Just getting more opinions on a question I asked earlier, with maybe a little more clarity on my part. I'm torn between two guys. Help.
Guy #1 - What I meant to say before... this guy has PERSONALITY. He's unique, if not a little weird. I've known him for two years and we have lots in common. We're so alike people think he's my brother. He doesn't know much about dating and isn't keen on a girlfriend, though he acted as my pseudo-boyfriend. Sometimes he hurts my feelings and doesn't understand. I'm content loving this man no matter what. + college degree - teaches music - I'm in the same degree track
Guy #2 - We only have a few things in common, but his background is similar to mine, very blue-collar. He is very nice and funny, but is much lower class than #1 and has zero ambition. Lives with his grandparents and has a factory job. I think my life with him would be a secure one, yet predictable and boring. He'd be easier to tie down than #1 and easier to settle.
2007-05-26 15:25:53 · 11 answers · asked by MaggieMaeBrowne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. - Guy #2 would be more secure because of his job. Factory jobs and/or jobs at gas stations are easier to come by anymore than a teaching job of the creative arts- with lack of funding, music is disappearing from the schools, which could lead to a lot of moving and/or unemployment on Guy #1s behalf. Not saying factory jobs are easy to find, but compared to the arts in public schools they are.
2007-05-26 15:55:25 · update #1
go with guy # 1, the is so much more you stand to gain... guy #2 sounds sooo boring tht you regret him for LIFE you wouldnt lose with him but you most definitely would not gain
2007-05-26 15:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by 19871019 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never settle for a guy you don't love. If you settle you'll get bored with guy 2 and cheat on him cause your heart wouldn't be with him. And how is guy 2 more secure then 1 ?? # 2 lives with his grandparents. Doesn't guy 1 have a place and a teaching job... and you love him more the #2 by the way you are typing this stuff.
But never settle. Without you loving #2 there is no since of settling.
2007-05-26 15:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is the right guy you will have no doubt. I never believed that until I found the right guy. I have had no doubts since day one and that doesn't mean it is easy. We have had some issues nothing like cheating or anything like that but the day to day life brings things up. My point is if you are under 30 have a good time until you find the right one. This is the criteria for the right partner, #1 RESPECT, #2FRIENDSHIP, #3 LOVE, #4 FREEDOM TO BE WHO YOU ARE, #5 COMPROMISE, #6 BOTH HAVING THE ABILITY TO UNDERSTAND THAT IF IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO YOUR PARTNER THAN LET THEM HAVE THE CHOICE, #7TAKE EVERY DAY AS A GIFT AND UNDERSTAND THAT THE MORE WORK YOU PUT INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP THE MORE YOUR LOVE WILL GROW
2007-05-26 15:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call on this one. I knew a guy who lived with his parents, had no job and appeared to have NO ambition but I knew his love for me ran to the bone. I left him but came back after a couple of years only to end up having him prove me wrong big time. I also knew a guy where we had tons in common, he had more drive than anyone I knew and life with him was an adventure. All kinds of drama. But now looking back I'd take the one I felt more secure with. The guy who appeared to be going nowhere fast. Life is boring if you make it boring and sometimes you have to shake off the dirt to reveal the diamond underneath. My opinion, pick door #2. There's more freedom to love when security is in check. Women want security....well at least I do. I sleep better when I know I'm safe. And God knows I love my sleep. :) Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-26 15:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Gir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll allow you to answer it yourself!
Guy 1: we have lots in common, I'm content loving this man no matter what,
Guy 2: few things in common, Lives with his grandparents, predictable and boring
Guy 1 is the one you want and Guy 2 is the easiest one to be with!
God didn't intend for us to settle, if he did then he wouldn't have created heaven! :)
2007-05-26 15:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love
If love is the basis, then your feelings for each other will not diminish, even in times when security fluctuates, including having a lack of job/financial security.
If security is the basis, what happens if that goes away, if there was not a basis of love before security, then you might wind up without either one.
Good luck :)
2007-05-26 15:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy # 2 sounds good to me i would mind a guy with a factory job and a simple life .
2007-05-26 15:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you absolutely have to chose one or the other - I'm sure there's another guy that's everything you need/want in one. But if you HAD to chose, then do it yourself- follow your heart - don't let people on the internet persuade you to chose one guy when you really desire the other one. Just let time and fate tell all. Good luck!
2007-05-26 15:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant even decide yourself then obviously you dont love ethier of them because you cant love two people "like that"
so dont have ethier of them... because you might end up cheating on one.
2007-05-26 15:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, it is the only way to go.
2007-05-26 15:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by shadouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋