Let's assume the hour glass sand is in its sixth decade and yet, energy for dancing, dining, movies, conversation is still high. Avoiding the legal jungle of divorce seems like being a coward but avoiding those unwanted consequences also looks favorable, too. What to do? Can someone who is not sleeping with former wife be considered single and if someone comes along that's really a perfect fit get on with his/her life?
2007-05-26 14:26:04 · 10 answers · asked by GingersFred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say yes to an extent, I think it's fine for seperated people to see other people, date around here and there. However should things become serious or should they wish for it to become serious then they need to go through the long grueling process of divorce, instead of still having those "shakles" of a rocky marriage attatched while trying to build a new strong relationship.
2007-05-26 14:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Seeing you I loose myself 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand why you don't want to jump through the hoops of divorce. Nonetheless, the fact remains that you are married. If you think about it in traditional terms, you'd be committing adultery every time you attempt to get romantic with another woman.
Also, I think you really need to evaluate what you think is a perfect fit. You probably thought your current wife was a pretty good fit or else you wouldn't have married her. Chances are, it wasn't only her issues that led to the divorce. If I were you, I'd take a long, hard look at anything I might have done that could have contributed to the broken relationship. Until you deal with those things--not only naming them but addressing them--another relationship isn't going to be a good idea.
I don't know your situation and maybe I'm naive, but in my opinion, the best case scenario is that you try to work things out with your current wife. Get counseling. Seek advice. You've already pledged your life to her, probably along the traditional lines of "until death do we part" and "for better and for worse." Marriage isn't meant to be based only romance. Those feelings of romance fade. Marriage is a commitment to love your spouse unconditionally, to forgive them their wrongs, and to work through problems and troubled times together.
Best of luck to you.
2007-05-26 21:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by The Red Inkstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> Can someone who is not sleeping with former wife be considered single <<
By definition, a former wife is one who is no longer a wife. If you do not now have a wife, you're single. You are of course free to search for that "really perfect fit"...even if it's a past wife... :)) Good Luck.
Cy
2007-05-26 21:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by drcy6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hour glass? sixth decade? you actually got a girl to marry you. i dont know how your chances are in the real dating world talking about metaphors with hourglasses and sand. so either build a love making robot or get with that new girl as quick as possible. dont bring up the sand metaphor though for the love of god.
2007-05-26 21:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by ILLPACAPLYPSE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for some people it is even when they get married they act single im not like that when i fall out of love if that ever happens then i might b able to move on
2007-05-26 21:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by paultoledo34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are still bound by the agreement of marriage under the law.
2007-05-26 21:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only being divorced because of infidelity are you single again.
2007-05-26 21:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not single until you are single.
Close one door before you open another.
2007-05-26 21:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Monique S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave the past behind before letting anyone into your future. makes it much simpler for EVERYONE.
2007-05-26 21:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well as long as you are seperated i guess its not a problem
2007-05-26 21:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋