I'm 'dating' a guy just now who is way out of my league. I have a high IQ and am just about to start working toward a University degree. He has 4 degrees and a high profile job. I REALLY like him. Am I "punching above my weight"?
2007-05-26 16:10:49 · 35 answers · asked by annie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ya..a bit too high
2007-05-26 16:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 9⤋
No, you seem a bit inexperienced. A person's worth is only imagined. There is no such thing as worthiness.
If he loves you, he loves you. Don't give it up or continue to think that way. It is silly.
What does a high IQ or job have to do with love if there's a connection? Almost nothing if the environment is right.
Though having a high IQ is nice, I don't think it is what makes a person special. There many other attributes and thought processes not included, and personality is also important.
Trust me, no one is worth more than another.
You should value yourself as a person, as he does himself.
2007-05-26 16:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Am I "punching above my weight?"
1)Don't know 'til you try.
2) Number of degrees isn't the only measure of a person
3) Most guys don't worry about that , & actually might be less likely to go for a women that is professionally equal , or greater . That's more of a woman thing .
4 ) He might be thinking YOU are way out of his league , or..
4a) Not thinking about it at all ;D
The important thing:" I REALLY like him. ...."
Just enjoy it , & don't mess it up overthinking it & worrying . ( Keeping in mind, I'm no expert , but...... you did ask the question . ;D )
2007-05-26 16:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by mikeinportc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chemistry is a two way street, if you set your sights to high you wont catch anything, if you set them to low- well then you'll catch everything and spend most of your time visiting your doctor. UNIVERSITY DEGREE'S mean nothing. you could have thirty university degree's and still end up working at Mcdonalds...how smart some-one is, has nothing to do with liking some-one, or romance for that matter.so stop worring about punching your weight be more concerned how he see's you?? are you short term or long term...????
2007-05-26 16:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Back Attcha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you live in a world with a strict class structure. What does IQ have to do with anything. I know lots of morons with degrees and some really good people without. Maybe he thinks you're hot. Guys can overlook flaws like social position for a great babe. I know that sounds weird to (some) females.
2007-05-26 16:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jimbob 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody is out of anyone's league. It is only a lack of self-esteem which prevents you from having the man of your dreams. Thoughts and beliefs which are in YOUR mind, but may not be in anyone else's.
He obviously likes you because he is dating you. He sees something in you that he likes and appreciates. Give yourself a pat on the back for having these qualities, and for being able to attract such a man.
All sorts of guys are 'in your range.' All you have to do is KNOW this.
2007-05-27 02:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by The Global Geezer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of your league?? What on earth is that all about?? We are all equal regardless of intelligence, wealth, education etc etc. And frankly, anyone who considered themselves above me just because of a degree, can shove their big head up their you-know-wot!! Listen, a degree, or 4 degrees is just education ok? Iv met lots of educated men who are as thick as shite! Just cos one is educated, does not make one intelligent. They are only very lucky or dedicated enough to be able to afford the education. Any smuck and learn sweetie! You are as good as anyone and you are as good as you want to be. And for goodness sake, do not even consider that you are better than anyone else, cos if you do, you will only attract a like minded person, and who would want some creep who thinks he is better than anyone else? Sod that!!
2007-05-26 21:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
huh? aiming too high just because he has a good job and already went to college? I thought you had a high IQ. Your compatability has nothing to do with anything you mentioned, what matters is if you like eachother
2007-05-26 16:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 degrees! Why does he need 4 degrees? Are you sure your IQ is as high as you think it is? On second thoughts, dump him. You are way out of your depth. (It's difficult to convey sarcasm in these answers don't you find)?
2007-05-29 13:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by Fanshawe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions. Does he make you feel like you are out of his league? Are you so worried about this that it's affecting how you act with him? If the answer is no. Then there is nothing to worry about. As long as he treats you good, and as long as you feel good being around him. Who cares what he does for a living. Good luck!
2007-05-26 16:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP THAT! You put yourself down because he has 4 degrees? Degrees, money, looks, are all silly things to base a relationship on. Examine how you interact with this person. If you both enjoy things then that's all the answer you need.
2007-05-26 16:15:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋