He's worked in call centres, customer services and various sales jobs. He's just resigned again. How can we help support him in finding something that ticks his boxes and holds his interest?
2007-05-26 10:50:53 · 12 answers · asked by jaffacake 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
For further info: he dropped out of college at 17 after one year. He left home as he wanted independence at 17 when he got his first full time job, but came back after a year when he was in trouble with debt. We allow him to live at home for free while he concentrates on clearing his debts, but otherwise he lives independently.
2007-05-26 11:18:51 · update #1
Hmm.. Well I can tell you from personal expierence, most jobs suck.
I'm 18, I started my first job at 15. I worked at a supermarket for 1yr & 8months.. I hated every moment of it. They took advantage of me because of my age, paid me minimum wage, and gave me horrible hours. After that job I moved onto a few others which I felt the same about. Its hard finding a job that you like when your younger, because lets face it, most people my age just want to go out and have fun.
Thankfully I found a job I enjoy, they pay me great, I work with other people my age and the hours arn't too bad. I deliver pizza's and make A LOT of money. I average in at about $250 a week and for someone my age thats great. It pays for my insurance, bills and I still have a decent amount of spending money.
I think its good that he is going around and seeing whats out there, this way, he knows what he likes and doesn't like. Eventually he will find a job he enjoy's and sticks around with them for awhile.
2007-05-26 11:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jenger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask you some questions which may be of assistance.
Does his behavior seem too far out of line for a 19 year old?
Does his behavior somehow reflect on you? Do you feel insufficient as a parent in some way due to his actions?
Would it be okay to let him fail? How did you learn your best life lessons? Are you willing to let him do so as well?
Are you able to support him without enabling dependent behavior?
You mentioned that he is independent in many ways. Are you able to celebrate his successes? Are you able to find the silver lining in what he has undertaken?
Answering some or all of these questions might help you and him feel better about the situation and move constructively forward.
2007-05-26 11:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by mikeknu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume at his age, he has not completed college, so his options are somewhat limited. You can try explaining to him that his job hopping is going to hurt him a lot when he does find a job that he thinks he wants to stick with. A potential employer is going to see all the jobs he had, think that he is not worth spending the money on to train, and pass him over. If he doesn't list all his jobs, there will be big blanks in his employment he has to explain. Fudging his work dates at a job to cover those gaps will be revealed if they check his references.
If he's not already in college, try to get him to take some basic classes at a community college if that's an option. He may discover something that he likes there and find his direction that way.
2007-05-26 11:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Brian G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is 29 and he changes his job alot, he is currently working for a firm he enjoys working for but somebody always offers him another job in the same field with better pay, so he works for them for a few months then goes back to current employer because he didn't like the people or the work he was doing.
I would say your son has no idea of what he wants to do, is there something that hes really good at like, art, music, labouring, carpentry, gardening, writing, designing, maths, science. Find out what it is and help him to get there.
2007-05-28 06:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of young people are like that. It's normal. You'd rather he feels out what he'll be happy with right? Who says you have to stick with the same job for a long time when you are only 19? Don't worry, except if he gets fired alot.
2007-05-26 10:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon Pet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't found his calling let him explore through college. There are many govt grants and if you go to a state chool it tends to not cost as much. It will help open up doors that were never even condidered.
While I was in college they even went as far in one class to give us personality tests to help guide the way.
2007-05-26 10:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by gaia3441 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry my son is older and still doesn't know what he wants to do but in the meantime he works in a local supermarket he works plenty of overtime which gives him a reasonable wage.
2007-05-27 03:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought of taking him to a counselor at a school? They have tests and such that may be able to put him on track in a career or atleast an idea to aim for.
2007-05-26 16:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by F-Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to train in something he is interested in,not just work for the sake of working as he will keep getting bored to easily.maybe not office work but more manual work would suit him better. failing that, ship him off to the army.
2007-05-26 11:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by vin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 19 he's still young to decide what he wants to do; give him some time. Eventually, he'll outgrow this.
2007-05-26 10:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋