jehovha witness have befriended my 86 year old mother, this 'friendship has been going on since my father?

Question

passed away 5 years ago. She has become mentally unstable and paranoid that people are against her and that they are going to kill her and she is being watched all the time. And that others are being taken away to other countries to be killed.
She has only been like this since these people started seeing her.
Has any one else had these kind of dealings, do these people play mind games?

Answer 1

what was she like before? could this just be age related ie alzheimers
if not then you need to get her to the doc see what he says then get them to stay well away from her

Answer 2

The Jehovah's Witness may have just been kind in befriending your Mother, but she is very vulnerable and even though she has you, she might feel lonely without your Father. But, I would go with her to her Doctor, for a check-up and see if there is anything which can be done, through medication to help her to feel more stable. As she is paranoid, she may be referred to a Psychiatrist, and the best thing that you can do is to be there for her, as you obviously are and to support her. You could always have a word with the Jehovah's Witness, to ask what is going on, and be straight with this person, so that he or she knows that your Mother has a family member who is very close to her, and who is doing her utmost to protect her. I am not sure if these people play mind games, but you are right to be alarmed. I hope that this helps.

Answer 3

Have you ever had a Jehovah's Witness knock at your door? Did you tell them that you weren't interested but they still pushed the 'Watch Tower' magazine into your hand?

They are bullies! Your mother may or may not have Alzheimer's as has been suggested - but this still doesn't give these people the right to do what they are doing!

It could be purely coincidental that the condition came on at about the time these people have been seeing her - but I had an aunt who went through a similar thing when she was well enough to cope with it - she told me that they were liars and wanted her money.

I would strongly recommend that you speak to your Mother's Doctor and also either her solicitor or the CAB. Has she already made a will? If so, the chances of her being able to change it legally while mentally unstable are remote!

You need professional advise and you need it quickly!

Answer 4

I'm sure that your Mum had a very long relationship with your Dad and now that she is on her own it is going to hurt, even five years after the event. Can you get to visit her more often? Is there a neighbour she can turn to or can you encourage her to engage with other folks of a similar age in her neighbourhood?

I don't know enough about the JW's to help you but there are always elements in any organisation that prey upon the weak and vulnerable. Their motives are not always clear or, indeed, honourable.

She may need to be assessed by her doctor. It could be that being on her own, she is not getting the proper nutrition she needs and a simple change in diet will help that. And maybe she needs a hobby like her garden to engage her and keep her active. My Gran is 93 and regularly frets about things she cannot possibly know about. She used to be very active but her frailty stops her from looking after her garden and baking pastries - her two greatest loves. Instead, her mind is uncommonly active and she literally 'thinks too much' and speculates about things outside her control.

And you have to accept the fact that at 86, your Mum may be vulnerable to a range of mental illnesses that will cause her to think the worst. Again, your doctor should be able to help you in diagnosing this.

I wish your Mum well and I hope she is able to get the treatment she needs. I can only imagine what it is doing to you that you had to share this while seeking guidance and help.

And any caller to her door can be stopped with a court order or restraining order.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Are you certain that it may not be some from of dementia or Alzheimer's setting in? Sad I know, but she may not be paranoid about all these things simply because an 'organisation came into her life five years ago' but because her state of mind is slipping. Are you trying to spot a link that isn't really there so that you don't have to look for a 'real' reason?

Look after her and make sure that all of her finances are in order and that she hasn't been pressurised into signing anything away and you should be fine!

Answer 7

Personally I think the Jehovhas witnesses are dangerous and pray upon vunerable and mentally ill people. They will turn them against their own families if their family are not witnesses as well. Beware! I have experianced this in my own community and even though the witnesses believe they are right and mean well they can cause terrible problems. Try being there when they come next time and ask them in to pray with you. See what happens and then draw you own conclusions. I think you'll see how intolerent they are to any other form of christian or other religion. Good Luck. You'll need it. Also talk to you local doctor and social worker to get her accessed.

Answer 8

Hiya, Im not a jehova witness, but they bring the book to me everymonth, they are so polite i just cant bring myself to shut the door in their faces. I dont have a religion and i dont want one. I found these people to be really kind though not playing mind games at all.

Have you been there with your mum when they have been around, I would try and arrange this, maybe talk to them yourself.

it could be a coincidence that your mum has become unwell since they have been about, seek some medical advice maybe.

Good luck, i hope your mum will be ok...

Answer 9

I have studied with them and do not think these problems are down to them. The only thing i can think of that could have caused her to think like that are that there have been cases where Witnesses have suffered persecution and she may have heard about that. Many Witnesses were killed during the holocaust and have suffered imprisonment because of their beliefs in communist countries. It may be that hearing about this has frightened her and she has interpreted it wrongly.
The watching thing could be because people can be disfellowshipped if caught doing something immoral. This only happens to baptised Witnesses not to someone who is studying. One thing i noticed was that before you get involved you do not realise people in your area who are involved and you get to know them and see them around as they are always out and about and speak to you if they see you in town. She may find this strange as people tend to ignore each other these days and it may feel strange that these people are actually taking an interest. They live locally so it is usual to see them around quite a lot.
It sounds to me as if she may already have some problems and something has triggered this reaction. Many people will tell you bad stories about Witnesses as their beliefs set them apart. She may have been advised against attending by someone else and may have started to imagine problems where there are none.

Answer 10

I seriously doubt that the Jehovah Witnesses have anything to do with your mothers paranoia...This sounds like you mom has some deeper issues. Early stages of Alzheimer's perhaps or some other mental disorder. Mom should not be left alone right now and It would be a good idea to take mom to see her family Dr. and on to a specialist...good luck with it.

Answer 11

Sounds like dimensia a natural part of being 86 but that can be treated by a doctor. Spend more time with mother then won't have to worry about others taking advantage of her.