I think this is a cultural myth, bolstered by PG-13 romantic comedies. I think the reality is that (heterosexual) men and women need to maintain a certain distance otherwise romantic/sexual feelings start to develop. Does anyone have real life evidence to refute this? Not just a theory that looks good on paper and should work, but a real life experience of a man and a woman being emotionally close and not have the sexual/romantic element become an issue.
I've seen and experienced many situations where the two people claim they are just friends. But it seems like one or both persons are in denial that there's nothing more going on.
2007-05-26 13:43:08 · 11 answers · asked by LG 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A certain distance, I guess works. I mean, I've got a male friend who I wouldn't date if you paid me, and we get along fine. I think it's possible, but you're not as close to your male friends as you are to your female friends or boyfriends. (I think I just basically said that you were right)
2007-05-26 13:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Yuki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man and a woman can indeed maintain a strictly platonic relationship if: a) they are both in a romantic relationship with someone else b) they do not find the other attractive. My best friend is a male, and he and I have been friends for about six or seven years now. We are not each others' types, so it works out. Plus he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend.
2007-05-26 20:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My BEST friend, for four years, is a guy. I could never see him as anything more either. He knows all my secrets and I know his, hes the person I go to when I need to talk but he'll never become my boyfriend. Were even going to the same college, so is my twin. Trust me theres no denial. I've had boyfriends and hes had girlfriends. Right know theres a guy I really like and possibly am about to start dating. He's one of those guys you can talk to about shopping and stuff... Hes like queer eye for the straight guy lol. But no we have no romantic issues
2007-05-26 20:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by babygurl84210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you research your material further before jumping to your own opinions. I have around 5 female friends whom I share a plutonic relationship with, and never once felt anything in the way of romantic feelings for any of them over the 10 years we have been friends. I'm not sure what you want for indisputable proof, but that is enough for me.
2007-05-26 20:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. I have male friends. Thing is it was made clear from the start that sex was not going to be a part of the friendship...if they accept that, then a new friendship is born...and it can be good friendships for others too. It is a wonderful way to get different perspectives from the opposite sex too.
So yes, it does happen and it can and does work.
be cool...
2007-05-26 20:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have male friends who I am not attracted to at all but who are great friends. It's certainly possible. However, I do have to say that I would not share my more personal thoughts with them. There is a line I draw, because it could then lead to more. I agree with you on that.
2007-05-26 20:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm friends with tons of guys, and there is definately no sexual feelings in our relationships. So I guess girls and guys can be friends ?
2007-05-26 20:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls and guys can never be just friends.
I think it's always one sided. Someone always falls in love with another.
It's always a tragic story.. sometimes a happy ending.
2007-05-26 20:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by girlnextdoor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, yes and yes. When Harry met Sally is a ruse.
2007-05-26 20:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do not think grls and guys can b just friends, at least not n my case when i try to just be friends with a guy it makes me wnt him more than that. so may b its just me but no i cant b just friends
2007-05-26 20:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Heidi K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋