I'm 45 business woman and I work as H.R. manager in a big multinational company.
Last week, during a big convention in an exotic location, I had to suffer terribly because of kidney stones.
After hours of excruciating pain and nobody who could help me, in spite of all my efforts, I didn't manage to fight back the tears and I started silently crying in front of many of my colleagues.
I felt very embarassed...
What do you think?
Have you ever experienced something similar?
2007-05-26 21:14:19 · 12 answers · asked by laura c 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When one is in pain. It is understandable that in cases when it is sever enough, that one shows physical signs of discomfort (i.e. crying). Its no big deal. And though it upsets me to say this, it may not have been so understandable had you been a man. But in truth people are more empathetic and less judgemental than we tend to think. It's not worth being embarassed about.
2007-05-26 21:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by ohno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been a couple of years for me. My stomach was hurting so bad. All I could do was lie there and wait for the pain to go away. And yes...I cried! Eventually, I went to the emergency room and found out that I had an ulcer. OUCH! Personally, I don't think age plays a factor when it comes to pain. If something hurts and there's nothing you can do to make the pain go away, I think it's only natural that you would cry. I have always heard that kidney stones hurt very badly. It's enough to bring a grown man to his knees, so I know this wasn't easy for you at all. Don't be embarassed b/c you know how you felt. Crying is just an emotional thing. You were hurting and there was nothing to ease the pain. Did your colleagues know you had kidney stones? If they did, they probably knew why you were crying. If they didn't know, they were probably more concerned than anything. I wouldn't worry about it at all. Besides, there is nothing you can do about it now. So put it all behind you, and move forward.
2016-05-18 23:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. It's a miserable feeling when you are in so much pain and you are not somewhere you can get help for it. I really wonder about the people you work with! Did anyone offer you any tylonol or anything or ask if there was anything they could do? Was any concern showed at all to you? Kidney stones are very very painful. I am surprised you wern't screaming! I hve rheumatoid athrutitis and I know what pain is and I know what it's like to be somewhere and feel completely hopeless. I hope you are doing much better now? I am sorry you had to go through that. I also commend you for trying to work while is so much pain. Not many a person can do that with kidney stones.
2007-05-26 21:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to cry when experiencing intense pain. There's nothing unacceptable about it. The idea that certain people should repress tears is a ridiculous notion. We're all human.
No worries. Those of your colleagues who are decent people shouldn't have any problems with the situation. Those who do have a problem with it are rather immature and lack empathy.
My concern is that you were working while you had kidney stones, and that you remained with your colleagues for "hours" through such pain. You shouldn't feel obligated to stick out situations like that, just get some medical attention. Your health is most important.
2007-05-26 21:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by raindreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a similar experience. I have had cancer 3 times. Most recently, I had a double mastectomy. A few days ago I was in so much pain while shopping in Walmart that I broke down in tears and couldn't stop. One of the greeters came to me & put her arm around me & began praying. It helped me so much. I am not embarassed and I hope you aren't either. Did you know that crying releases endorphins in the brain? Endorphins are the body's natural form of morphine. Crying feels good. Cry all you want and who cares what others think? I hope you aren't in pain anymore.
2007-05-30 08:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kidney stones are widely acknowledged as one of the most painful of all maladies-anyone who could not understand your tears has no compassion. As a health care giver I witness people in terrible pain with all kinds of reactions, from silent tears to screaming to violence. You should actually be proud of your restraint in the situation you describe.
2007-05-26 21:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shedding tears is actually good.It helps in reducing stress and also diverts our own attention.Hence it shud be perfectly okay for even adults to cry in front of others.
Also, crying in front of others also will help gain support from others to reduce pain and suffering.
One should never ever be ashamed of true tears and real laughter.
2007-05-26 22:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jaladhi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! If you can't cry when you've got kidney stones, when can you? The pain is intense and if it had been me I would have been howling like a wolf no matter who was there!
I hope you're better now?
2007-05-26 21:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sybil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor love - and nobody came to help you? Suffered in silence. How brave is that? I don't blame you for letting pain out because I've heard they can and are very painful.
Don't feel ashamed. Feel proud of your strength and courage
Hope you get it sorted soon
2007-05-26 21:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im 14 but i think adults feel pain and sometimes cry if its too much. i have seen it happen to both of my parents
2007-05-26 21:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋