heres the deal i just caught my son masturbating, i just walked out but i had to laugh. what do i do!?
2007-05-26 14:40:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you are a father buy him some porn... If your a mother forget about it. Anyways better he is doing it on himself than with a chick right? Everyone does it. Its natural. Be happy he is normal.
2007-05-26 14:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Trey 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mum of a teenage boy. Masturbating is fine - absolutely normal - he is just growing up. Forget it and let him do what he naturally needs to do. Better masturbating in his room with a poro mag in front of him that a real girl! No that would have been embarrassing!!! He's just learning to pleasure himself and it's a natural feel-good hormone release. It's good that he is not uncomfortable with his own body. Please don't talk to him about it as there is nothing abnormal in it. It was just a bit embarrassing that you walked in on him. Maybe it would be a good thing if you knocked before going into his room now he is getting older?
2016-05-18 21:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T PRETEND LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED! Oh my gosh, all of you guys are so nonconfrontational! :) Can you imagine the tension and the red faces if you act like nothing happened? You both know something did happen and by the sounds of it, you're both a little (probably to say the least) embarrassed. I would just bring it up to him kind of casually (maybe even in a joke), be sure he knows it's normal to be doing, and tell him you'll always be there for him if he has any questions. C'mon, you're the adult... you can handle this! He, on the other hand, is probably thinking about it constantly since the incident. Ease his mind. (Man, I'm glad I have a girl ;))
2007-05-26 15:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your the father, you can use this opportunity to talk to your son about sex and more importantly SAFE SEX.
If you are the mother, I would tell his dad, or a father figure in his life, that now is the time to discuss SAFE SEX and PROTECTION with your son....
Either way, your son is growing up now, so until you have a reason NOT to, respect his privacy and knock.
Think about how you would feel if you son walked in on YOU masturbating....its embarassing for them, even though its completely normal....
2007-05-26 18:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by destin1107 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
other posters had great suggestions, but no one mentioned using this opportunity to let him know that you (parents) would like to be the ones to answer questions he has about sex.
add that to the other suggestions and you've got a host of well rounded options.
I especially liked the suggestion that you explain to him that you weren't upset, and that you plan to knock in the future. Pretending that it didn't happen might give him the idea that you are upset, and then he might not get his sex info from you...then kids his age will be educating him rather than someone who could tell him fact from fiction.
2007-05-26 14:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by TEM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there's any chance he heard you laugh you go and tell him that you just laughed because you hadn't expected to walk in on him, and that you're totally cool with him masturbating and that it's much better than randomly ******* girls.
In either case, buy him a lock for on his door and tell him to use it... or at least learn to knock and wait for an answer.
2007-05-26 14:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ian 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That,s normal for young kids to do, i think now you have to talk to him about sex and relationships. Tell him the truth i learn everything from my mother and my brothers at an hearly age .Talk to him and ask him why he did it don,t be mad just relax and have an open relationship whit him so he can ask you questions and tell you how feels
2007-05-26 14:58:18
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Nothing. that would be so awkward for both of you. Just let him be. It's a natural process for both male and female. Just don't even talk about it. He know's you know and let that be the end of it. Maybe if you do want to talk to him tell him to be more careful and lock the door ;-)
2007-05-26 14:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sound of Madness 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal function. Just tell him to lock the door the next time and if he has any questions about maturing to ask you.
2007-05-26 15:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't suggest that you talk directly to him about it. That will just embarrass the both of you. I would make sure that he knows that you are willing to talk about whatever he might need help with.
I was recently a teenager and something similar happened to me.
2007-05-26 21:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋