She's from my classroom and we're friends. I notice that she always stares at me when I'm not looking, tries to grab my attention etc. I like going to school everyday and knowing that someone has an interest for you... But I feel more insecure everyday about my looks... I start to think " If I don't fix myself, then she'll stop liking me.." I feel awkward around her and I can't be myself.. And when we do chat, it only lasts for a couple of minutes etc. What do I do to increase my self-esteem and stop worrying about her thoughts on me?..
2007-05-27 01:21:36 · 13 answers · asked by Michael M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Realize that people like you for who you are. Don't cahnge yourself for anyone but yourself. Just pick out the perks in your every morning. Make this a habit until you feel that you're confident. But it's normal to have a bit of insecurity. Everyine does. As for your classmate: Talk to her and ask her if she wants to possibly hang out sometime--only if you like her back.
2007-05-27 01:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to realize that she already likes you. That should be enough. Because you don't have to work to gain her attention, you only have to work to mess it up. She likes YOU, so don't try to be something else, just relax and be yourself. If it helps, try to think of topics of conversation ahead of time, like a mutual teacher you guys don't like, what she got on that last test, or whatever. Just remember to keep the conversation light, and to excuse yourself at the height of the conversation. ALWAYS keep them wanting more. Eventually though, you'll have to escalate the relationship and ask her out, and just do that when it seems right to do so.
2007-05-27 01:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Michael T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't like about guys, and what annoys me, is things like not shaving the whole face and leaving funny "designs" on their chin. Like do they forget to shave part of the chin? And some guys don't look that good in a mustache. I don't like a guy to put purple dye or whatever on his hair, the Punk look is awful. He looks better to just go with the natural look. Don't like the frosted hair on a a guy either. No pierced tongue, etc. Ouch!
2007-05-27 01:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get insecure about your looks but definatley keep up yourself. Clean & well dressed men are steps ahead of the common bum who lives in sweats and t-shirt.
Don't focus too much on this one girl, there's alot of girls out there - try out as many as you can.
By doing this, you'll get some practice interacting with females & learn about different personalities.
2007-05-27 01:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by psycho_majic_666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey,
its obvious that the gal has a thng for u..she is making it plain and simple..so go for it..ask her out..and man, about ur self esteem, a gal happens to like u..for some reason, sumthin in u has attracted her..so u c, in some way u are attractive...think that way..instead of feelin awkward, try to feel flattered because u should be! try to talk to her more..and remember, luks are not evrything..Best of Luck.
2007-05-27 01:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why all of the sudden did you start to think that you had to change? She started liking you as you are RIGHT NOW! Don't overthink it. Just be yourself. That's what brought her to you in the first place. Be confident in THAT. It's ok to want to improve but don't do it to "keep" anyone. Do it for yourself. Good luck!
2007-05-27 01:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by The Lord's Child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a good look in the mirro and say Im ok then go and chat her up also it may be better if you left off jerking yourself for awhile.~~
2007-05-27 01:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww you like her thats normal... but think of it this way... she already likes you so you dont need to do anything to change... she sees you everyday... and still likes you... she doesnt want you to change... so dont just be yourself... they same self she liked in the 1st place...need more help... e-mail me...
2007-05-27 01:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea. she obviously liked u b4. once u start trying to impress sum1, u change what they liked about u.
2007-05-27 01:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't worry she obviously liked you before you started worrying and trying to look better. also she likes you for who you are so don't worry.
2007-05-27 01:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by kelcihrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋