ok so this might be abit long but i really need help with my boyfriend
my boyfriend has been really off with me for the past couple of weeks and when i asked him why he said it was my fault but i dont know what i done wrong so he walked out of the house and went somewhere why he was gone he left his phone and he got a text so i looked at it and it was his boss fair enough i fault but then i had this erge to go down hes phone and i did i wish i didnt know but it happend i found pics of other girls and texts sent to and from her he come back about 4 hours later and i asked him about and he said it was his brothers girlfriend but he has not got a pic phone so she sent it to him the thing is i dont know if it is his brothers girlfreind or not should i put it down to bros girlfriend and leave it or do you think it could be more than that? i really hope he wouldnt cheat on me but i just dont know i have just had his baby and i fill really fat and ugly btw for reading this i really need help
2007-05-27 00:59:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you even know his brothers girlfriend??? if you dont you might want to meet her or at least talk to his brother about her just to see... and if it turns out she is his brothers girlfriend then you might want to talk about that with his brother... since you just had a kid i would suggest a break up... but if you really think that you need to then do what you have to... but i would go to his brother... e-mail me and tell me how it goes... GOOD LUCK...
2007-05-27 01:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds suspicious to me. Look at his brother's girlfriend, I suppose, but it sounds like a line of BS to me.
If he's angry and says it's your fault, that is also not true. If he can't tell you specifically what you did to upset him, then he's lying about that as well. No one is mad for 'no' reason.
I'm sorry that he's doing this to you right after you had his baby, but unfortunately it happens. Actually, it happened to me when I was pregnant, my husband was cheating with someone from where he worked.
Usually if you had no suspicions before, and did trust him at one time, then you suddenly notice changes in behaviour and become suspicious... there is a reason for it.
Depending on how much you want to stay in this relationship, I think you should really sit down and think about the pros and cons of it all, and decide if you want to try and work through this or get a lawyer and make sure your child will be provided for in the future.
2007-05-27 08:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by KrysNyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would tell the boyfriend to go to ****. Why does he have a picture of his brother's girlfriend on HIS phone? That's odd. Before you think about ending the relationship though, decide if it's what you REALLY want... maybe you could talk to him about going to therapy sessions? You do have a baby to consider, but don't let that be the ONLY reason you stay with him. Best of Luck !!
2007-05-27 08:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Cujo's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl.......You gotta ask yourself why after rec. these pics, he would text this girl back & forth & why is she texting him. Also, you can tell by the content of the messages whether it's for his brother or not. If she didn't hint about his brother in her text messages that would be my clue there. You just had his baby and that makes you beautiful regardless because you gave life. He says you're the cause of him acting funky but he won't say what it is about you? Red flag. Shifting the blame, making you feel insecure....Next he'll get on you about going through his things. ..Your man seems to have his attention redirected and if you don't want to address it, that's o.k., you own that right but I wouldn't be blind to what I see.
2007-05-27 08:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His answer doesn't hold water. It looks to me as though he is cheating. The big question is how do you react to that. No one can tell you. If not for the baby it is rather easy - move on down the road. But with his baby - not a simple decision.
I can say that if he has cheated - he very most likely will again.
2007-05-27 08:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Moondog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ur having my baby ,and it means so much 2 me! listen im a man the chances of u finding pic's of my brothers lady in my phone r just what u think they r! u want an out?was she in thong's?.... back 2 real! there's a problem . u can smell it! think u need 2 sit him down and talk! but, know what u want!u want him? u dont have to bend....well not 2 much! but when u talk listen ! and dont give him room 2 slide by with bs! and trust ur final thought suga!
2007-05-27 08:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by sitting_in_th3_cut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask if you can meet his brothers girlfriend. If he refuses, then he is probably cheating. I'm really sorry. You really need to follow your instincts... If they are telling you that he is cheating, then he probably is. If he is though, please know that everything will be alright. It might be hard, but woman are strong, and you can do what you need to do to give your child the life he/she deserves. Good luck, and I will pray that your situation improves. I hope this helps.
2007-05-27 08:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Katrina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really place more value on yourself than this.
Guys look at other girls & sometimes act on thier wants.
What makes you think he's not going to take a chance with a sexy young & child-free girl?
Now you've given birth to his child & you'll be stuck at home taking care of it while he finds a new piece of ***.
Congrats...you've joined the long list of "baby's mommas".
Many guys (including myself) avoid these types of females.
2007-05-27 08:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by psycho_majic_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since u had his BABY u should start talking to him about how him texting this girl makes u feel. He should respect tht and explain what is going on and maybe you have misunderstood it and is someting innocent.
You should try and trust him but if he still acts weird either talk to him about it OR ditch him
u need more selfconfidence u r BeAuTiFuL !!!!
2007-05-27 08:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me i would apologize about the work thing becuase is was kinda my fault which is really yours. Then i would go to his brother and see if its his girlfriend. I know you guys should trust each other but he could be cheating on you...if he is....kick his ***!!
2007-05-27 08:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋