I graduated from high school a week ago and deciding on which University to attend out of state, (University of Nevada, Las Vegas or Portland State University) One of my sisters goes to college in Tennessee and the oldest one is a doctor in Nigeria. My sisters do not want me to leave CO because my mom is diabetes and once I leave she will be on her own. I DON'T want to stay in state or live at home forever. I DON'T get along with my mother, we are consisting fighting. If I stay at home with her much longer, I will either commit suicide or go crazy. But they do not understand this, their augment is that their mom adopted me when nobody wanted me and brought me to the US so I owe her that, but what about what I want or my happiness? My school is already closed so if I do start applying to college in CO, there's no way to send in my transcript, test scores or anything else. I don't want them to blame me if anything happens if i leave cuz i didn't stay. Any advices would be appreciated?
2007-05-26 09:50:30 · 7 answers · asked by Rose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what you want to do. You don't owe her anything. She's your mother and you can still love her, but for your own safety and sanity I think you should get out and go to college now. I mean your mother can take care of herself. I would go to a state where you want to go to, where you feel you would be most comfortable in. I know this situation can be tough, but it's not your duty to stay at home and help her, if something does happen and they blame you, you can point out that they are both her daughters as well, and where were they, you have a life to lead, and you appreciate what she did for you, but you've got to move on, don't let them take you on a guilt trip, there just trying to make you feel bad, so they won't have to come home and take care of her if she gets sick, move out and do what you want to do, you deserve a life as well. That's my opinion.
2007-05-26 09:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by rachel t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she adopted you, she choose you to be her daughter, not her nursemaid. I think you and your sisters should talk about ways to have your mom's needs taken care of while you're away at college. You have the same rights as they do to leave the nest but if you all work together you can make sure mom is watched over while you do it.
2007-05-26 10:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly point out that you re not the only daughter she has. You need to get out and have the same chance to start your own life that they did. Why can't the doctor sister move back and help your mom?
2007-05-26 10:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a problematical one... A scholarship is a staggering hazard and ought to open many doors for you - in terms of your destiny occupation. besides the undeniable fact that it could be a large step to go away your loved ones at the back of. you need to continually take the scholarship and get a job in Nevada to pay for flights decrease back to work out your loved ones each trip and for the summers. that ought to make it somewhat greater bearable. and you need to continually provide it a attempt and in simple terms bypass. once you're depressing as quickly as you get there b/c you're homesick - there is not any shame in coming decrease back homestead. a minimum of you isn't caught thinking what might have handed off in case you had long previous... I wish you the ideal of success - and need in spite of you identify works out for you :)
2016-11-05 11:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by wolter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this ... if they are so concerned ... one of them (the doctor) can easily move back home now and care for the Momma.....
As you (mom & you) are the tightest ... your gonna need to concentrate on your education..... go to school be all you can be .... Tell the sisters ... Tag !! one of you is it ... Your turn!
Good Luck.
2007-05-26 09:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's agencies you could call to check on your mom and help her . They are government run. Get her taken care of with them then go to whatever school you want.
2007-05-26 09:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them for being educated, they sure talk stupid. If they cared so much for mom, then how come neither of their asses are here to take care of her? No one appointed them your boss therefore they can consider themselves fired. And if they don't like it, then get their asses here and take care of everything themselves.
2007-05-26 11:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋