Just today, while i was going to the bathroom, as I walked out the door, my husband ran away really quick. I saw him but he doesn't know that I did. He was peeking through the hole watching me go to the bathroom. That is not the first time either. Also, I think my husband touches me when I'm sleeping. He will give me a massage but then when I am almost asleep he touches me and I can feel him but I am too scared to wake up and say something. He says that I wake up and hit him sometimes when I am asleep and I remember having a dream that I hit him because he is touching me where I dont want to be touched and I dont think it is a dream. What do I do? Am I overreacting?
2007-05-26 10:17:01 · 13 answers · asked by painful22 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, if you were telling me that you feared him, I would understand,..it is odd that he would be watching you...it makes you wonder what is wrong with him...and also...does he have a weird side? And then, why don't you want him to touch you, that he has to act like this? You both sound like you need some counciling, to be honest...and I don't say that in a mean way. Watching you go to the bathroom, is really weird...you're his wife, and he shouldn't be invading your privacy like that. I think you should be right up front, and ask him WHY ARE YOU WATCHING ME GO TO THE BATHROOM AND TOUCHING ME WHEN I DON'T WANT YOU TO???...and see what he says...and tell him to stop it, and not to do it again.
2007-05-26 10:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it were my husband watching me or touching me while sleeping I wouldn't mind,,Heck I'd love it but that's just the way we are..We're both perverts and are perfect for each other in that way. However that's not for everyone and It doesn't sound like that sort of thing is your cup of tea. If it makes you feel uncomfortable and funny at all then it is not a good thing. You really need to talk with him and let him know that you're "on to him"..Ask him flat out what he's doing..Who knows maybe you'll find that it's not really that creepy after all and you and your husband can share some naughty fantasies together!!
2007-05-27 13:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by sunnyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is your husband. Why should he feel the need to spy on you when you are in the restroom? I don't understand that, it seems a little strange to me. Unless he has some type of weird fetish that he is just embarrassed about. I think that you need to let him know that you are aware of what he has been doing, and that you really enjoy your privacy at that time, and you really don't feel comfortable when he does that. As far as the other issue, I think you need to communicate to each other your desires regarding sex a little better. It sounds like he may just get in the mood at odd hours of the night, which is actually normal, but if it's not something that you enjoy, you need to let him know. He obviously has some desires that he has not communicated to you, he just does them, and therefore you feel violated. But he will continue to do them if he does not know that it bothers you. Talk to him, give him your own input on what you enjoy and what you really don't, and let him do the same. It's the only way for both people in the relationship to be happy with their intimacy. If you talk to him about it, and he still continues to touch you at times when you wish he wouldn't, then I would say that he is violating you, and you need to seek some help outside the marriage, like a professional counselor. If you are to the point of being afraid about it, I think something deeper may be going on within your marriage. No marriage should involve fear.
2007-05-30 05:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone who's answered so far isn't realizing one particularly interesting bit of information. This is your husband! You obviously married him for a reason, and reasons that make people swear their lives to each other can't just be thrown away. It sounds like, and I mean this with all respect, that you have physical intimacy problems. This is more common than you'd think, but it's amazing how many people won't respect it. Marriage involves the lowering of intimacy bounaries, but for some people those boundaies need to stay up. There's got to be a way to make him realize this, one that doesn't involve a breakup.
2007-05-26 18:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 21:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by camargo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to be touched then he should respect that. any unwanted touching is molestation. call him out on it, see what he says. if he makes you uncomfortable like that then you might not want to stay with him. i know personally i would be a little unnerved by what you described. not knowing you, your husband and the entire situation makes it hard to help solve the problem, but the details you gave make it sound as though he might have a problem. No your not overreacting. try talking to him about it first, he might admit to having a problem but whatever the outcome... dont stay in a relationship with someone that makes you that uncomfortable.
2007-05-26 10:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by vix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider it overreacting if someone is doing something to you without your consent. I would suggest you let him know you are aware of his touching and peeping and ask him to stop. Perhaps these are fantasies of his? You could open up a discussion that would allow you both to be heard and come up with a compromise.
2007-05-26 11:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hecky yeah hes not right i could understand if he would say baby i cant get enough of you i have to watch you pee I'm so crazy about you i cant keep my hands off of you you are my queen and ill be like this about you until the day i die but he is sneaking and this is not normal hes not admitting his actions and that's weird there was a guy like this on Dr.Phil but way worse he would drug his wife and when she woke up she knew that he had did something to her but he would act like it was all in her mind he would turn the heat up so she would kick the covers off and he had a camera and would just watch her while she was sleep she didn't want to be intimate with him because he was a control freak and in denial that he was possessed over her he was crazy and ended up in jail do detective work get real evidence present it to him if he makes it seem like your nuts tell him to get counseling or tell him you want out
2007-05-26 10:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are happening that shouldn't be happening.I would recommend both of you getting marriage counseling asap. You should not have to be afraid in your on home. Obviously this is something you have to talk to each other about. Get the counseling asap. You may even consider separate living until this happens.
2007-05-26 10:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are not overeacting. You're husband needss serious help!He is like most men, sick.. Why would he look at you when you're going to the bathroom? That needs attention.
2007-05-26 10:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋