i am a very shy person ..i dont have girl friends ..i dont know how to talk to them or how to attract them.. i dont know how to move with them ...pls do help me
2007-05-26 09:27:46 · 17 answers · asked by vamshi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to take this one step and one day at a time, start by saying hello
2007-05-26 09:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, and get involved in an social activity-sports, outdoors-hiking, swimming, dancing...doesn't really matter, something you really enjoy.
You'll find someone with things in common that way. Don't try too hard, it's a turn off. Guys should put more effort into keeping the girl than trying to get her.
Invite a girl out as a friend first. Go for a beverage/ice cream and a walk.
Being shy, is something people get over as they get to know someone. It can be a good thing. You'll be more likely to find the right one, taking your time. Try to smile more and appear relaxed. It is less intimidating. Shy people often look depressed, sad or angry. It's not very inviting. If you appear content and comfortable, you'll seem warmer and more attractive.
Ask! The worse thing that can happen is she'll say no. Go on to the next, her loss. Chin up!
2007-05-26 16:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Naturenut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, girls are freaky little creatures. They know when you are just looking at them, or when you are checking them out. So needless to say, they know when you are trying to impress them. My opinion, girls who know your trying will brush you off or lead you on for their own good.
Stop looking stop trying to impress, just be. When you are trying to impress you are doing anything and everything except being yourself.
A girl who is impressed can also later be unimpressed, and soon looking for the next impressive guy.
Dont be afraid to look the fool. Some girls like that kind of vulnerability and see it as confidence. Shy? A girl is just a person...say 'Hi', comment on something going on around you, stay off politcs or religion at the start. Ask her a question, "Have you seen (movie or TV show)" Now she has to do the talking. If you say or do something stupid, admit it right there. Admit the fool in you, "Wow...that was stupid of me, what a dump question".
The key is to make a girl laugh and have fun. Show her you are interested in her. This will help to over-coming the shy part of you. If you ask her about her, she's doing the talking, not you. Combine those things and she will not only be impressed but interested.
You are not going to wake up one day with a girlfriend or wake up and not be shy. Its like a muscle...it only gets stronger when you use it. And like your muscle hurts after a workout...you might leave the conversation a little hurt but you've learned and are growing stronger.
2007-05-26 16:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, to impress a girl can be hard but try sending the most nicest poems to her without putting ur name on it, then wait on e week later to send a dozen of roses to her from a secret admirer, finally , the third week what I would do is invite her to a nice restaurant and meet her there to finally tell her that u r the one that r sending her the special treatment. It works because I did this to my wife not too long ago(2 years ago), we're married now. U would have to be careful on what u send her before the blind dinner date; in other words, u would have to know if she likes what u r sending her, OK? Good luck and hope this helps a lot???????
2007-05-26 16:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by ltnscorpionking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally. I like it when guys are funny and mess around with me. Like push me and stuff. I think its funny.
Just talk to them and get to know them just dont be annoying. Thats the worst thing you could do.
Hope I could help : ]
2007-05-26 16:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go on the Internet and join one of the dating sites you wont have to worry about been up close and personal and you will gain more confidence you could even join my space
2007-05-26 16:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be nice and make the first move dont wait or it might be to late..... just be nice... romantic that sort of thing... like when its cold if the girl says there cold give them your jacket dont just say me too haha
2007-05-26 16:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, dont try to impress them, just talk to them about normal stuff you like and ask their interests, and you'll find the perfect girl for you!
some girls like outgoing guys and some like shy...you'll be fine
(science, politics, movies, food, wild life, global warming, all this are good topics)
if you like dumb girls, then go for pop music, fashion, shopping and money, this girls are easier to impress
2007-05-26 16:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by diannatena 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just start talking and the attracting will follow
2007-05-26 16:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmkay, 1st off..wtf? lick ur eybrows? someone has no clue what hes talkin about, try just starting off with 'hey whats up'
get some of your friends to introduce you to their friends that are girls
2007-05-26 16:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by *chicka_chicka_boom_boom* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋