How do discipline your kids for swearing?

Question

I once got mouthsoaping.

I've heard of people who have put Tabasco sauce on kid's tongues.

How do you feel about this one? A friend told me that when she and her brother were young, her brother swore at their mother, so she (just as a threat, but would never carry it out) bought him a pink lipstick and told him if he swore again he'd have to wear it.

He never swore at her again!

Answer 1

Just an old fashioned red bottom. We never really had a issue with bad words though.

Answer 2

Before disciplining your child for swearing you should ask where they heard it. CHances are from mom and dad. As a child i hated that crap that parents give well i'm an adult so its okay for me. I have 5 children and yes my children have swore did i discipline them no we talked about it. The lipstick is funny but very humiliting for a boy. Parents who dont want their children to swear its simple dont swear.We keep a money jar for both parents and kids so if we swear we have to pay the jar. They usually get the money cause well dad is horrible at house repairs lol. Soap and tabasco sauce doesnt solve anything. Believe me my mom ran out of things to put in my sister's mouth. My sister would eat soap and tabasco sauce just to prove it wouldnt stop her from swearing. Give them an alternative to use make a special word be creative.

Answer 3

I have a swear jar and every time someone in the house swears they have to put a quarter into the jar. My daughter gets an allowance a dollar a week. When she swears which is never she has to give me a quarter of that dollar each time she does this. The first time my daughter said a swear she was 2 years old. She has not done it since and advises others not to do so in her company.

Charlie

Answer 4

depending on how old the child is when he/she first said it. I would ignore it first (maybe the kid doesn't even realize that what he said was a bad word) when he gets older then n1p it in the butt and talk to him explaining that that is a bad word and not to be used. If it persists - the swear jar or taking away toys/stuff he likes. But if the first time they say it - he/she's a toddler ignore or do what my bf's mom did say "yes honey that's a truck" (bf still laughs when he tells this story)

Answer 5

my mother took 2 dollars off my allowance for 6 months every time i swore. then by the time didn't have allowance i would get grounded for a month off the computer, TV, radio, going out with friends, phone calls, and at one time even books and library visits. after 3 months i NEVER swore in front of my parents.

if you are having problems with your kids you might want to look at your own swearing habits. if you are the one with a swearing habit give your kids and your spouse a dollar each every time you swear in front of them. you'll knock it off fast.

i wouldn't go for disciplining your kids with hot sauce because my best friend was and every time she has anything spicy she ends up crying from the memories because of how traumatizing it was.

mouthsoaping doesn't work for all kids. my older sister would just swear more after she had her mouth soaped. My parents tried lemon juice as well but it didn't work for me because i love lemon juice.

anyways I hope i've helped!!

Answer 6

The tabasco sounds too cruel and I don't like the image the lipstick projects on a kid but the swear jar sounds like a good idea. My first instinct was wash their mouth out with soap but time out might also be a good idea.

Answer 7

It would be easier to know how old your children are so we can better address your question.

Personal experience with my kids, cuz we swear like truck drivers in our house (us adults, not kids), is when they swore, we ignored it. We found that if you punish them for swearing, they're getting a rise out of you. If you laugh, it is encouraging it....they now know it's funny....and they're also getting a rise out of you.

Our children are 11, 10, and 5 and none of them swear, they even scold us now for doing it. I think we did pretty good with the decision we made about the swearing. Good luck in whatever you choose though.

Answer 8

It really depends on the age.

1- Home is not the only place they are exposed to bad language.

2-Talk to your children about using bad words & name calling from the time they are able to understand.

3-Set your rules/boundaries & stick to them. (Ex. You will get a time out, grounded, miss out on something fun etc.)

My 3 year old came home from preschool & said the "N" word one day. I was honestly stunned! I have never used that word in my life & am horrified if I hear it used in such context.

We asked him if he had any idea what that word was, he had no idea.
So my husband & I sat him down & explained it was a very mean word. We also, let him know that if he hears it again from this child he needs to let his teacher know (we also made her aware that this was taking place). I also let him know that if he ever heard a word he "thought" was bad but, wasn't sure that he could ask us & we would let him know if it was allowed to be used. I told him if he doesn't hear it at home that he shouldn't be using it.

We haven't had any problems since & that was 6 months ago.

Answer 9

Try the old money in the swear jar. Every time they swear they have to put money in the jar. After awhile, with empty pockets they will learn. Maybe not 100% of the time but it will start to calm it down. Plus it's alittle more humane than soap or lipstick.

Answer 10

WOW, I never heard of the pink lipstick...I will have to remember that one and see if it works with my soon to be son one day.

I know a lot of people that use tabasco sauce and it works.

Answer 11

My mom always just told me that swearing was unneccesary and projects a bad image of yourself to others. That worked on me and I very rarely swear. I guess I was probably a weird kid though that that worked now that I think about it. Ha.