Why do mothers always like to be in your bussines when it is not?

Question

Because she is always wanting to talk and be like Best Friends(which of course we are not) and I am like I already have like two best friends to talk to I need a mother. But then she gets all mad and will tell me to go to my room or do something that doesnt involve me in her face! So what is the deal with mothers?

Answer 1

us mothers want to be involved in our kids lives..and sometimes some of us try to be a best friend..we should be our kids best friend til they marry...we are the ones who are alwys there for you and care for you..get what you need and help with issues..school problems etc...but theres a limit as to how much we need to be involved....tell your mom this and tell her politely she is very important to you but you need her motherly instincts and help more than a best friend..be thankful tho you have amom..some girls dont and theyd love to have one "in their business" and i beg to differ ..as far as in some..i said some of your business??yes we have that right til your of age to be on your own sweetie.,..hug and good luck..

Answer 2

First of all, how old are you? Mother's tend to be more in daughter's lives than sons, because of the fact that they "have been there". One day you will learn that your mother is most definitely your best friend. She only wants to be close to you, not smother you. Talk to her about it, and if it means that much to her to spend time with you, set up one day a week that you can just do something with her. That worked for me! She may feel like you just don't want to be around her, and that's probably why she sends you to your room. And, I'm sure if you are still living at home, sometimes you can have an attitude with her, and not really realize that what you say or how you say it is very disrespectful. Try being nice, and plan a mother/daughter day......See how that works! Then maybe she will stay out of your personal business a little more than she has been!

Answer 3

Ok, you don't need a friend you need a mother.
What is your definition of a mother then?
Someone who cooks for you, cleans for you, washes your clothes, gives you money but has nothing to do with your private life?
You don't want a mother, you want a maid.
Remember when you were younger? what kind of relationship did you and your mother have then?
It's hard for a mother who held her child, loved her, raised her, bonded with her her whole life, and then that child tells her she doesn't want to talk to her and to butt out of her business.
Don't shut your mother out. She held you when you cried when you were little. She was the one there for you, and she is there for you now. But you keep slamming the door in her face.
When something goes wrong in your life, she will be the first one you come running to to fix it though.
You want to be treated like your grown, then grow up first.

Answer 4

My children are young (6 and 7) years old. Right now, when they do "act out" I remind them constantly: I'm not your friend, I'm your mother!
I also, suggest first, and when the job doesn't get done as they know they have to, I tell them what to do. Mothers, will always, do things, for the best interest of their children so, since you are still under "her care" legally, you should stop whining and listen my dear!

Answer 5

My mother is my friend. But she's still my mother. It's possible to be both. If you get along well, you can talk and have fun together. Just remember that she's still responsible for you and is an authority figure in your life. Sure, you have other friends, but let's face it, who's there for you more than Mom?

Answer 6

Hey you ungrateful child ... your mother gave birth to you ,,, do you know what kind of pain children bring when coming out! and then she nursed you took care of you when you cried at night , changed your many stinky diaper's.... took care of your cut's and bruises ... and the list goe's on and on but you owe her a little happiness ... this woman want's to be a part of your life and like's talking to your friend's well you should be glad she is cursing at them telling them to get the hell out and making you stay home ,, or beating you ,,,, just be thankful you even have a mother that care's ..... Un gratefulllllllll.... I hope you have a change of heart toward's your mother if she knew how you really felt it would probably hurt her...

Answer 7

First off she is your mother and she wants to know what is going on in your life. Second off you are what 16? It is her business because you live under her roof, she supports you, she pays for you, she provides for you, she BIRTHED you!

IT sounds like to me she is trying to be your mother but you are acting more like a spoiled self centered brat and personally I would send you to your room too.

Talking to your kids is part of parenting.

Answer 8

First... Drop the "likes". You're lucky your mother is not like me. Every time my daughters use "like" wrong I take an hour of computer away. My oldest daughter went 3 days without it one week.

Second, EVERYTHING you do is her business. She doesn't want to be your friend. She wants to know what you're doing to keep you from getting into trouble. She has every right to ask you questions.

Answer 9

she wants to spend time wit you. and also be a mother at the same time , the more time you spend with your parents (yeah ya can't stand em' now) but if you listen you'll be that much ahead of the next person, and besides if you talk to them enough them you find out cool thing's that they used to do (hard to believe but true)

Answer 10

Your Mom is your Mom.
Why does she need to be like a friend. Yes, you need to be close to her but not like a friend.
Tell her that she can't be like a friend b/c you need a real mom, tell her you don't want her like that and that you love her.
Every time don't forget she cares about.