My dear lovable brothers and sisters...?

Question

What do you think of treating your parents particularly your mum in the aspects of your relegion or belief. According to my relegion (islam)... the mother is a person of very high honour. The prophet Muhammed (pbuh) has said.. paradise lies at the feet of your mother.. What is your thought about that saying of the prophet even though your a muslim or not...

Do you care for your parents?

Would you care for your mother like how you care for your wife /husband or will you care more?

If there was a problem between your parents and your hubby/wifey... would you go along with your partner or your parents or would you try to solve the problem?

I think after my relegion my only gift is my mother... i love her more than anyone even more than my dad....

Answer 1

Both of my parents are gone now and even though I was not a Muslim when they were here looking back I would have to say our relationships would be like the model that Islam requires. Neither of my parents were put in a "home" when they got older and all of us kids (there's 6 of us) pitched in to take care of them when they became ill. I miss them very much now and wish I could share my faith with them...perhaps someday I will.

Answer 2

It wouldn't surprise me if the religion of Islam
becomes more misunderstood than ever --
due to the war in Iraq, Iran... and Afghanistan.
But, far be it from me to tell anyone what they
should or should not believe.
If it gives you a sense of strength to believe in
the god known as Vitaminigitis, so be it. (You
say you never heard of him? Neither have I;
I just made up that one.)
Seriously, though: I do agree with what you
pointed out about what the prophet Muhammed
said about mothers. "Paradise lies at the feet
of your mother." I like the sound of that. And I'm
sure that she would too.
My mom will be 75 in November (the 6th); but my
dad, who would've been 86 yesterday, (the 25th
of May) died 20 years ago, at the age of 66.
But let me ask you this: Why do you think either
of your parents should be put above the other?
Were they not both responsible for your being
alive today?
I'd be very interested in your reply.

Take care.

My email address: [e-mail]

* Khahoshiy (pronounced "Kah-row-she") means
"good" in Russian.

Answer 3

salam brother... yes i sure care for my parents but prefer my mother more than daddy. I love that saying of the prophet muhammed by the way. Well the love for your spouse and parents is different but i think i should be caring for them equally. and if there is any confusions between my partner and my parents then i would try my best to solve it. And it was sweet when you said she is the gift after Islam. Mashallah

Answer 4

The bible does say to honour your father and mother, so that you can live long on earth.....but, I don't choose my mother over my spouse, because I am not married to my mother....I am married to my spouse. As you grow older, you leave your parents and cling to your spouse.

If there was a problem between my parents and I spouse, I would go along with my spouse because I am married to my spouse. Plus, I would not let my parents get into our business in marriage.

In my religion, the G-d of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob comes first in my life, then my spouse and my children. Never my spouse first before G-d. I think that the prophet muhammed is absolutely incorrect about the aspects of a mother. That's my opinion though.

Answer 5

Hello, I'm not of the islam religion, I believe the Bible, which clearly teaches to honour your mother & father. I try to do this by doing what I can to help them...(running errands, taking them out to eat...) just special things I don't do for other people. As far as the love for your spouse compared to your parent. It's a different kind of love. You and your spouse are supposed to be as one flesh. If your parents & spouse have problems you could try to mediate and reason but in the end your loyalty should be to your spouse. You're supposed to love them as no one else, thats' your life time partener.

Answer 6

Many family members might be offensive, over the age range, but we're not here to talk about that. The thing is they probably are thinking why a young girl is dating him. Its like shes only after one thing, money. They will obviously have opinions and doubts about you, because of the age range. But to make it less awkward, just talk about what you life consists of, and be yourself. Im sure if they get to know you a lot more, you are a nice person! They won't hate you, because if they really did love Patrick, they'd let him date who ever makes him happy. So if they hate you, dont bother because it was Patrick's decision to date you, not the family! You will be fine! Just be yourself! Good Luck Hun xxxx

Answer 7

There are many rewards in treating one's parent with honor, respect and patience. They have taken care of us all their lives and in their old age it is the least we can do to return the favor. We should not just give up on them because they get old and need more personal care, we should not think egoistically like the individualistic societies are trying to make us believe is ok...

Answer 8

The Mother Has More Rights Than the Father


Goodness towards the mother is more rewarding. The Holy Prophet (S) emphasized that benevolence shown to the mother should be three times the magnitude of that shown towards the father. When he was asked as to which of the parents had more rights, he replied,

“Was it not your mother who suffered the birth pangs to give birth to you and provided you with your natural diet from her breasts? Indeed the rights of a mother far outweigh those of the father.”

(Mustadrak ul-Wasa’il)

Rights of the Parents

Someone asked the Holy Prophet (S) about the rights of the father. He (S) replied,

“He should be obeyed always, as long as he lives.”

Then he was asked, “What is the right of the mother?”. He answered,

“If the service to a mother equals the quantity of the particles of sand in the desert and the drops of rain on earth, it (this service) will not repay for a single day that she kept you in her womb.”

(Mustadrak ul-Wasa’il)

A Young Man and His Invalid Mother

It is reported that a young man approached the Holy Prophet (S) and asked,

“O Prophet of Allah (S), I have a mother who is an invalid. She cannot even move by herself. I carry her on my back and feed her with my hands. I also clean her excreta. Have I fulfilled her rights?”

The Holy Prophet (S) replied,

“No. Because you have remained in the womb for a long period during which you derived your nourishment from her body. She was every busy in caring and protecting you at all costs. Inspite of such hardships she always wished a long life for you. But you are waiting for her to die so that you may relieved of the responsibility of taking care of her.”

The Holy Prophet (S) described the eminence of a mother’s position in the following statement:

1) “If you are praying a mustahab prayer and your father calls you, do not break your prayer but if your mother calls, break the prayer.”

Truly, this assigns a remarkably high status to a mother. The Prophet (S) states,

“Paradise is at the feet of your mother.”

Hence one need not go far in search of Paradise.

Be Good to Parents Even if They Are Kafirs

Whether the parents are believers and pious or Kafirs and sinful, goodness towards them is Wajib. And ‘Āq al-Walidayn’ is Harām.

The verse of Surah Luqmān says thus,

“And if they contend with you that you should associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, do not obey them, and keep company with them in this world kindly...”.

(Surah Luqmān 31:15)

Answer 9

At the f e e t of Mother.
As a mother, I would like to think the instructions of my mouth to be a guide to 'Paradise.' But my 'feet,' or what I do as an example is ever more the teacher.
Christ said, "Who are my mother and Brothers? Those who DO the will of my 'Father' (Originator) which is in heaven." (He wasn't dis-ing His mother, but was using this as an opportunity to teach.)

Ones salvation is not in any other person, but in the believing and doing what is taught by them, and how well we follow those teachings.

Like those that claimed Abraham as their father. Christ said that in order to claim (Abraham) as father, they must DO the works of (Abraham,) otherwise one might think that the 'devil' is their 'father.'

It does no good in emulating Mother, then turn around and be a liar or a thief to the rest of the world. You do honor by doing what is taught, not by mere lip service.

I know what you mean. If one abides by the teachings of truth set forth by Mother, and love it as their own life, they can hardly go astray.

"Honor your father and your mother, to live long and prosper."
-loosely translated.

Answer 10

amina we all love our parents like me and u and every one specially in islam motherhood is given alot of respect and honour i am also muslim like u and i live in lahore i believe that if u go against the will of ur parents u will always suffer i met many people who suffer just because they make their parents unhappy i only got my mom because my father died years ago so i know how important my mom is for me nowadays girls and boys fell in love and get marry and dont care for their parents will they always suffer if their parents are not happy with their marriage