Worried Parent...?

Question

My family is very religious, and we go to Church very often. But this is where the problem comes in. Recently, my son has entered the stage where he is starting to become an adult; I'm assuming you may know what I am talking about. But he is tempted to do many things that is basically sin. The question is: Does God spare mercy for those in those "confusing times"?

*I did not use the actual term, as you may all know.

Answer 1

God understands us better than we understand ourselves. He knows when we have "weak" moments. He loves all. He forgive all. I hope you have faith that this stage doesn't last and that God knows he will mature, be responsible and take control.
Hormones are a chemical in the body that can't be controlled. Ask any woman that has been pregnant or any girl who has had PMS. The chemical is fed to your brain whether you like it not. It's a natural process that we all go through. You did.
You should be understanding and try to love, encourage good behavior and be understanding.

Answer 2

Proverbs 22:6.

If you have followed that teaching and done the best you know how to up to this point, turn him over to the Lord and trust he(your son) will be taken care of.
I am not a shrink or doctor of any kind but I do have some experience with this "problem". Time and patience is very important right now. Keep doing the things you are doing as far as the religious part. Job had children that were far from right with God yet through his faith and obedience the same protective "hedge" around Job extended to his children.

Trust in the Lord and do not try to figure Him out. Use this opportunity as a faith building exercise. Everything will be just fine.

Answer 3

If your child is old enough to start becoming an adult then he is old enough to know right from wrong. Sin is sin, we are all born into a world of it. None of us can escape it until we come before the Lamb of God.

There is no gray area, straddle the fence. You either are or you are not sinning. These are the years that will shape the kind of adult he will be.

Teens will find away to sneak around. You are right to be concerned. The best that you can do is to teach him what is right. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

What ever he is doing I would not let it go. Show him what he is doing is wrong according to the Bible. Don't listen to others who say let your son have the freedom to choose what he wants to do. That is the way Satan wants us to think. Because he knows he has to get them while they are young.

Answer 4

The actual term is PUBERTY. I have no idea why you would be afraid to use it.

By sinning I'm assuming that you are concerned about smoking, drugs and or the *forbidden* masturbation issue? So I have to ask you -- did you not go through puberty?

Kids listen more than you give them credit for. You can be very religious and still be reasonable and understanding. However, if you make this poor kid feel dirty and evil you are going to have far more serious consequences on your hands.

If you believe that God created us then I find it difficult to believe that you would question His mercy on a kid entering into sexual maturity.

I hope you mellow out a little. I find your post disturbing and I have serious concern for the mental health of your child.

Answer 5

I was in your son's position, I made love, did vandalism, blackmail someone, went to the club every night, doped.

Now I realize they're wrong...

The only thing you can do is to pray for your son and do good examples in front of him - be loyal to your wife, go to the church, read bible every day, and stay away from alcohol.

Don't be too repressive to him or telling him that he's wrong, he's not in God's way. Just show him how deep your love to him. I now realize that my friends didn't care for me except their own "happiness". And the day I know how deep my mom's love to me, I can't say a word to her - she's already gone.

There's nothing sweeter than parents' love to their children.

Answer 6

Oh dear. You're on a path that will produce a damaged child, haunted by guilt and shame, unable to live happily in the body that God gave him, and maybe incapable of having loving and fulfilling relationships. There's a strong chance that he'll finish up hating you and maybe going off the rails in reaction.

If you believe in God, please believe that God created us with bodies that are capable of giving and receiving sexual pleasure, and through that pleasure expressing their love, support, and trust in their partner. What's happening to your son at the moment is no more and no less than a learning process; he's learning's happening to his body at this time in his life, just as when he was much younger he learned to talk. You wouldn't have stopped him learning to talk because of the possibility that at some point he might have learned some bad language, would you? A sensitive parent would guide him into using his gifts productively and constructively. I hope for his sake and yours that you're able to do this, although I have my doubts as long as you're under the influence of a Church that denies so many of the gifts of life.

Answer 7

God is very understanding.
He does not tolerate willful disobedience, but He can appreciate "confusing times."
Actually, it is during the teen-age years that you find out how well you did training him from his birth.
He may wrestle with ideas and practices that are not healthy, but your teachings (over the years) should eventually dominate.
That doesn't mean you do nothing now. I beg you to calmly and clearly remind him of how he should 'walk'.
The end result is what counts ....not the troblesome journey toward the end result.
God understands this.

Answer 8

To give an accurate answer you would have to explain the "sin". i myself am christian, but there is no need to hide their "sin" in order to help with the problem or in order to learn from this, be specific with your child let them know the importance of what they did and how it may affect them in the future (repercussions) God Forgives ALL so if your child is still learning god already forgave you haven't.

Answer 9

If your son knows that what he is doing is wrong, but he does it anyway, that is the sin. God will have mercy upon whom he chooses to have mercy upon. It sounds like your son should maybe go to church more and make friends with some people his age facing the same temptations.

Answer 10

oh He does. Do you attend a legalistic church ?
You must find His great mercy and compassion.
And it is normal, even necessary for young people to find their own way to faith