How long should I allow myself to plan for a wedding?

Question

Any advice? I'm newly engaged and have no idea. Is it tradition that the mother's parent(s) pay for the ceremony and reception (jewish)?

Answer 1

I would check with your traditions, I do believe a year to 18 months is more than enough time. As for the brides parents paying ... well now adays its changed a lot due to finances of the couples marrying. I would talk with them and your fiancee's parents to see who will contribute for what. Good Luck and congratulations!!

Answer 2

Depending how soon your planning on getting married.
Now would be a good time to start wrighting things down.
Makeing a guest list and who can come with them.
Kids or no kids allowed.?
Open bar for 1 hr or for the entire reception?
Sitdown or buffet style...Chicken or Beef.
For the gown, you need to at least 6 to 18 weeks..
You DO NOT ORDER THE GOWN THE SAME SIZE AS THE DRESS YOU WEAR TO WORK OR CHURCH.
Wedding gowns are completly made different!
The size is always 3 to 4 times bigger then what you normally wear...
When you get the gown, you will try it on, then it will get taken in. PROVIDED YOU ORDERED the right size gown.
You can ALWAYS TAKE A GOWN IN, THERE IS PLENTY OF MATERIAL.....YOU CAN'T ALWAYS LET A GOWN OUT.
THERE IS ONLY ABOUT 1 INCH. TO USE....
I used to be a Bridal Consultant many yrs ago, when JC PENNY had a Bridal dept.
They do have in the Catalogue dept, a Bridal Catalogue, go get one, and you can order a gown, have it sent to the store and try it on...
Also, when you order the girls dresses, make sure all the dress's are cut from the same dye lot...with the excepttion of the MAID OF HONOR, she will probably have the same dress of a different color?
So you see you have LOTS to do...music, photos.
Church wedding, inside...maybe outside...what if it rains?
Take your time,,,but most of all ENJOY IT.

Answer 3

This tradition really depends on the economic situation for both the parents and the couple. If the couple is older and/or has been married/living together (or on their own) for a while, it would be more accepted for the couple to fund a good portion of the event.

Parents are not obligated to do the wedding, etc. Often times, it get outs of hand. Don't cause your parent to have to take out a loan, or even hit the savings or retirement funds. After all, that money is to care for them when you are paying for children's college and preparing for your retirement.

Come up with a budget and stick to it. There are lots of ways to cut corners but still be stylish and hospitable.

We offered our children X amount of dollars and told them they could "keep" whatever was leftover.... It scaled the event down tremendously and was lots of fun and memories.

Answer 4

Because I grow up in a very traditional family...two years of engagement has always been the minimum. This is boring though. I say one year. Give yourself some room to plan but not too much where you start changing your mind all the time.

Answer 5

I would say plan for a year. Even if you get all the stuff accomplished you want to give yourself a little time before the wedding without any rushing around. My niece is getting married soon and it's taking 3 months to get her dress in then she has to go through several fittings. Take your time. Look around for the best deals before making any commitments. Congratulations and Best of luck

Answer 6

It depends on how much you are planning to do for your weddding...if you want something VERY simple then you can do it pretty quickly. If you want a nice wedding where you want to make sure everything is perfect I would give at least 8 months to a year or more. I am getting married in September and had about 11 months to plan....and its VERY stressful...so give yourself 6 months at the very least. Good luck, congrats and enjoy!!

Answer 7

Depends really on how big of a wedding you want? You want ALL the bells and whistles---plan about 6-9 months in advance.
You want something smaller and intimate: about 4-6 months.
You want the JOP: 3 days notice. :)

Answer 8

3 to 6 months depending on the size, its its going to be a small wedding, 3 months and less, if its going to be an over the top extravagant wedding 6 months to a year. thats all.

Answer 9

it depends on what kind of wedding and how large it will be. i took three months to plan mine. it was very small, only about 80 guests and i had it at my aunts house. we got married on the balcony and everybody else watched from below. i decorated everything myself and it was wonderful.

just decide what all you want and be realistic about how long it will take for you to achieve this. will you have a wedding planner?

Answer 10

When you're fully ready for motherhood and wife-hood :) There's no rush needed since you're already engaged. Sorry but I have no idea about the tradition thing since I'm a filipina. :) Good lock.