1. ok so im 14 going 15.i have never had a bf and there are guys that do like me but somehow i don't have any feeling for them. when they says i like you to me. all i think about is aww how cute and sweet they like me or ewwww!! there is one guy that is like me and i kinda like him,but im scared to say anything. what should i do?is it normal??
2. i don't know why guys find me interesting but im not. im just sporty and i can protect myself. im mean and i guess you can called me a tomboy. my biggest problem is why am i not like the other girls and why do guys like that. do they?
2007-05-26 16:00:22 · 9 answers · asked by sweety84pie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok. Your first instinct will be to ignore my answer because I am twice your age plus 3 years. If, however, you let me try to help you, then you'll also help me. I am about to be the father of my second daughter so I need to work on my fatherly, advice skills.
Believe it or not, I remember a girl like you from when I was 14. She had lots of admirers but hardly ever had a boyfriend. This girl wasn't the prettiest girl but she was very popular. She was popular because she was so nice. I mean, she treated everyone the same. It didn't matter if you were the star athlete or the kid in the wheelchair, she was a friend to everyone. Eventually, she fell in love with a guy and that was it for her. I'm pretty sure they are still together.
So, ultimately, my advice to you is to not rush things. Don't force your emotions. You probably don't feel like it right now but you're very young. You'll know when the guy is right and the time is right!
2007-05-26 16:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it's ok if you don't like the guys that are showing you affection. You like who you like. If there is a guy you're crushing on, get to know him and try throwing some hints.
Secondly, you shouldn't down yourself. There's obviously something that guys see in you so why talk yourself or them out of it. If a guy sees that in you (that you don't know why guys find you attractive), then the guys you actually want won't find you attractive. Confidence is very important to a lot of guys and it can make or break whether or not they like you. Don't try being like other girls because that will get you nowhere. Just being yourself (a lot of guys like girls who can handle themselves).
2007-05-26 23:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Curly Q Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It is normal! You will know when you are ready for dating. And my advice on the one guy you kind of like -- talk with him! He's probably a little afraid too, so just be yourself and enjoy his company. Easier said than done though, especially if you are on the shy and uncertain side....
2. I can relate to this too. You're probably pretty active, and whether you realize it or not, that draws people's attention to you. When you draw attention, even if from sports/activity, it raises people's curiousity and makes many of them want to get to know you better. A lot of guys are attracted to a girl who is active just like them. My brother has a wife who is not active, and he is realizing as the years go by that her style and his clashes a lot.
2007-05-26 23:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was around your age I was soo tomboy-like. I didn't get into dating boys until I was near the end of my freshman year of high school (that was when I broke out of my tomboy image). I think if you like the boy then to go for it an tell him... But if you arent ready/ or dont feel comfortable to do so, then wait a little.....No need to rush ;o) gL
2007-05-26 23:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lady02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They said they like you? Well, that's good. Make a lot of friends. Don't do something you don't want to. You don't want a boyfriend right now that is O.K. I mean it, it's fine. You choose what you want and don't be pressured into being part of the "in" crowd. You usually windup being "out" Take it easy, enjoy being fourteen. Your adult problems will come soon enough and boy will they hurt and bad!!
2007-05-26 23:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like a challenge. You are aloof so they take that as a personal challenge. You seem to be doing just fine without any help. About the guy you like, wait for him to make the first move.
2007-05-26 23:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Normal. Usually when people are scared they get a friend to ask the person out for them.
2007-05-26 23:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by *nErVoUs lAuGh* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal i used to be lik dat
i dont think im interesting but boys say i am
jus talk to him dont hold bacc
2007-05-26 23:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by PiGmeNT OF cOlor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they like u as one of the guys, be more girly
2007-05-26 23:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋