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There is an end of the year party for school and it is on a lake. I am afraid of boats (bad experience) and one of things that we are doing is tubing.

Me and my gf are going and i don't think that she likes boats either but she might. Even though i am scared to death, should i go tubing if she does?

We of course are going to hang out with each other the entire time, do you think that she will think i am a wimp if i tell her i am scared of boats?

I had a bad experience in which i could have died. I was close but was saved. No one knows about this but my family.

2007-05-26 14:16:09 · 23 answers · asked by Mìthrándír 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

So should i put her above me and go tubing or tell her the truth?

2007-05-26 14:17:10 · update #1

23 answers

tell her the truth. and make sure you wear a life jacket. you should be good, and it will be a good way to get over your fear.

2007-05-26 14:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by xoxox 4 · 2 0

The best thing for you to do is tell her about the experience you had that makes you afraid of going out on boats. She will understand and not consider you a whimp. You two can then hang out and do other stuff aside from tubing.

2007-05-26 21:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by mantis162003 1 · 1 0

If you two truly trust each other and are gonna last as bf/gf, tell her straight out. I know it may be hard for u to tell other people this kind of thing, but u need to be honest or there will be resentment. if she is a true girlfriend, she will understand and wont think your a wimp or anything. dont try to make up some excuse either, that is even worse. also, u dont have to be together 24/7. a successful relationship needs to have some time of no clingyness.

2007-05-26 21:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You are boyfriend and girlfriend, not joined at the hip. You don't have to spend every second of the party together. It's understandable that you'd be leery about going on the boat after having had a near-death experience. If you're ready to conquer that fear and try, good for you. If not, let her know in advance that you're not going to go into the water, but you'd be happy to wait for her while she goes. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

2007-05-26 21:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0 0

If she likes you enough, and you explain to her that you had an insane experience on a boat, she shouldn't mind you not joining her if she goes tubing or not. You, in return, shouldn't feel really left out if she does go - and don't make her feel sorry for going without you.

(Do warn her that the bottoms on swimsuits tend to slip a bit if you wipe out but keep holding on. It's happened to the best of us ><;; )

2007-05-26 21:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0 0

Tell the truth, alot of people are scared of boating, over water, of the fear of falling in. She should understand too as its like you were to understand if she was scared of spiders.

keep with honesty now, as its the most honest thing you could do.

2007-05-26 21:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Allan E 3 · 0 0

Tell her what happened and make a decision together. If she cares at all you both shouldn't go on a boat.
You guys might be able to have a picnic on the shore and watch the tubbing.

2007-05-26 21:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0 0

While the best thing you can do is to face your fear, this takes time. You are afraid people will find out about your fear and offer only ridicule. If the people you are dealing with are under 30, you are right. But there is one way to disarm them. Own your fear. Wear it on your sleeve. Make fun of yourself and your fear. Not only will you eliminate some of the ridicule, but you'll also find some people supporting you because you are STRONG enough to admit your fear as a way of working on it.

2007-05-26 21:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Tell her the truth.

Tell her also that if she wants to you are willing to try. Don't make her feel guilty for going but let her know that it is ok. See i have a similar problem, i am afraid of rollercoasters, i let her go on them and she likes it and is perfectly fine with the fact that i am scared, i tried to ride one with her once and freaked out, we laugh about it now and she doesn't want me going through that again

2007-05-26 21:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Frontline Warrior 2 · 0 0

so be a man and tell he you pussy and stop letting your fears run your life I was water sking and got hit by another boat and the prop cut my head i drowned and my buddy jumped in and saved me and I had to get the whole 1 side of my head stapled up but i am back on the water b/c i love it and i grew up on a lake so stop letting your fears run your life or you gf will leave your ***** ***

2007-05-26 21:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by big daddy matt 1 · 0 0

tell her the truth. everyone fears something. if you had a near death experience of course you will be scared, she should understand if you tell her your fear and if she wants the whole story behind your fear.

2007-05-26 21:21:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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