At my old job, you often see new workers come in all the time. A new girl caught my eye. She stuck out from the powder puff glitsy chicks there, she had her own "Smoke a cig and make it hot" steez. One day i made my move while walking down a hallway by asking her how she liked it at the new job and she says "Its pretty okay" with a smile. I said "thats good, hope i see you around", then she says "yeah i would like that". Days later she wore a Jamaican t-shirt, since that is where my parents are from. i asked her part she was from. I then asked her how old she was and she said 24. im shock cuz i was only 19 at the time. So i was intrigued. i like older girls. The next day, i wrote her a not saying "why do you have to have a boyfriend" and she writes back "why did it take so long to meet you". We flirted more and more. She told me she broke up with her boyfriend but still lives with him (temporarily) and was happy to go out with me. Days after she became distant towards me. wat went bad?
2007-05-26 16:40:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we never had the date.
2007-05-26 16:52:33 · update #1
She doesn't know what she wants.
What do you think she does while she's at her bf's house? Odds are they broke up, but they're still friends with benefits. She doesn't know what she wants, and she doesn't want to hurt you. So she figures, the more distance she has from you, the less likely you'll get hurt.
You did nothing wrong.
2007-05-26 16:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple-She's still with her boyfriend and you were a convenient distraction for her while she goes through whatever drama is going on in her life.
People don't generally continue to live together after they break up, so that should have been a red flag for you. She may be going through hard times with her man, but that's not your problem. What you don't want is someone to play with your emotions and get you all caught up only to say 4 months down the line that she's still in love with her "ex" whom she's still living with.
Leave that girl alone.
2007-05-26 16:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who is still living with their significant other isn't really free yet. You should've said something like "let me know when you're on your own again," nicely of course. Offered your friendship, with regrets that you couldn't date yet.
Or it could've been something that happened on the date, you don't say anything about that. But I'd make it a practice never to date a woman who is living with, or married to, another person. It's just cleaner and safer. Women will respect you more.
2007-05-26 16:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in the beginning she was just being nice and it turned into harmless flirting, but I don't think she was interested in dating you. She shouldn't have said the things she did if she didn't mean them, but we all say things when we are put on the spot and don't want to hurt someone. You might have come on too strong or she actually is living with someone and really can't go out with you. Either way, I'd move on and leave her alone, don't look too desperate. Her loss, right?
2007-05-26 16:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She maybe still seeing her boyfriend. Or she may not be willing to jump right back into another relationship, maybe she's wise in that area. It's better for you both if she takes aminute between relationships to collect herself. Maybe you should be patient and see what happens. Make it clear that you just want to be friends, so if she needs an ear.
2007-05-26 16:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by marigold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was just a fling. or shes just a cheat, probably best you found out quick
2007-05-26 16:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋