Do you share your knowledge?

Question

In what circumstances would you allow another to learn a life lesson on their own rather than giving them the answer?

It was interesting to find that people equate

sharing knowledge = giving advice

Answer 1

Knowledge can always be shared by one who is knowledgeable. Most people whether knowledgeable or not tend to give advice. It is the birthright of every individual to do so! Most individuals in the technical field never share their knowledge for the simple reason they desire cashing their knowledge with material richness.

Bill Gates the architect of the famous Windows program has no dearth of wealth yet even at this stage... he desires not sharing but cashing his knowledge by putting a premium price on his products. All are not born Madame Curie. She refused to accept a royalty on radium... the product she discovered in her lifetime. Her body decayed and died while extracting radium from pitchblende ore but she put the benefit of mankind before her interests.

I went in search of God at 11 years of age. By 13, my desire had become a firm resolve. Whatever... I shall see and meet God in this very life! At 37 years of age I finally realized God. A communion with God on one-to-one basis is my forte. Whatever Wisdom has been showered on me by the grace of God... all is available to mankind absolutely free of all costs.

This had been the first condition of God. I had accepted this condition while starting the spiritual journey. No matter what... no fees were ever to be charged from one except for my daily necessities. I share my Wisdom through the medium of Internet and live discourses with the world community. In my discourses which continue for a minimum period of four hours and are always extempore... none leaves dissatisfied! I never hold back anything... as is the pitcher... So is the Wisdom available to one! More on jnana wisdom - http://www.godrealized.com/Jnana.html

Answer 2

There's an old adage that states "history repeats itself". If I have an answer that could help anyone in any life situation, I'm going to share it. It wouldn't make sense to see another make the same mistake again and again. We humans can be so repetitive, and I'd thoroughly try to explain this while giving my advice as well. Then, that person can make up his/her own mind, to follow that advice, or go on without it. I really made a lot of mistakes in life when I didn't listen to my elders, or even friends for that matter, that gave me sensible advice and I just thought I would be different, knew more etc... Either I was completely stubborn or maybe the person didn't sound all that convincing when giving me advice.

Today, when I share what experiences I've been through, and thoroughly admit my stupidities to another, they are much better at receiving the knowledge than I once was when I was told. I just can't think of any situation, that I have any familiarity with, and a person seems confused or wanting to know some things to help eliminate doubts, would I not be willing to share what I know.
Then it's totally up to them to take its worth, and do what they want.

Answer 3

In all circumstances I would allow a person to learn a lifes lesson on their own. However only when they are mature enough to "learn" from their own mistakes.

Most people will only be convinced when they see the consequences of their actions, or behavior. It is human nature.

Answer 4

That is such a good question.

I would have to say it is a judgement call for each person. I used to just blab out advice whether people wanted it or not because I thought and most of the time was right, incidentally, that they should know this info.
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I now know that people can only truly absorb wise advice when they are ready to hear and more importantly, listen to it. So now I usually only advise when my opinion is sought and I am open to the possibility that I might not be totally right at all. As you can imagine this is not always an easy pill to swallow. However I find I grow as an individual and have more of a knowledge bank to draw upon when my advice is then sought after.
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It also makes me not so much of a no-it-all anymore. You see knowbody really needs to have someone else ramming their opinion down their throats. But everyone needs the listening ear and kind words of a friend.
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So that is how I am now. I listen and contribute when my viewpoint is sought. It isn't always easy when I can see someone making a mistake I myself made. But I now know that to force my point of view on someone when unasked can have the very opposite effect that was intended. We are all at different growth points in our lives and are only willing to heed some advice at a certain point in our growth and most importantly from specific people within our circle of family and friends. It is not my responsibility to pass on my wisdom to just anyone. It must be passed on only to those for whom it is meant.
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So I listen, learn and wait. Biding my time till there is someone for whom my assistance and advise is needed. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

I'd allow it anytime unless I'm 100% certain that the lesson would hurt them terribly without the possibility of healing. I wouldn't want to project my own doubts, pain, fears and failures on someone else's life. They might be wiser, have more luck, be less hurt, cope better or whatever. It's their life, let them live it. I try to let them come up with possible answers themselves, but tend not to give my own opinion.

You don't need to withhold your knowledge, the way in which you share it makes a difference too. If your advice starts with "I wouldn't do that if I were you 'cause.....", you should probably consider rephrasing your advice or not giving it at all.

Answer 6

Many people are offended when someone tries to assist them with advice or observations about their actions.

In the past I was very narrow minded and would never listen to anyone. At times I would do the exact opposite of what was being suggested. This was often a very painful lesson, but this too taught me a lot about life.

The result of this pain was a more open accepting attitude toward advice from others. I learned that not everyone is trying to take advantage of you. Sometimes people just want to help.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 7

I go one step further...
I irritate the $hit out of people by forcing it on them, almost against their will...
It's my job...it's WHAT I do..! (dramatic overkill)
My parents paid good money to send me away to college to get a degree and obtain all this damn knowledge, and by God, you're gonna let me share some of it, because otherwise it's completely useless, and makes me think I wasted 6 and 1/2 years of my best youthful life sitting behind a uncomfortable desk that was too small, at an ungodly hour of the morning, learning enough to know we're all $crewed in the long run, and all shafted in the short run, and the name of the game is a paycheck and a women you want to spend the next 2 years of your life with...
Don't get me started, dude...

Answer 8

As a teacher I try also to be a coach. I give hints but hate giving answers. I have found that I have had to give answers to students. When I deem it an emergency and there is little time to waste and it is for their own good--then I do give the answers instead of prodding the students.

When I was recently teaching students who failed exams for graduation I would give them answers. And this time after 4 tries they passed the science test they needed to graduate.

So, I've learned that when a person is in danger of failing or in a crisis--give them the ANSWER!

Netemara

Answer 9

It depends on the severity of the situation. Sometimes the wisest person allows events to unfold and re-sort themselves on their own without interfering. Keep in mind that hind-sight is 20/20 and that people can learn more from their mistakes then if you try to explain things to them beforehand. If you see someone about to make a poor decision that could affect their entire life, it is very important that you at least give them the option to see things another way.

Desire also plays a large role. If someone you know and care about is throwing their life away, out of their own desire, do you have a right to step in? This is the real question. When it comes to life, should we convince people to see things our way or let them do what they want?

To answer your question more directly, I think when it comes to children and young adults it is very important to intervene and help them to see things in a more positive light, as their minds are too young to fully understand morality. You do not want them to learn by their mistakes, because the mistakes they make could do damage to their overall mental and physical health. In the case of adults, if they're not making the right decisions in life it's probably because they have chosen not to, not because they are ignorant, and are more satisfied purposely making mistakes.

Answer 10

You can't "allow" another person to learn anything, that is their choice. You can give someone all the answers that you want, and they may have the information in their heads but only when they connect heart to mind will the lesson truly be learned, no one can do that for another person.

Answer 11

It depends on their age, maturity level, and demonstrated level of ability to assume responsibility.

First, it depends upon whether or not I even have the answer to give them. It also depends on whether or not the person will accept or can understand such answers as I can provide.

Growing up is a process of learning more and more how to learn lessons on ones own.