Is this rude?

Question

Hi,
I have this friend who lives with her parents, anyway when ever we have a fight or disagreement and we call each other up, she always puts me on speaker phone so that her parents can hear me talk, but she thinks I have never known this, I have also heard her mum whispering to her telling her what to say to me. Anyway i asked her about it, & she said that her mum just happens to walk in & hear!
she says i have my B-friend to talk to, but the thing she doesn't seem to get is, i don't put her on speaker phone so that he can hear too, i have more respect than that.
She can't seem to have a conversation without her parents in the room, she is 28.
Do you think this is rude?

Answer 1

It's exceptionally rude. And kinda creepy. I thought you were going to say she was twelve. A grown woman that behaves like that is absurd.

Answer 2

YES! If she's 28 she should know how to handle her own problems. It's one thing to ask for advice on a problem, and totally rude to let people really in on your problems. And it's not just letting her parents hear, but putting someone on speaker is rude in general!
I would just ask her not to do it, it makes you feel uncomfortable, and if she's going to keep doing it then have your conversations in person.
It's like when I was in 5th grade and kids would call someone and trick them into talking about someone with the other person on the phone... horrible!

Answer 3

Yes it's rude! Tell her you don't want to be put on speaker phone. IF you wanted her parents to hear your conversation you would come over and have a conversation. 28 years old is to old to be living with daddy.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to your friend about this problem. It is rude. Having her parents listen to your conversations, and then lying about it? Talk about rude. Talk to her about it. Teach her how to live through a conversation without her parents in the room. I think 28 is a little bit too old for that.

Answer 5

Yes, your friend needs to grow up and act like an adult. When you were first describing your friend, I was picturing a child around the age of 15, not someone that is almost in their 30's. The best way to get around your friend's childness is to discuss your problems in person without her parents or any friends.....That way there will be no more drama.

Answer 6

of course it's rude, and it's immature. You should confront her, and if she doesn't do anything about it, tell her you don't wanna talk on the phone with her, that you want to talk in person, and if she can't handle that, um, are you sure she's 28? because before you said how old she was, i thought you guys were 8 years old, but when i heard boyfriends, i figured 14. wow, shes acting like half her age

Answer 7

Yes that is quite possibly the rudest thing a person can do. Having an argument is an A-B conversation.. It is none of her parents business what you two talk about. I would suggest no longer arguing with her on the phone. Do it in person when you get the chance.

Answer 8

That's not just rude; it's childish and downright weird. Why are you even friends with a 28-year-old who lives with her parents and has he mom fight her arguments for her? You know she's not going to stop doing this, so you have to decide whether you want to keep putting up with this behavior or move on and find friends who aren't so emotionally retarded.

Answer 9

YES! Not only is it rude, it is weird and annoying. You know something is weird when your friend is 28, lives with her parents, and shares phone conversations. That would be the definition of strange.

Answer 10

That is very rude. She needs to grow up and learn to fight her own battles. She may not be the type of friend you need. Obviously, at 28, she is still very immature. That is something I would expect from a grade schooler.

Answer 11

Absolutely this is rude and disrespetful. You should find someone new to talk to. This 28 year old friend should get a life and move out of Mommy's house anyway.