We live 45 minutes apart and I rarely get to see him. I love this man so much. he is 13 1/2 years older than me. that has never mattered. i'm just saying. I rarely see him because of gas prices ( its $3.15 here in MN right now) and his truck being a gas hog. ( i don't have a license yet pathetic at 22 i know)
so what should I do? go with my feelings for this new guy I met and cheat or just dump him altogether or keep trying with this relationship?? I do love him but he won't say he loves me.
2007-05-26 15:06:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i should mention this man was my first and that we were engaged at one point in time and that I do love him..
2007-05-26 15:25:09 · update #1
Sweethart, go for the new guy you are still young test the waters. I mean let's be realistic this guy that is 13 1/2 years older than you there is a very big age difference and you two probably are even at different levels in your lives. Also, if this man isn't making any effort to see you because gas is 3.15. Please gas in texas is 3.34- 3.38 a galloon and my man still makes an effort to see me and he has an escalade truck. This man is cheating on you. He won't even say he loves you. Quick this loser to the curve. A real man comes to see his woman no matter what and let's her know that he loves her no matter what. Get with the new guy your chances are much better. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-05-26 15:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by diva22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, if you are considering cheating because of your sex life perhaps you should reassess what exactly you mean by "love him dearly" Sex while important is not the only part of a relationship. If this is a long term relationship i would say that communication is key. It does seem that you have been communicating your needs to him but another element of that communication is patience, you telling him where and how is great but you need to give him time to improve both in ability and stamina. Encouragement is also great, let him know that you aren't going to cheat and that you are in this together. If you truly fear that you will cheat because of your lack of satisfaction masturbation is always a nice way to scratch the itch that your partner can't seem to, it is definitely better than the alternative of cheating, which remeber, is no guaranteee of satisfaction, and the possibility of loosing him. Now if this is a short term, new relationship, before you get too invested perhaps you should consider moving on. Sex during the early stages of most relationships plays a large part of the attraction and if it isn't working for you now than it might just be best to find a lover who will fulfill those needs.
2016-05-18 21:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by bernadette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are awfully young to be in a long-distance relationship - even if it is only 45 minutes. You should be enjoying yourself, and if you are tempted to cheat, it is only fair to him that you be honest with yourself and him. If he can not say that he loves you back, then you need not feel so committed to this guy. If he is so much older than you, I would think that he would find a way to come and see you? I would not cheat on him, but I would end the relationship if you want to see other people.
2007-05-26 15:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by msritter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be too young for a serious relationship. If you are feeling this way now, and you aren't even married yet, it will only get much worse once you've been married a few years (if you end up marrying this guy). You are only 22, there's no need to tie yourself down now. Have fun. Date different people and have fun. Just be safe about it. Then when you're older you won't have these temptations as much because you already had your fun and got it out of your system. This is my opinion, anyway.
2007-05-26 15:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not change.
So I think you need to change the word love to like about the boyfriend and move on to another relationship because being tempted to cheat would not happen if you truly loved someone...you would be too concerned with hurting the other person.
I truly believe you already know the answer to what you need to do.
2007-05-26 15:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lashadon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is way too old for you, you may not think it matters much now, but you will regret it later when he starts losing his hair and teeth and his energy and you are still young wanting to do exciting things and he's falling asleep on the couch and everyone thinks he's your dad.
Women generally live longer anyway and you will find your self alone way to soon. Besides the fact that you should be married to be having an intimate relationship. He just wants your free love with no commitment.
2007-05-26 15:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are getting more and more tempted to cheat, then break it off before you do cheat. Logic will help in the long run. If you break up with the guy, you won't be cheating, and he won't thank you for keeping him around when you do cheat.
2007-05-26 15:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by heartswiper 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since the old BF lives far away and you doesn't say I love you even when you tell him that you love him...Seems to me he doesn't want you. Don't cheat on this guy. dump him before you want to cheat on him with this new guy. But if you reall did love the old bf you wouldn't want to leave him or even think about cheating on him.
2007-05-26 15:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These long distance relationships are so dificult. I was in the same situation but he was 5 hours away. He was cheating, and way enough about me back to you. Yeah if you feel to cheat - what do you think hes thinking? End it, if its meant to be it will be.
2007-05-26 15:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by thatgurrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is that much older than you, he should be able to pay for gas to come down to see you at least once a week,
if you don't think your boyfriend loves you, try breaking off with him and going out with the new guy
2007-05-26 15:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by confused angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋