to be thinking about.
TO THOSE ON HERE WHO GIVE HER ADVICE!!!!!
This is not rape and you all know that. Stop telling her that she should go see a lawyer. She made a stupid mistake!!!!! Let it be at that!!! We all make mistakes and his holding her shoulders down does not prove anything. She can not prove anything and all they have to do is find this stuff and her case is over with. Do you people understand that this guy could go to jail for many years for a decision that she made to lay down with him!!! think about that before you answer!!!!!

Answer 11

You got into the bed with him on your own without protection, and you believed him when he said he'd pull out? That is one of the oldest lies in the book. Next time you have sex, make sure it is with someone you want to have sex with, and make sure you are protected. Take some personal responsibility